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To feel so upset - pigeon

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Swimfiend · 11/09/2025 14:58

Just on my way to a meeting for work in central London. Got utterkyndrenched in the downpour and saw a completely soaked pigeon on the side of the road. Poor thing looked really wet and bedraggled. I watched it and it couldn’t fly, it kept trying to and limping. As I watched it moved closer to the middle of the road. I didn’t have anything to pick it up with and I thought maybe I should pick it up with my hands but then would I have taken it to this meeting.

as I watched it a car ran over and killed it. I just feel really upset. And maybe I should have moved it. There was nothing I could use but maybe I should have used my hands.

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SeaAndStars · 12/09/2025 10:31

I'm so sorry you had to see such an upsetting thing OP. You have such a good heart to care about this little creature.

It's so hard to bear but it was a quick and final ending and much better than the poor sick bird suffering on quietly for days.

DiscoBob · 12/09/2025 10:11

It is out of its misery at least. Injured birds who can't fly are in pain and simply too vulnerable to survive. I always wondered if a vet would accept a pigeon? I mean I guess they would if you agreed to pay for it's care?

I saw one getting run over once and it was really sad. It's mate was distraught, frantically looking for it all around. Some guy from a restaurant just picked it up in a sweeping thing and binned it.

I always thought I didn't really care about pigeons, but that day I realised I did.

BauhausOfEliott · 12/09/2025 09:51

It’s always sad to see an animal in difficulty like that and I’d have been upset too. I love pigeons. But honestly… a quick death was probably the best thing for it, welfare-wise. Birds are hard to rehabilitate and it was clearly suffering - although it’s horribly distressing to see, it would have been killed instantly by the car which probably saved it from several days of further suffering.

Swimfiend · 12/09/2025 09:21

Just feeling incredibly sad this morning. I keep thinking about it, not knowing it was going to die just before it did and struggling in the rain.

I'm sorry for all of you who also have witnessed something similar and thank you for the kind comments.

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Vitriolinsanity · 11/09/2025 22:25

I hit a pigeon with my car this week. I turned around and drove back over it’s poor body as I couldn’t think about letting it suffer. Than I cried all the way to work.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 11/09/2025 22:25

parietal · 11/09/2025 15:10

I'm in London and have seen several dead pigeons in the road recently. i'm wondering if it might be bird flu because it doesn't seem normal. The pigeon you saw might also have been ill.

don't cry for a pigeon - it died quickly and without knowing what was happening.

Weirdly I have seen two dead pigeons this week and I'm nowhere near London. I don't recall ever seeing a dead pigeon on the road before.

SouthernBelle21 · 11/09/2025 22:23

Bagsintheboot · 11/09/2025 15:18

Without meaning to be callous, if it couldn't fly and was limping then the car killing it may have been the best outcome. Either that or a fox would get it or it would carry on living in pain.

Yeah, it's horrible, but this is true. It sounded like it was poorly/injured anyway.

crumpetswithcheeze · 11/09/2025 22:09

ShodAndShadySenators · 11/09/2025 21:48

Isn't avian flu still a huge issue at the moment? We have signage around local ponds stating what to do if you see a clearly ill or dead bird around. Actually handling them is not recommended! It's worth remembering also that animals will try to disguise and hide symptoms of illness, so if a bird actually looks really ill it's most likely at death's door with very little to be done.

I feel for you, it's not nice to see but it was at least a quick dispatch for an animal that was probably desperately sick.

Yes, you’re correct it’s still very much around, but much more common in waterfowl. Whilst pigeons can get it, they don’t tend to spread the virus as much. I would take precautions by handwashing after touching a pigeon, but it wouldn’t worry me too much otherwise.

Stardust286 · 11/09/2025 22:08

I would be upset too. In fact last week I was watching as a pigeon flew into the road and was pecking trying to find food and a car came and bang, I closed my eyes but there were a lot of feathers and no pigeon in sight.
Also the other year we were feeding the ducks and one female duck came running across the canal bridge for food as a car came over and killed it. I was heartbroken and haven't fed them there again since!
It's hard not to get upset

Keepingthingsinteresting · 11/09/2025 22:04

Squishydishy · 11/09/2025 15:18

Probably for the best.

in all honesty I would be relieved if the biggest issue I had to worry about was a dead pigeon…

Aren’t you a charmer. The op was upset, have some fucking empathy.

ShodAndShadySenators · 11/09/2025 21:48

Isn't avian flu still a huge issue at the moment? We have signage around local ponds stating what to do if you see a clearly ill or dead bird around. Actually handling them is not recommended! It's worth remembering also that animals will try to disguise and hide symptoms of illness, so if a bird actually looks really ill it's most likely at death's door with very little to be done.

I feel for you, it's not nice to see but it was at least a quick dispatch for an animal that was probably desperately sick.

crumpetswithcheeze · 11/09/2025 21:48

I can sympathise, I have been in a similar situation myself. Pigeons don’t tend to be affected by bird flu in the way other birds are. It sounded like this bird was very poorly and likely wouldn’t have made it anyway, but if you see a pigeon in the future you think you can help, catch it by throwing a coat or other item of clothing over it, and contain in a box or even open topped bag, held together loosely to allow air flow. Pigeons aren’t wild birds, the ones that live in town centres are feral domesticated pigeons, so the offspring of racing pigeons that never made it home, so they tend not to panic and flap as much as other types. London Wildlife Protection are a fantastic charity, who do rescues, rehabbing etc.

I love pigeons, and I hate the vitriol they receive for just existing. Thank you for caring about this little one.

Baby26 · 11/09/2025 21:45

I know it isn't nice to witness but I would feel relieved if an animal, which is struggling with being poorly/injured is quickly put out of its misery like that. Better a quick death than suffering.

Mrsplants · 11/09/2025 21:43

Swimfiend · 11/09/2025 17:19

Thank you for all your kind comments. I have been googling what to do and found some wildlife rescues but not local to central London which is where this was.

I feel sad. I feel I did just leave the pigeon to die, maybe I should have tried to shuffle it back onto the pavement.

You may be interested to join the London Pigeon Stringfoot and Rescue FB page. They are always looking for support to help London pigeons.

I’m sorry you saw this. It would have really upset me too.

Swimfiend · 11/09/2025 21:38

It wasn’t fat. It was quite small and looked completely drenched. I don’t know why it couldn’t fly away or properly walk. I think it must have been injured somehow or being so wet it couldn’t fly. I just keep thinking that I knew it would eventually get run over and I didn’t really act to do anything to stop that. Just stood there prevaricating to myself. It feels awful to know that I watched it drag itself into the middle of the road, knowing it was heading to danger and then watched it get run over.

i should have used my hands. I think if I’d had a coat or a jumper I would have tried to pick it up.

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LargeChestofDrawers · 11/09/2025 21:21

DH says the pigeons are really fat at the moment and so they are finding it hard to take off, with their extra weight. I don't know if that's true or not.

UnhappyHobbit · 11/09/2025 20:56

This has happened to me, twice. It’s just awful. Please don’t feel bad, you weren’t the one who ran him over and you were trying to help. Please ignore those heartless comments from people, the world needs less of that “it’s only an animal” attitude.

forgivingfiggy · 11/09/2025 17:48

So little can be done for birds that can’t fly. Better it was hit by a car than the many other ways a bird can suffer. Poor you though.

Swimfiend · 11/09/2025 17:19

HRTQueen · 11/09/2025 15:47

It is upsetting to see

I saw a duck running from one side of lane to the other on an A road, then a lorry ran over it. Happened all so quickly

It was really upsetting, cars were swerving a little but there was nothing that could be done

I still think about the little duck when I drive on that road

I'm sorry you saw this. That would upset me a lot too.

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Swimfiend · 11/09/2025 17:19

Thank you for all your kind comments. I have been googling what to do and found some wildlife rescues but not local to central London which is where this was.

I feel sad. I feel I did just leave the pigeon to die, maybe I should have tried to shuffle it back onto the pavement.

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twobabiesandapup · 11/09/2025 16:31

Squishydishy · 11/09/2025 15:18

Probably for the best.

in all honesty I would be relieved if the biggest issue I had to worry about was a dead pigeon…

Presumably you know that people can demonstrate empathy and compassion without it being the biggest issue they have to worry about? Very strange comment.

OP I would be exactly the same. Horrible thing you had to see and I would’ve felt incredibly sad for the pigeon as well. As others have said, at least it was instant and it wasn’t struggling in pain for a prolonged period

Palladin · 11/09/2025 16:01

Squishydishy · 11/09/2025 15:18

Probably for the best.

in all honesty I would be relieved if the biggest issue I had to worry about was a dead pigeon…

Nasty and completely needless reply.

Rainyday56 · 11/09/2025 15:50

We found a dead pigeon last week at the front of our house .looks like it just fell out of the sky dead
Plus a couple dead in the toad
I thought at the time ,more dead pigeons than normal

HRTQueen · 11/09/2025 15:47

It is upsetting to see

I saw a duck running from one side of lane to the other on an A road, then a lorry ran over it. Happened all so quickly

It was really upsetting, cars were swerving a little but there was nothing that could be done

I still think about the little duck when I drive on that road

DaisyChain505 · 11/09/2025 15:41

I feel you @Swimfiend

something like this would effect me for the rest of the day.