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To cope and take comfort from the fact everything is pointless and in 100 years we’ll be dust

139 replies

Ramalam · 11/09/2025 22:39

I have a very stressful job. My coping mechanism is to stop, consider that in the grand scheme of the world everything I’m doing is utterly pointless, and that in 100 years I’ll be dead and none of this will matter one jot?

I used to live opposite a graveyard and it was full of people who had lives full of hopes, fears, ambitious, happiness, sadness. And now none of it matters; it died with them. So best not to
worry.

I don’t know what I’m asking - is this unreasonable or weird?

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SpigTheFish · 11/09/2025 23:00

This is my philosophy. I find it very comforting.

None of it matters in the grand scheme of things.

Enjoy the ride.

Dogaredabomb · 11/09/2025 22:55

I also think about the possibility that we are ants to God and God to ants and that there are many things that are unknowable so it's better if I just relax.

Selflessness · 11/09/2025 22:53

Absolutely.
I also like that time passes - amazing day or shit. Its all gone one hour at a time.

Dogaredabomb · 11/09/2025 22:52

I am very much like this, it really makes me feel very cheerful 😂 but I do think it's a feature of being a teenager in the 80s. Cheerful nihilsm 🤷🏼‍♂️

WhyDoesItAlways · 11/09/2025 22:52

I was saying exactly this to someone today. Every time I go through something stressful, particularly at work I have to remind myself that in the huge scheme if things it doesn't matter.

I think I heard it take something like 3 generations for you to become nothing but a dot on someone's genealogy chart.

Thefastandthecurious5 · 11/09/2025 22:51

I often think that too, and find it a big comfort! Until it panics me and I think I’d better do something that matters in the time I have left 🤣 but then get lulled back into that sense of comfort. I do find it helpful as a way of calming me down when I’m overthinking things.

SpringIsSprung1 · 11/09/2025 22:50

Totally agree

RosesAndHellebores · 11/09/2025 22:50

No, because my legacy will remain. In 100 years I hope my grandchildren and great grandchildren will be smiling at and loving their grandchildren.

Screamingabdabz · 11/09/2025 22:48

I think this is quite a common soothing mechanism. YANBU.

Timeforabitofpeace · 11/09/2025 22:47

True and none of us can take it with us.

RaininSummer · 11/09/2025 22:45

Sounds quite realistic to me.

JacknDiane · 11/09/2025 22:44

Its so true @Ramalam

GimmieABreakOr3 · 11/09/2025 22:43

Nihilist

Myfridgeiscool · 11/09/2025 22:41

It’s true.
I'll not bother doing the hoovering or worry about my high cholesterol level tomorrow.