RSV season warning in family chat

Wow, how childish.

If an adult said don't kiss them, are they bonkers and rude?

Thanks it happened in 1998 so many years ago.❤️
i just don’t understand why the OP doesn’t just respect the mums wishes.

Your SIL sounds bonkers and rude - but it’s really easy just not to kiss children to be fair.

No it’s not 🤷‍♀️

Yet the stubborn obtuse posters who think it is "just a cold" refuse to believe it.

RSV is the single commonest reason for hospital admission in under one’s.

It is a bit OTT but RSV is extremely scary so don’t blame her to be feeling that way. Maybe keep your kisses to yourself for a few months!

My daughter was a healthy baby then almost died of RSV. Its a horrible disease.

RSV is the common cold.

No it isn't @WhereAreMyAirpods . It has been explained many times on this thread what it is.

Respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) is a major respiratory virus that is common over the winter period, typically November to February. While the symptoms are mild for many, RSV accounts for around 30,000 hospitalisations of children under 5 in the UK annually, and for 20 to 30 infant deaths.
RSV can also be severe in older adults, causing pneumonia and flare-ups of existing lung disease and other long-term conditions. It causes around 9,000 hospitalisations in those aged over 75 in the UK each year.

She is their mum and whether you think it’s over the top or not it really isn’t your call to make.

My then 14 month old was seriously ill with RSV last year, and it was actually the second time he had caught it. His first episode at 2 months old was also bad but not as bad as when he was 14 months.

Young children can still get ill from it.

Was it a respiratory virus? If so how do you know it was a kiss that did it?

Kisses to babies and children can be deadly. My DD ended up in hospital from a kiss as a newborn and it could of been a lot more serious. Babies have died of meningitis due to kisses. Surely you wouldn’t want to be respondible for that.

I bet you’re one of those people who think pox parties should still be a thing. There are posters on here telling you that their children died because of RSV and because you clearly dislike your SIL and are unable to maintain a simple boundary, you’ve made yourself look callous and frankly, a bit fucking weird.

I was wondering this. Isn't it airborne rather than spread through contact?
I don't trust NHS on this as they were ignoring ventilation and advocating washing hands even after 2 years of covid.
This doesn't affect the main issue which is that OP refusing to babysit her DNs unless she can kiss them, is bonkers behaviour.

@shuuush I'm so sorry. I hope that your post helps the op reflect💐

I spent hours upon hours with DD5 in hospital, unable to manage her fever or HR. Watching her seizure.
She has no underlying health conditions, she just got very poorly whenever she caught a virus.
I feel exactly the same way about exposing my current baby to any unnecessary germs as a result. Small children can be massively negatively affected by simple viruses.
It's not worth the risk. Don't kiss your nephews, it's no benefit to them at all.

Perhaps, you should stop if a simple boundary is difficult.

I will never understand being offended about not being able to kiss a baby/small child especially when their parents have said not to regardless if you agree with the reasoning or not.

I wouldn’t bat an eye or be offended if my SILs said not to kiss their children. Probably because I don’t anyway and think it is likely they have said this to everyone when really there are specific people who probably go a bit overboard but they don’t want to call anyone out.

Please God no...

I think it's really unfair when Mums who are just following the current health recommendations get dismissed as batshit on here, this isn't the first time I've seen it happen.

I don't understand the pushback that you'd rather not see them than not kiss them, that seems really extreme to me like you're more bothered by a perceived insult than actually seeing and spending time with these children. Why not just do what the parents ask?

RSV is horrid. Yes her DC will get exposure to all sorts at nursery, but there's no point adding to the likelihood of them catching something - all the more reason to try to limit illnesses from elsewhere. I just don't see a need to kiss anyone else's DC. No need to take it personally.

RSV is dangerous for babies, they vaccinate pregnant women for it as it was the main cause of admissions to resp wards for babies for a good few years running

Mad or not in your opinion, kids can't consent and adults do it (or withhold it) on their behalf.

You don't have consent. End of.

What has kissing got to do with RSV? Does it spread differently from other respiratory infections? Which would be any kind of close contact / breathing on the child. I don't think saliva on unbroken skin would pass RSV on to a child, but speaking to them up close or hugging with your faces close together surely would. It's a bit arbitrary to ban kissing.

Has the messaging gotten mixed up with the advice for prevention of HSV (Herpes) which is primarily spread by kisses?