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To think the justice system in the uk is absolutely shit

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Choclabratwatowner88 · 12/09/2025 22:55

So basically my mum works in a very well known supermarket local store, For the last 6 months a woman and her bloke have been coming in with thier kids and stealing, they report it and nothing is ever done, the last couple of weeks it’s escalated. The woman punched another customer in the face and one of the collegues too. Nothing was done. She’s still been coming in with her young kids who have also been stealing alongside her. Today she came in, my mum was working on the floor and relayed to another member of staff on the headset that ‘she’s back in stealing again’ ( she’d shoved half a dozen frozen items under her pushchair) she marched up to my mum and started threatening her, left non surprisingly not paying and then returned without her kids and started threatening my mum, who luckily managed to get behind the tills where it’s guarded. The police came out, took my mums statement and cctv. She’ll probably back in stealing again tomorrow. I told my mum if she does it again tomorrow to call me and I’ll be there in 30 seconds and we live relatively close. My mum told me her name and I searched her on socials, turns out she’s a parent of a boy my daughter was friends with at school. We’ve heard through the grapevine that apparently she’s on the verge of losing her kids, and tbh I think she should. I feel sorry for the kids but she is not a good role model is most likely leading them down a path of destruction. So she’s been allowed to keep coming to the the store harassing people because nothing is getting done. Then had to cheek to say to my mums colleague keep her away from me.
how about you fuck off out of the shop because she works there is what I would have said.
im actually livid. My mum is almost 58 with back problems. Going to work everyday, non of them get paid enough for this. I’ve seen it happening other places now and the only time they seem to care is if it ends in tragedy or badly. Because if she comes back and does something to my mum, I’ll unleash hell on her myself. I’m sure my brother wouldn’t hold back either. She’s a skatty bitch anyway. Always has been.

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Choclabratwatowner88 · 12/09/2025 23:20

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 12/09/2025 23:15

Why have you labelled this thread about the justice system being shit?
The police attended and took a statement and CCTV, assuming they know who the woman is they will arrest her and hopefully prosecute her?
Then it will be down to the criminal justice system to see if she is convicted.

At this stage the police have done what they need to do?

The rest of your thread is about this woman and her awful behaviour and her poor children?

well yeah it is really, because she has been reported several times before and nothing has been done. Because if it had she wouldn’t be coming in everyday causing a nuisance. It’s like the reports just vanish into think air. This happened years ago with a young lad aswell that was causing issues in stores all over the town, 100’s of reports to police about him and nothing was done. He actually pushed my mum. It only stopped because he moved away.

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DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 12/09/2025 23:15

Why have you labelled this thread about the justice system being shit?
The police attended and took a statement and CCTV, assuming they know who the woman is they will arrest her and hopefully prosecute her?
Then it will be down to the criminal justice system to see if she is convicted.

At this stage the police have done what they need to do?

The rest of your thread is about this woman and her awful behaviour and her poor children?

SallySuperTrooper · 12/09/2025 23:11

The apologists are here already...'poor them, think about them, they'll never think about you...but you must prioritise them!'

Grumpyrager · 12/09/2025 23:09

ninjahamster · 12/09/2025 23:02

I guess we just never know what is going on in other people’s lives. Your mum certainly does not deserve any abuse and I totally understand why you are so angry.
I guess maybe they steal as they have no money? Not excusing it but I just wonder what any of us would do if we couldn’t feed our children.
I hope your mum is ok and I hope the store put in adequate protection measures for her. There shouldn’t be any need for you to go down and get involved.

I just can’t agree with this. It doesn’t matter what’s going on in her life. There is nothing to be gained by threatening OP’s mum, who’s nearly 60. There is no excuse for that. None whatsoever. Most shoplifting is done by aggressive and antisocial twats, not people who are desperate.

Choclabratwatowner88 · 12/09/2025 23:09

ninjahamster · 12/09/2025 23:02

I guess we just never know what is going on in other people’s lives. Your mum certainly does not deserve any abuse and I totally understand why you are so angry.
I guess maybe they steal as they have no money? Not excusing it but I just wonder what any of us would do if we couldn’t feed our children.
I hope your mum is ok and I hope the store put in adequate protection measures for her. There shouldn’t be any need for you to go down and get involved.

Don’t get me wrong, I get the stealing if you have no money, I don’t agree with it, but I understand it, but most people just have to pay, but the aggressiveness and teaching your kids to steal is not necessary. And I’m not saying she is but I’ve seen people prioritise drugs, alcohol etc over food for thier kids.

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Grumpyrager · 12/09/2025 23:07

She isn’t fit to be the parent of those kids. She’s teaching them to habitually shoplift. Report her to social services.

ninjahamster · 12/09/2025 23:02

I guess we just never know what is going on in other people’s lives. Your mum certainly does not deserve any abuse and I totally understand why you are so angry.
I guess maybe they steal as they have no money? Not excusing it but I just wonder what any of us would do if we couldn’t feed our children.
I hope your mum is ok and I hope the store put in adequate protection measures for her. There shouldn’t be any need for you to go down and get involved.

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