To find it ridiculous when people assume you must be a man just because you don’t agree with them?

I've literally never seen this and I spend way too much time on MN.

That's not my experience at all.

Yes, you're right that's sometimes the case but more often than not, it isn't in my experience.

It's often simply someone throwing their toys out of their pram when politely challenged on their opinion.

Honestly, the opposing opinion is usually a misogynistic one or at least is anti woman 🤷🏽‍♀️

No, that's not true.

I've seen plenty of posters over my 14 years on MN who have been 'accused' of being male, just because their opinion differs to the majority or to certain posters' opinions.

On a whole range of subjects where 'anti woman' wouldn't even come into it.

YANBU OP.

Some people really can't handle a two sided debate, so they end up stamping their feet and shouting 'MAN', as soon as they're faced with someone who thinks differently to them.

That only happens if you have a lot of anti woman opinions tbh

It's not something I've ever said to anyone. However I have seen posters parroting anti-woman rhetoric being accused of being men. I think it's probably a fair assumption that someone who takes an anti-woman stance probably isn't a woman themselves, which is why it's said. Is this what you're talking about? I can't say I've ever seen someone being assumed to be a man purely for just disagreeing with another poster.

Yes this site. OP you say 'online'. Its not 'online', its this forum

I laugh at it and I never respond to the posters who do this. They're idiots if they have to say that

And also all the accusations of misogyny if you happen to think a woman has done something wrong or is in the wrong or isnt any good at something.

Yeah ok.

#fuckthepatriachy

Yeah it's hilarious, the FWR feminists have accused me of being a man many times because I don't subscribe to their world views. When I point out this is ridiculous they point to my 'stereotypically male posting style' 😂 if assuming I can't be a woman because I'm assertive or like swearing isn't misogynistic don't know what is! They love to call women handmaidens and pick mes too. I wouldn't call them feminists at all.

This completely sums it up.

MN is one of the worst places on the internet for very rigid beliefs about gender essentialism. Men are like this, women are like that, and if a woman says she enjoys casual sex or is messy or isn't jealous of other women (even the young and attractive ones) then she's a lying pick-me, or a man in disguise.

It's interesting because it's the exact mirror of what I read on MRA and incel boards (and frankly I started reading MN for the same reason - a sort of horrified fascination that people still believe all these shit stereotypes).

I’ve seen a little of the ‘cool wife’ mentality, but not enough for it to stand out, really.
I’m a pretty ‘chill’ wife, but not chill enough to be ‘cool’ I think 😂

It is ridiculous, yes. I've particularly noticed this when the topic is anything related to sex or porn.

Equally ridiculous is the 'cool wife', 'pick me girl' insult, where if you say that you personally don't have an issue with your partner having female friends, or mention that you share your partner's love of football, or don't really care who your partner follows on Instagram or something, someone immediately starts sneering that you're just pretending not to mind these things because you're desperate for male approval. As if it's totally impossible for women to have a broad range of views on these topics, and that women don't know their own minds well enough to form their own opinions. Sneering about 'cool wife' mentality is, ironically, incredibly misogynistic - but then, I've noticed that quite a lot of women on Mumsnet who call themselves feminists are actually festering with internalised misogyny and only really support women who are exactly like them. It's not really what I recognise as feminism.

maybe stop frequenting man-hating sites (like MN)