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Children having their own seat on a packed train.

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user1493559472 · 11/09/2025 09:59

I am on a packed train. A child who is about 3 years old is sat in their own seat and not on the parents lap, would you ask to sit down and the child sits on parents lap? People were standing.
Thank you

OP posts:
Putyourfeckingsockson · 11/09/2025 10:02

Why do you deserve a seat more than a tiny child who has potentially been walking their little legs off? Children are also people with needs and feelings and if you wouldn’t ask it of an adult I don’t think you should ask it of a child. Hope that helps

Worralorra · 11/09/2025 10:01

It depends - if the child has had to have a ticket purchased for them to travel, YABU.
If their travel is free because of their age, then they are expected to sit on a parents lap…

ResusciAnnie · 11/09/2025 10:01

LeaderBee · 11/09/2025 10:00

As much as i dislike children, they too are actually humans...

Also the parent is a human and probably doesn’t want a wriggly kid on their seat while squashed next to another adult human 😄 miserable!

Bananarama2000 · 11/09/2025 10:01

No I probably wouldn’t. There could be all sorts of unknown reasons as to why they couldn’t, or they could just have a sense of entitlement, but it’s not really my business which.

TeenToTwenties · 11/09/2025 10:01

Well as a parent I would absolutely have moved the child to be on my lap.

So the question is, what reaction would you get from a parent who hasn't moved their child without being asked.

BeltaLodaLife · 11/09/2025 10:01

No. You are much more stable on your feet than a 3 year old and some 3 years olds are very heavy and wriggly so sitting on parents lap isn’t always practical. The kid was there first and has a seat. You don’t. That’s how it works.

If you are disabled or pregnant and struggling then ask someone in the priority seats to move.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 10:01

No, they got there first. Do parents have to pay for 3 year olds where you are? If they do, most certainly not.

LeaderBee · 11/09/2025 10:00

As much as i dislike children, they too are actually humans...

Swiftie1878 · 11/09/2025 10:00

Me neither.

Mrsttcno1 · 11/09/2025 10:00

No, I wouldn’t.