DD cruelly dumped by BF

Same. And I like to think I have raised a daughter who won't believe it is abusive or wrong to end a relationship.

I must have a very different DD to everyone else.

If I gave her a book on love and said “Do you feel empowered, darling?” She’d probably piss her herself laughing and make it into a running joke for the next 4 years

Sweet Jesus

Don't give him the satisfaction. It's embarrassing and only lets him know he hurt her lots, which he might like. It's also corny.

Or just teach her daughter that break ups don't make someone evil and that it's a kindness to end a relationship if it's not working.

All this man did is go through a wobbly patch at the end of a relationship and then finally end it. That doesn't make him nasty or awful or abusive.

OP, focus on encouraging your daughter to read

Women who love too much by Robin Norwood
Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft

And the www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

These will help her see clearly that he was a prick.

She should NEVER have taken him back after the first time he did it.

Education is power.
Help her feel empowered.

That's nuts. You dont send poems to DDs ex.

He wont agree with your view point. Won't understand the poem. Won't care about your perspective.

He doesnt owe your DD a relationship, hes allowed to leave her. Its ok it hurts and she needs you. Your job is to support her not reprimand him.

Keep your poetry fot people worth it

Exactly.
And tbh I think the kindest thing was to give op a robust head wobble. The idea of sending that poem was unhinged and would have harmed not helped her DD.

Or just chewing the fat about a very unusual suggestion by an OP!

Save your breath everyone. The poor op left this thread 5 pages ago after the first 5 pages of some really quite cruel replies. And a few sensible ones. But does no one read the OP’s posts before jumping in to comment?

😂 This reminds me... My late mother confessed that she'd taken to scrawling horrible messages on the envelopes of post that needed forwarded to an ex of mine. Luckily she didn't tell me until I could barely remember him.

No absolutely not.
How would you feel if he used it ridicule your daughter and her mother on social media and it became viral joke.

Please don't write any more poems, about anything.

I broke up with my first boyfriend when I was 19 and so was he. It was the second time I’d split up with him and he was utterly devastated

The fact he actually stalked me afterwards to the point the police got involved was probably not helped by his family being dramatic rather than a calming force.

His mum told me he’d “never love again!” (Please, he’s 19) and then one day she rang me to say she was in A&E as he’d taken an overdose of paracetamol. I felt really faint and guilty until I asked how many he’d taken. Eight. Eight paracetamol. I had enough at that point and said “Oh come on, I take 8 when I have a headache, that's not a suicide attempt it’s called attention seeking, never call me again”. She spent MONTHS telling people we both knew that I “Laughed when I found out he’d tried to commit suicide” 🙄

Whenever I think of him I pity the poor soul who went out with him after that and having to put up with this kind of nonsense.

Not saying your DD will be a stalker BTW OP just sharing the perils and unhelpfulness of parents who join in the chaos rather than bring the calm. Don’t get involved. You’ll end up being a story shared on Mumsnet in a few years time.

Don’t show it to her, honestly, just don’t. She will have to say nice things but be horrified. Most folks would.

No OP - like you, my mum has been quite affected by my past relationships, and WANTED to send things but never has. She blocks them to prevent herself!

Wait until your DD has recovered, then show it to her. The ex bf is a twat and wouldn't even understand it. Waster.

Is this the same DD who is having a boob job done? has it boosted her confidence?

I think at the age of 68, it's probably best for you to step away from the drama and let her get on with it. She doesn't need her mum ramping up the drama.

I agree, people have the right to split up with someone. I’d never bollock my children for ending a relationship, such a weird thing to do, unless they really want their kids to go NC!

I’m pleased you’ve seen sense OP.
its SO personal when people mistreat your kids isn’t it!

But let’s face it, he’d pass his round his mates as they pissed themselves laughing.

But he hardly deserves the demonising he is getting on this thread. It's common to wobble about your feelings for someone. It's common to miss someone after a break up. He made a mistake.

The daughter had a choice. She could have said no to getting back together. But she didn't.

Certainly not evil - but not good. I’d have had words with my DS25 if he did that.

Op is hardly an unbiased observer here is she?

It's completely human to wobble backwards and forwards in your feelings about someone at the break up stage.

Theres noting to indicate this man has done anything wrong at all.

It's kind of abhorrent to suggest people are awful just because they end a relationship. He wasn't going to be doing ops daughter a favour if he stayed with her when he wasn't happy.

Again another leap. She may have been more than happy to get back with him. I don’t really get all these assumptions people are making. And I’m fairly sure they got back together as they both wished to, and you don’t even know how long the second time lasted, seems the incompatibility didn’t resolve so it couldn’t go on. He doesn’t need to stay with her forever as they had a second go of it, and she does have a say, women are not brainless creatures who do men’s bidding;