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To think disruptive behaviour in schools is out of hand?

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Absentosaur · 11/09/2025 13:02

‘Children at state schools are almost three times more likely to have their lessons disrupted by poor behaviour than their privately educated peers, a widespread survey of parents has found.’

https://archive.md/HMGtJ accessible link to article .

18% 16-18yr olds go to private school, probably for this reason a lot of the time.

Do we expect the government to do something about it, particularly given they have closed the private school doors to many? What could they be doing to improve the worst state schools??

To think disruptive behaviour in schools is out of hand?
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Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:46

atamlin · 11/09/2025 13:45

That’s interesting. I wonder how your child’s private school would deal with my 11 year old daughter. She has autism and ADHD and struggles to listen and concentrate. Would she be got rid of efficiently?

They wouldn’t be in the mainstream classroom, but they have an excellent, well funded learning support department so place could be found there.

twistyizzy · 11/09/2025 13:46

atamlin · 11/09/2025 13:45

That’s interesting. I wonder how your child’s private school would deal with my 11 year old daughter. She has autism and ADHD and struggles to listen and concentrate. Would she be got rid of efficiently?

No because she would most likely cope better with the small class sizes, calmer atmosphere etc. Many parents chose independent schools precisely because they can offer more SEND support eg 1-2-1 attention
Why are equating SEND with poor behaviour?

Absentosaur · 11/09/2025 13:45

CrispySquid · 11/09/2025 13:40

I read an article years ago that said for each one disruptive student in a class, the collective yearly earnings for the rest of the class decreases by £100,000. More than one disrupter and it starts adding up. If you're a smart and contentious child in a class with several disruptive students, your lifetime earnings, education and future prospects can be harmed. It's so unfair. As a teacher, it is making my job hell.

That’s depressing. Do you have setted classes at your school? Do they make any difference? I think that (being in sets for ability), and my parents are the only reason I did well enough in the end.

Even then many moons ago, it was tough on teachers (my mum was one but in a different school). Never mind now.

What do you think of the Michaela school?.

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atamlin · 11/09/2025 13:45

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:06

It’s why I send my child to private school. They get rid of the disruptive kids really efficiently. The teachers are just as good as the teachers at her state secondary, it’s just 25% of the lesson isn’t spent sorting out kids pissing around causing havoc. My kids grades have gone up 20% since they started. Its astonishing.

The state is against private school but why not take lessons from them. They could copy private schools success just by creating new schools for those who aren’t willing to learn, leaving those keen to learn to get on with it in peace.

That’s interesting. I wonder how your child’s private school would deal with my 11 year old daughter. She has autism and ADHD and struggles to listen and concentrate. Would she be got rid of efficiently?

twistyizzy · 11/09/2025 13:42

Absentosaur · 11/09/2025 13:42

But it can be done the Michaela school (link above) shows us that. It’s not private. It’s not selective. It’s in a deprived area. But the students do well.

Why do the government hate it so much? I honestly don’t know. Why would parents hate it? I don’t know that either.

I've already answered about why government hate it.

Absentosaur · 11/09/2025 13:42

Marble10 · 11/09/2025 13:33

Hardly surprising though? Private schools can pick who they accept and don’t have to tolerate poor behaviour. State schools are compulsory for every child. They can’t be as fussy as private because simply the kids have to go somewhere. If they weren’t in state school then where would they be?

But it can be done the Michaela school (link above) shows us that. It’s not private. It’s not selective. It’s in a deprived area. But the students do well.

Why do the government hate it so much? I honestly don’t know. Why would parents hate it? I don’t know that either.

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CrispySquid · 11/09/2025 13:40

I read an article years ago that said for each one disruptive student in a class, the collective yearly earnings for the rest of the class decreases by £100,000. More than one disrupter and it starts adding up. If you're a smart and contentious child in a class with several disruptive students, your lifetime earnings, education and future prospects can be harmed. It's so unfair. As a teacher, it is making my job hell.

Iris2020 · 11/09/2025 13:39

ridl14 · 11/09/2025 13:19

I actually wish we had a system where you had to "pass" the year to move up like in Spain and Poland. I've heard students are a lot more motivated to work and they don't have punitive detention systems because the ultimate incentive is if you don't study, you could be held back a year. Also means those needing more time to get to grips with some concepts have it.

Yes. Nothing's perfect but it works wonders both as a deterrent for those who mess about and support for those who need for more time to learn.
And it means teachers don't face impossibly wide achievement gaps in the classroom.

We need to.embrace competition as a positive way of incentivising brighter pupils with detailed grading. Who in the world cares about achieving "greater depth"? It's the kiss of death.
You need to get 72% so you're motivated to catch Paul who got 83 and then Joanna who got 87. And even Hamish who got 93 still has the incentive of something more to aim for.

It's also.super important and character building to realise when you're not good at something and acquire the skills to confront it. We can't have people entering the workforce without ever having been told their work is totally awful in a certain area. They need to learn to take direct criticism without melting into a puddle.

MotherofPufflings · 11/09/2025 13:36

It seems to me that nobody is currently being educated properly by allowing disruptive kids to stay in school - the disruptive kids aren't learning anything much and neither are the ones who aren't being disruptive!

twistyizzy · 11/09/2025 13:34

KTheGrey · 11/09/2025 13:31

Oh I know this one. The state values inclusion of all over education for most. Schools keep naughty kids off the streets. That’s their job.

Teachers are pressured to deliver results, while SLT in schools don’t support with behaviour management and government doesn’t fund specific interventions for the unmanageable. Kids learn that good behaviour is entirely optional so then there is a borderline group who follow dominant children and suddenly lessons are all fire fighting.

It is possible to do inclusion so it doesn’t impact all children but it is v expensive because you have to prioritise managing behaviour and align all your teaching to back that up - Michaela appears to do it successfully but in about 0.4 seconds someone will be on here to say Michaela fixes its intake or its results. The evidence indicates it does neither but goodness how the government detests it.

BP hates Michaela because Michaela doesnt accept excuses for poor behaviour or poor performance. They don't select other than parents who buy into the ethos. They have an intake from a largely deprived area and turn out amazing GCSE results.
They demand accountability from pupils over their own learning. That's what BP hates, plus she's only bothered about breakfast clubs and blazers. She isn't interested in actual education.

clary · 11/09/2025 13:33

It’s depressing and is one of the reasons I no longer teach in a secondary classroom (that and the workload tbh).

It’s not a new problem. It could be solved with more money, of course – more options for schools to (for example) take a number of students into a separate group to offer them different support, as so often IME poor behaviour is actually caused by extra and unmet needs (have seen this again and again) – needs that one teacher of 30 students is unable to meet.

Agree tho that parental influence is huge and education is not valued by some, sadly. Genuine responses to phone call home to very dismissive parent of student who persistently disrupted my lesson:
Well it’s not just her (it’s her I am talking to you about)
Well she's only talking (yes and it's very disruptive when I am trying to deliver content)
But [my subject] is not a priority for us anyway
<gives up>

Marble10 · 11/09/2025 13:33

Hardly surprising though? Private schools can pick who they accept and don’t have to tolerate poor behaviour. State schools are compulsory for every child. They can’t be as fussy as private because simply the kids have to go somewhere. If they weren’t in state school then where would they be?

KTheGrey · 11/09/2025 13:31

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:06

It’s why I send my child to private school. They get rid of the disruptive kids really efficiently. The teachers are just as good as the teachers at her state secondary, it’s just 25% of the lesson isn’t spent sorting out kids pissing around causing havoc. My kids grades have gone up 20% since they started. Its astonishing.

The state is against private school but why not take lessons from them. They could copy private schools success just by creating new schools for those who aren’t willing to learn, leaving those keen to learn to get on with it in peace.

Oh I know this one. The state values inclusion of all over education for most. Schools keep naughty kids off the streets. That’s their job.

Teachers are pressured to deliver results, while SLT in schools don’t support with behaviour management and government doesn’t fund specific interventions for the unmanageable. Kids learn that good behaviour is entirely optional so then there is a borderline group who follow dominant children and suddenly lessons are all fire fighting.

It is possible to do inclusion so it doesn’t impact all children but it is v expensive because you have to prioritise managing behaviour and align all your teaching to back that up - Michaela appears to do it successfully but in about 0.4 seconds someone will be on here to say Michaela fixes its intake or its results. The evidence indicates it does neither but goodness how the government detests it.

Absentosaur · 11/09/2025 13:30

flossydog · 11/09/2025 13:22

It's hardly a new problem. I remember children disrupting clases regularly when I was at school 20 years ago. It's not even "the worst state schools", it's pretty common even in typical schools all over.

It’s not a new thing. My school was awful. But I think it’s even worse today.

The Michaela Community School seems to work. I’d be happy if we had a school like that near us, then I wouldn’t need to pay for private school.

Would most people like a school like that school? I’ve heard some people say it’s too strict but perhaps that’s what’s needed?

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michaela_Community_School

*I’ve not been to it I’ve only read about it

I also of course agree with PP about the influence of parents / family however that’s not so easy to control.

Michaela Community School - Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michaela_Community_School

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ComfortFoodCafe · 11/09/2025 13:29

The kids who disrupt in my childs primary school get shoved in one classroom together called “nuture.”
I do think something ought to be done similar in senior school for disruptive kids so those who want to learn can do so.

autienotnaughty · 11/09/2025 13:27

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:21

They’d go to a different school. Classes of 30 kids only work if the teacher can talk and the kids listen. If one child takes up 50% of a teachers time, that’s 29 children getting a compromised education.

That I agree with different schools to meet different needs but currently there isn’t enough funding for this. There are prus (pupil referall units) for behaviour issues and APs (alternative provision) for semh needs but these often end up being a over flow for Sen kids and are often only offered temporarily as a stop gap rather than a solution.

flossydog · 11/09/2025 13:22

It's hardly a new problem. I remember children disrupting clases regularly when I was at school 20 years ago. It's not even "the worst state schools", it's pretty common even in typical schools all over.

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:22

Favouritefruits · 11/09/2025 13:21

My son has come home in tears everyday since the start of high school! The children are uncontrollable and sadly not all of us have the money for a private education

It’s utterly disgraceful. But hey, inclusion group hug

twistyizzy · 11/09/2025 13:22

BigBilly · 11/09/2025 13:12

That's a good idea, anyone who is underachieving just throw them out! That's a great way to solve the problem long term!

Not underachieving, displaying highly disruptive behaviour!

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:21

autienotnaughty · 11/09/2025 13:19

My son has Sen needs so slightly different but if someone told him he didn’t have to attend school he would be ecstatic!! Amd what would happen to the kids with no qualifications and limited reading/ writing skills? How will they fund themselves as adults.
The key is early support and intervention otherwise your just solving one problem by creating another.

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They’d go to a different school. Classes of 30 kids only work if the teacher can talk and the kids listen. If one child takes up 50% of a teachers time, that’s 29 children getting a compromised education.

twistyizzy · 11/09/2025 13:21

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:06

It’s why I send my child to private school. They get rid of the disruptive kids really efficiently. The teachers are just as good as the teachers at her state secondary, it’s just 25% of the lesson isn’t spent sorting out kids pissing around causing havoc. My kids grades have gone up 20% since they started. Its astonishing.

The state is against private school but why not take lessons from them. They could copy private schools success just by creating new schools for those who aren’t willing to learn, leaving those keen to learn to get on with it in peace.

Because BP hates independent schools. Yes of course she could be engaging with them but she proudly boats that she's never stepped foot in one (apart from to use their hockey pitches obviously 🙄). That arrogance means she doesn't understand what they do so well.

Instead of demonising independent schools she could be improving state schools but that's too difficult!

Favouritefruits · 11/09/2025 13:21

My son has come home in tears everyday since the start of high school! The children are uncontrollable and sadly not all of us have the money for a private education

ridl14 · 11/09/2025 13:19

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:14

Not underachieving, messing around. How much messing around would simply vanish if the culprit knew he could be kicked out for it? At least 75% I’d say. Don’t those willing to learn deserve a high quality state education?

I actually wish we had a system where you had to "pass" the year to move up like in Spain and Poland. I've heard students are a lot more motivated to work and they don't have punitive detention systems because the ultimate incentive is if you don't study, you could be held back a year. Also means those needing more time to get to grips with some concepts have it.

Buddingbudde · 11/09/2025 13:19

BigBilly · 11/09/2025 13:17

Absolutely, my daughter has just started school, but I'd like to think she'd be guided not booted out should she start 'messing around'.

But how much patience and guidance are her classmates expected to put up with while their education is put on the back burner?

Kago2790 · 11/09/2025 13:19

It's frustrating. When they start having sets in year 8 or 9 I was keen for my son to strive for a higher set with this in mind. I am not saying the top sets don't have disruptive kids but I think it's less common. I feel sorry for the food kids in the lower sets who will be disproportionately surrounded by disruption.

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