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To think that above all, you should marry someone kind?

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KindnessIsQuiet · 11/09/2025 14:14

I’ve attended a couple of weddings this summer and if I’ve taken one thing away, it’s this: kindness is so underrated. The big gestures are nice, sure. But it’s the small, consistent kindness, how someone speaks to you when no one’s watching, how they support you when you’re tired or struggling, how they treat people they don’t need to impress, that really matters.

Looks fade. Status shifts. Life throws curveballs. But kindness? That stays steady. Or at least it should.

Anyone else feel like kindness doesn’t get talked about enough when we talk about love and marriage?

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IfHeWantedToHeWould · 11/09/2025 14:31

I thought I had, then 10 years in he had an affair. I can’t get my head around it.

Goditsmemargaret · 11/09/2025 14:21

I couldn't agree more.