To dislike most people nowadays ?

OP never came back?
I wanted to say yabu because being intolerant and possibly arrogant are not virtues.

I find it this too. I climb and dive and men on the crags and at the water are always very polite and kind to me- I would even use the word chivalrous. I am always polite and gracious back. I really do believe manners are important.

I work in the community supporting older adults. The ones that think the world is full of dickheads to are are often most isolated.

It is fine to enjoy your own company, but it is not okay to write off most of society as 'dickheads', I would work on that before it becomes too late, and your hate becomes a large part of your personality. In your 60s, 70s and beyond, you are going to need people - old age can be awfully lonely.

This. I generally like most people in small groups or individually but en masse humans are dickheads. Traffic jams- most people in those cars on an individual basis can drive but put them en masse in heavy traffic they drive like dickheads bunching up and cutting people up. Humans are good when everyone has enough resources but take those away….. personally I am happy to make small talk and can find things in common with most people but I have a small circle of close friends for over 30 years and it is how I like it.

@VoltaireMittyDream

My theory is that people who get along easily with everyone don’t have very well-developed spidey senses, and can’t tell when people around them are unstable or antisocial in subtle ways

Or maybe we can but we choose to give people the benefit of the doubt?

I have as much hard-wired prejudice as the next person and I make snap judgments. But I have had to unwind so many judgments in the past based on people defying the prejudice I had that I have learned my lesson.

Sometimes the people who wind you up the most when you first meet them go on to be lifelong friends and the people you thought were perfect for you are cynical users. First impressions are not always right.

I had a friend like that. She unfriended me due to my "strong" opinions 🤣 She was convinced that after 'over a 100 hours of research' (on google) she had discovered that doctors know that vaccines are dangerous and doctors across the world are collaborating to hide the truth from the rest of us. She sent me links to a site run by Dr Mercola (who does actually have a bonafide medical degree) who coincidentally can sell you a pill or potion to solve every problem. Despite the fact that she has TWO degrees (law and psychology) she couldn't see that because Dr Mercola stands to benefit financially, his advice might be biased ..... or even totally and utterly wrong.

This friend used to be interested in Buddhism, yoga and meditation. She had lots of friends from many different countries. I really admired her open-mindedness. Now she is blaming all the world's problems on immigration and is incredibly racist. It's amazing how much somebody can change.

I think by the time you’re 40 you have enough data that you can spot patterns, and it’s easier to identify a dickhead-in-waiting before they have the chance to prove their dickheadedness beyond reasonable doubt.

My theory is that people who get along easily with everyone don’t have very well-developed spidey senses, and can’t tell when people around them are unstable or antisocial in subtle ways.

Possibly because they grew up in safe and secure environments where you didn’t have to start from the assumption that most people around you were volatile or dreadfully moody or a bit insane, and work out how not to trigger them.

But once you’re familiar with the little signs that someone has it in them to be mercenary or controlling or manipulative or sadistic or just a plain old emotional vampire, you can’t unsee them.

I don’t think most people are dickheads, as it happens. But just as I can spot dickheads, they instantly recognise me as someone who was raised by dickheads, and groomed to meet their needs, and so they make a beeline for me wherever I go.

So I tend to keep a low profile! I stick with the few people I am 100% certain are not dickheads.

I do believe as we get older our bs meter gets better. Our patience for stupidity and ignorance gets less. Your circle naturally gets smaller. I think k if you are happy by yourself there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Find your people. Don't totally become a recluse and I think you are fine. Being ok, being alone doesn't mean you closed yourself off. I like to think of it as refining our palate.

It means discerning. There is a difference.

Totally agree with this list, and could add more - but don't agree that everyone is on 'this list'.

Old and grumpy does not equal wise

A lot of my friends are turning increasingly right wing.
I'm not going to surround myself with morons. They're gone.

A lot of people at the moment misuse the word introversion when they actually mean misanthropy.

I agree. It happens a lot on here.

All the introverts I know actually like other people. They just need more down time alone.

A lot of people at the moment misuse the word introversion when they actually mean misanthropy.

I agree. It happens a lot on here.

All the introverts I know actually like other people. They just need more down time alone.

@Ownedbykitties

I don't agree. Some people just don't enjoy being around other people. Some people do. We are all different and there's room for everyone. You could subvert what you are saying and say that people who can't get by without being around lots of other people cannot tolerate their own company and rely on others to make them feel whole.

I am not talking about people who like a quiet life and avoid big social gatherings, I am talking specifically about people who claim to “dislike people” or “hate people”. Its a very different thing.

A lot of people at the moment misuse the word introversion when they actually mean misanthropy.

I agree OP, I think it comes with being older and wiser.

No I don't agree. Some people just don't enjoy being around other people. Some people do. We are all different and there's room for everyone. You could subvert what you are saying and say that people who can't get by without being around lots of other people cannot tolerate their own company and rely on others to make them feel whole.

@JNicholson

So if most African-Americans in the pre-civil rights period disliked most of the people in their society, who wanted to deny them full civil rights as human beings, is that a sign of something quite sad within themselves? Or a sign of something quite sad outside of themselves?

But that’s an entire group of people with a very legitimate grievance because they were enslaved and forced to live without proper democratic rights for a century and still have poorer outcomes now.

You can hardly compare that to professional misanthropes who don’t like to open the door to strangers and “hate people” (generically) without any societal context.

Your views are very interesting
God Bless You
I think it takes great confidence & self assurance to be's you've described yourself
It seems you just really enjoy your own company, which is different from disliking folks
The only thing which would worry me, is my dear Mum always brought up my Brother & I with the belief, No Man's An Island Kind of always presumed we all need some friends - However, She also firmly expressed You're Better To Be Lonesome Than Have Bad Company - which most surely, I've found to be so true
So I believe it's all about balance
Wishing you the utmost very best

I like a small number of people. Most people irritate me. I’m an introvert and relish time alone/ with the few people I am totally relaxed with. Age def a factor - feel content

Nah, I’m in my early 40s and this hasn’t happened to me at all. I really like lots of people and I think that’s why I enjoy life - people out and about are mostly really lovely to me and I always appreciate that and feel lucky. 🍀 I don’t think being miserable and looking down on people is a great way to act in a community, we all need to look out for one another.

I'm 35 and I can't stand most people I've felt like this for a very long time lol. Im very introverted and only love the company of my family, I get asked if I feel lonely without having a best friend or friends in general and honestly no I love going home from work, getting cozy and gaming/spending games night with my family.

I'm in my 70s and really hope I don't become jaded with people. I'm happy in my own company, but at ease with others. I have come to realise that as you get older you will reach a point where you may well need to rely on others. Believing people are dickheads in general is not going to help you much if you need others later on.

I work in a customer facing role and it has made me really dislike people. Oh, I'll be polite to them at work but in general I now feel that most people I meet are rude, entitled and actually really boring.

I like my own clan, and I have a few great friends. Otherwise I now go about my days off avoiding eye contact with people and just minding my own business until I get home.