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DH eager to be proven right

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Puel · 11/09/2025 16:56

I have health anxiety and so obviously I can be a little paranoid about my health. DH gets furious at me saying I’m wasting GPs time etc and everytime I’m waiting for results (for genuine diagnosed health issues) he sits there waiting to be proven right that it’s all in my head.

I had some bloods taken yesterday, partly to check on my anaemia but also to check for coeliac disease. DH is eagerly awaiting the results so he can throw it in my face that I’m wasting Dr time. I have actually been diagnosed with chronic anaemia with no indication of why. DH says when thundercracker 6 comes back he wants me to admit that it’s all in my head.

I admit I have health anxiety but telling me not to be anxious is like telling an arachnophobiac to not be scared of spiders. AIBU to simply stop talking to him about any health issues I may or may not have as he clearly can’t bring himself to be supportive or understanding

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ComfortFoodCafe · 11/09/2025 18:10

Hes being a dick. I was very unwell for years, had problems with my joints dislocating, long hostipal admissions & had tremors etc nothing came back till one day I got a diagnosis of Ehlers Danlos syndrome and other things. Took them over a decade to work out what was wrong.

chipsandpeas · 11/09/2025 18:07

hes being a cunt

HoskinsChoice · 11/09/2025 18:06

He's behaving like a dick and handling your anxiety very badly. Maybe he's trying to help but just going about a horribly wrong way.

At the same time, there may be some truth in you taking up NHS time unnecessarily. As others have said, if you're not already, get some help. Helping yourself might help your relationship.

BunfightBetty · 11/09/2025 16:59

What's he doing to actually help you?

Can you have therapy?

dddilemma · 11/09/2025 16:58

Is it health anxiety or do you know something isn't quite right? I felt unwell for years, it was blamed on lots of things, mostly anxiety/IBS. Always negative for coeliac for 15 years until last year! Awaiting endoscopy now but looks very likely.

He is being a dick.

Coldnightsapproachingwhereismyduvet · 11/09/2025 16:57

Sorry you are having health issues... I do know one way to massively improve your mh.
Ltb and don't look back.

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