DH eager to be proven right

Honestly my sister has health anxiety and it's very hard on the whole family. Every time we meet up she tells me she thinks she has cancer/heart issues/ibs/lymphoma etc. I spend most of the conversation reassuring her that she doesn't but then I'm driving home worrying about maybe she does have something terrible and I'm worried too until the gp tests scans etc tell her she doesn't and then the cycle starts all over again.
i know it's worse for her but it does impact the family as well .

I wondered if it was another username OP goes by on here

This. Although my SIL also has extreme health anxiety and my brother has supported her and enabled her anxiety to the point that she cannot easily leave the house for fear of germs and being too close to other people. She wears headphones and a mask at work to keep everyone at arms length. He sorted food deliveries so she never has to visit a supermarket. If work has to be done on anything in the house she hides upstairs until they've gone so he has to deal with them. He spends every family event by her side and constantly says " Are you okay? ". They only eat out once in a blue moon and only of a specific outdoor table can be booked. You may not like how your husband behaves but being soft with you would have done you no favours either. Counselling is your best bet Op.

I had an iron infusion a couple of years ago and the specialist said he will infuse patients with a ferritin level of 50 or less if they have symptoms. Ferritin of 15 isn't even NHS normal!

This. usual from me, what does he bring to the party?

And the only cure is amputation.

Then that is still way too low. You should still be taking ferrous sulphate or fumerate every other day with vit C and avoiding caffeine/dairy for at least an hour either side. Even the NICE guidelines stipulate it should be at least 30 and anything under is indicative of deficiency.

I used to share a house with someone who had (self diagnosed) health anxiety, as well as many other self diagnosed conditions. She was lovely otherwise. But my God, living with her hearing the endless worry over every slight ailment was torture.
Not saying that's you, and if you're genuinely ill and worried then you're not wasting the GPs tim. If you are not like her then your DH should be supporting you, if you are and it's your utter focus and all you can seem to think and talk about then maybe focus on trying to treat the health anxiety.

What were the actual results? Nhs normal is not optimal for example ferritin needs to be at least 70 for hair growth etc but gp will mark it normal at 20.

Check the actually number as there is a difference between it been optimal and in range.

Maybe you need private blood tests to get to the bottom of whats wrong. NHS “normal” is not optimal health

I was wondering this too. Anyone know?

@Puel my adult DD has health anxiety and whilst I feel for her, it is exhausting - constant texting and bombarding me with questions about what she thinks could be cancer/MS/heart attack etc. I try to reassure her but it’s impossible as her anxiety takes over. I’ve suggested therapy for it but she then says I don’t believe her about her symptoms or I’m not supportive.

I hope you can get help to free you from your anxiety. Also - I would say your DH is being a bit of a dick but maybe he’s reached the end of his tether with it?

My exH was exactly the same, note the EX. Turns out I had congenital hip dysplasia that had never been picked up as a child and needed two hip replacements and metal plates in my pelvis at a fairly young age to fix it.
He used to whinge and complain about me not being able to keep up with him on long walks. Arsehole, he's gone now.

Living with someone with Health Anxiety, OCD, Intrusive thoughts etc, must be really exhausting.
I’m not defending his behaviour, and I’m mindful that we have your side of this situation only.

This is what I was going to say too. Hopefully now your results are normal you can relax a little and definitely try and get some therapy for it, anxiety is really debilitating.

So your DH is right?

Living with someone with Health Anxiety, OCD, Intrusive thoughts etc, must be really exhausting.

I’m not defending his behaviour, and I’m mindful that we have your side of this situation only.

He need to learn his best to support you, at the moment he’s hoping that by continually pointing out “there’s nothing wrong with you”, all of this goes away (it doesn’t)

He needs to learn how to support you, without enabling you. You need to get some therapy .. if you can.

Is your health anxiety about one particular thing that is ongoing but undiagnosed, or more widespread?

Are you sure that the health anxiety is not a symptom of a wider psychological issue being caused by close proximity to someone making you feel stupid, unstable, paranoid etc.?

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I would either tell him my GP has said I need to loose weight, about 90 kilos (whatever he weighs) as it’s dragging me down.

My Ex was like this. He called me a hypochondriac despite me having evidence of my autoimmune disease. BUT if HE was ill, the whole world had to stop.

Tell him you have been diagnosed with 'Your Partner is an arsehole' syndrome. A very real and disgusting ailment for which you have your Dr's greatest sympathy.

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