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Grown man just shouted at DD2

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Pinkypantspurple · 12/09/2025 12:06

We are on our third train. 5 hours into a journey . I have DD2 and DD3.
Colouring, reading , toy animals. A few goggles and the odd roar from the toy dinosaurs !
I just had to take both to the toilet to DD who was 2 this month could have her nappy changed. There was a tiny cubicle and as I laid her head on the floor ( no facilities ) she came distressed and scared which was made worse by the handier going off .

We returned to our seats and she was crying for 90 seconds and then she did let out a scream .

A grown man aged 45? 50 shouted for ‘For God sake shut up!’
I was agog.

The children have been quiet as mice for the past half an hour .
They Are 2 and 3 and I think they have behaved so well . I have sat on trains webere children have giggled or cried or babies cried non stop and I have and would never shout.

I feel upset and angry and annoyed . AIBU?

OP posts:
Francestein · 12/09/2025 12:14

Waiting for someone to say that he was neurodiverse…

pikkumyy77 · 12/09/2025 12:12

DaisyChain505 · 12/09/2025 12:09

I’m sure there’s a truth somewhere in the middle of your version and his version.

You saying your kids have been quiet as mice sounds dramatic and probably isn’t the actual truth. Kids are far more annoying to strangers and their parents seem to not notice how bad their noise levels or behaviour actually is.

However none of this excuses someone shouting at your children.

Why run through all that process first? He had no right to shout at them. Full stop.

SparklyGlitterballs · 12/09/2025 12:11

Of course you're not unreasonable OP. Your DD is just 2 and unable to regulate her emotions yet. This man is an adult and, as annoying as it can be to hear a child cry and scream, even for a short period, he should not have been so vile and rude. Sounds like you're doing a good job keeping them amused during a long and tiring journey. Don't let this wanker's behaviour upset you.

Itstheshowgirl · 12/09/2025 12:11

I’m afraid to say I would have gone totally off on one if a grown man shouted at my toddler, I don’t give a fuck how annoying he found them. Children are people and have the right to exist in public places, don’t like it get a fucking taxi.

DaisyChain505 · 12/09/2025 12:09

I’m sure there’s a truth somewhere in the middle of your version and his version.

You saying your kids have been quiet as mice sounds dramatic and probably isn’t the actual truth. Kids are far more annoying to strangers and their parents seem to not notice how bad their noise levels or behaviour actually is.

However none of this excuses someone shouting at your children.