Attending A&E when no one to look after child after school

Can a friends parent not pick him up and have him for dinner? Class WhatsApp group? I'd do it for someone in our group, even if I didn't know them.

As she has worsening chest pain it dosent matter that she is already under cardiology. She would be advised to go to A & E

She has worsening chest pain. A & E is absolutely appropriate.

As the OP says, chest pain

Is that based on extensive medical training or something else? OP is experiencing worsening chest pain. A & E is absolutely the correct place.

@UserUserUser12 It just doesn’t sound to me like she does, the likelihood is she’ll wait for hours, have an ECG and a blood test to check the levels that would be raised if she’d had a heart attack (forgot the name of the levels they look for) and send her on her way. But hopefully it will put her mind at rest and they won’t find anything sinister going on, so it may be worth going actually

Good luck, I hope you get seen quickly and they are able to send you home.
In the longer term, talk to school as well and see if they can help you with getting some support or contingency plans in place, it’s so scary when you are stuck and I feel for you xxx

It would be natural if you were a bit over anxious about your health. I know I was after DH died, and I felt the overwhelming pressure of being the only one DC had left, what happens to them if the same thing happens to me? etc.

Only when you sure you are okay after A&E have checked you out.

Speak with the school SENCO.

I am suggesting this as I was contacted my the SENCO as they knew I had an eDBS, checked out with social services and had a mum going frantic with one very sick child in a regional children’s and a very autistic child who no one would help with. They had no nearby family and mum was single parent and autistic too. School knew my house had been adapted for severe autism needs and it was a horrible situation the mum found herself in. I stepped in to help by looking after said child every day after school till 8pm till younger child was off the critical list and recovering post op. Yes it was tough going but I know it made a difference and I continued to pick said child up when younger child was back in for extra surgery so mum could spend the day with them.

If the school does not have something similar they may be able to signpost you to safe local support you might not know about.

Why?

I'm so sorry to hear of yours and your children's bereavement last year OP. You are in the middle of the worst of times. A year is not much time for managing the first shock and grief of such a loss.

I'm glad you are having your heart checked out at the hospital. It is best to get hospital monitoring/treatment fast with something that could be so serious!
You probably know that grief can manifest as (absolutely real) physical chest pain even when nothing else is wrong. (Heartache is not as poetic as it sounds.) I hope that this is the cause of yours and that it is nothing to add to the troubles you already have.

I would help with your children if you were near me OP - and I'm sure that I'm not the only one. People you know a little might step in - if allowed to. People can be kinder than you think.

We are all humans surviving on the surface of the earth and vulnerable to the unexpected. When things are difficult - you sometimes get to see the fellow-feeling that is out there, even for those who are not friends (yet).

Good luck OP. I know exactly what it’s like. My dc are both autistic too as am I, it’s always hard to find someone to help and someone you can trust with your dc. Hopefully you won’t be hanging around for long.

Glad that you are sorted and going to be seen.

It isn’t easy on your own and the posters saying that if you are ok to be posting that you are obviously ok (and I really hope that you are) might want to update their medical training.

Glad you’ve got something sorted and getting seen.
A lot of people don’t realise how many of us have no one to ask in these situations.

Social services would have to step in if you were admitted and genuinely was no-one.

Phone the school and explain and they will help you sort something, even if it’s just to put him in after school club until he can be picked up by his sister.

I'd collect him a bit early from school and take him to A&E with you.

Going forward you need a plan.

• Join the WhatsApp group. Yes they can be annoying but it's a network of parents. You need to build a network. You sound too isolated.

• Does your son have some best friends at school? Invite some friends over after school for dinner etc. You need to meet some other parents who could have your son after school for a while if needed. It's easier to ask for that kind of favour if their child has been to your house and you know them a bit already.

• If there's no suitable parents/friends find a childminder who does school pick ups and ask if she could do any ad hoc emergency pick ups if ever needed. At 10 she can look after your son without exceeding Ofsted maximum numbers.

I hope it's all OK and you feel better soon.

Get a taxi to school, pick up your son and take him to A&E with you?

Get the issue as a sole carer no help etc parent. My kids are now of age that they’d be ok in this situation which helps but if I was admitted it would be another question. So I do get it but you have to find a solution either solo or ask for help. No help comes otherwise

I’m not sure what kind of response you are looking for here?

nothings seemingly helpful.

it’s an emergency if you need to go to A&E. You need to go to hospital via taxi, collect son on the way. Then daughter comes to hospital however which way and gets taxi home again.

you have options here

Ring a taxi, go to the school to collect him & then taxi to A&E if you feel you need to go

If you really think you need to be at A&E you go to school, pick him up early and then take him with you if there's no one else, that's what happens.
Best to decide on a course of action and just make the best of it so you aren't adding more anxiety to your problem.

I would try to get seen by the GP. have you called them to see if they can fit you in? They should be able to do an ECG.

If OP calls 111, they'll send an ambulance. Of course worsening chest pains are A&E. It could well not be anything of concern, but no one here knows that.