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Am I being sensitive or is my Manager out of line?

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Dinoswearunderpants · 11/09/2025 10:34

For the past few months I've been getting negative feedback from my Manager regarding grammar, past/present tense and writing the wrong words.

For context, the role was sold to me as 5-10% reporting writing (something I said I do not have extensive experience but I was assured I would be trained up) however it is now 95% of my role.

My Manager pulls up every little error I make. It has really knocked my confidence. I know I am not stupid so I did some research as to why I might be having these issues and after completing a comprehensive (and expensive) assessment, I have been diagnosed with dyslexia.

I am still trying to find tools that can help me and one is dictate. I recently completing my first report using this and I had one word incorrect twice through the three page document (it wrote cause instead of calls).

My Manager has wrote a side note saying I need to ensure I use read aloud as clearly dictate will not always be correct. I do use read aloud but I still missed it (I do have a feeling I may have ADHA as my attention span is limited but cannot afford this assessment).

We're only a small team of five and I decided to look at other peoples reports to see what feedback they get and my Manager makes amendments to their reports (similar grammar, missing words etc) however never puts the passive aggressive comments that I get.

In the past he has wrote comments like "I am not an English teacher, you should know these things" (it was that comment that prompted my assessment).

It is so clear I am being treated differently. HR have been involved to help with making 'reasonable adjustments' but it feels like my Manager things having things like dictate and read aloud in place with remove every possible error.

I feel like these errors are so meniscal however he is constantly pulling me up on it. Do I just suck it up and try even harder than I am or is it possible that he is being unfair?

I don't really want to leave as I work part time and the flexibility works well for my home life. I'm just so fed up of feeling stupid.

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Cutleryclaire · 11/09/2025 10:47

It sounds difficult and I agree that you need to find tools like grammarly to highlight issues.

I’ve managed someone previously who had problems (although weren’t dyslexic) and the reality is that you do need to pull someone up more if there’s an ongoing work quality issue.

If others make the occasional error, it wouldn’t be proportionate to raise them in the same way, because there isn’t an ongoing issue.

Once you have measures in place and have proven fewer errors, then it would be fair to expect the same level of feedback as others.

hotterthanthedesert · 11/09/2025 10:41

Can you get into the habit of checking the report before submitting it, either by running it through Grammarly, or using Copilot/chat GPT?