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Children having their own seat on a packed train.

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user1493559472 · 11/09/2025 09:59

I am on a packed train. A child who is about 3 years old is sat in their own seat and not on the parents lap, would you ask to sit down and the child sits on parents lap? People were standing.
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orangeblosssom · 14/09/2025 15:52

No

MasterBeth · 14/09/2025 10:14

Nice use of stars.

(You don't agree that having a small child sitting on your lap is more comfortable than having a grown adult sitting on your lap? okaaaaay.)

GleisZwei · 14/09/2025 09:54

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Finally!
Just to clarify, I understand the points you think* *you're making. I just don't agree.
Tschüss. ✌️

MasterBeth · 14/09/2025 09:46

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Poppins21 · 14/09/2025 06:44

weareallcats · 11/09/2025 10:17

I don’t think small children should give up seats for able bodied adults. In fact I would expect my teenagers to give up their seat for a small child on the tube, etc - obviously I would too.

This. Small children are less steady on their feet. I don’t see why a small child should not have a seat?

GleisZwei · 14/09/2025 06:35

underthecokesign · 14/09/2025 00:14

Given the context of the post you were replying to, it’s not an impossible (or ‘weird’) assumption to make.

Rightio.

underthecokesign · 14/09/2025 00:14

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 16:10

No, I'm stating that it's not easier for the child or the parent to give the child's seat to another adult.
There's some really, really weird perspectives and comments on this thread.

Given the context of the post you were replying to, it’s not an impossible (or ‘weird’) assumption to make.

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 13/09/2025 22:09

chaosmaker · 13/09/2025 21:27

Why don't you just talk to them about stuff you can see out of the window? Entertaining and doesn't involve annoying toys (which most of them are now).

Seriously?! How much can you see out the windows when trains are going fast?!

I don’t remember taking any annoying toys?! Usually drawing or some little figures. But often something will get dropped or they’ll argue over pens….and with a three year old on lap with a few bags, hot and stuffy - no thanks.

but please go ahead and chat to all the kids about the blurs out the window.

Kirbert2 · 13/09/2025 21:59

chaosmaker · 13/09/2025 21:27

Why don't you just talk to them about stuff you can see out of the window? Entertaining and doesn't involve annoying toys (which most of them are now).

Because that only works for so long with some children, especially if we're talking about long train journeys.

chaosmaker · 13/09/2025 21:27

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 11/09/2025 20:59

Depends on length of journey and seat layout too. I’d struggle to fit a child on my lap whilst next to another person. With bags etc and then try to reach toys, drinks, snacks etc to keep them entertained. For everyone’s sanity it’s better the child has space.

Why don't you just talk to them about stuff you can see out of the window? Entertaining and doesn't involve annoying toys (which most of them are now).

Thechaseison71 · 13/09/2025 16:29

Wherehasthecatgone · 13/09/2025 12:24

You directly contrasted an overtired upset child with a well behaved child, clearly implying an overtired upset child is badly behaved.

Well they often do behave badly when tired or upset. Thats nothing new

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 16:10

underthecokesign · 13/09/2025 16:04

So you are claiming that it's just as hard for a toddler to sit on an adult's lap (for both parties) than it is for a bigger child or an adult to sit on an adult's lap... 🤔

No, I'm stating that it's not easier for the child or the parent to give the child's seat to another adult.
There's some really, really weird perspectives and comments on this thread.

underthecokesign · 13/09/2025 16:04

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 15:30

I understand you think it's easier.
I'm stating that it's, in fact, not easier.
Good grief indeed.
HTH

So you are claiming that it's just as hard for a toddler to sit on an adult's lap (for both parties) than it is for a bigger child or an adult to sit on an adult's lap... 🤔

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 15:30

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 15:03

Good grief!

It is easier for a small person (3 year old) to sit on a lap than for a large person (adult). Do you understand?

I understand you think it's easier.
I'm stating that it's, in fact, not easier.
Good grief indeed.
HTH

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 15:29

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 15:17

How can you know that?. She has clarified that she was just asking a question.

How can i know agree with her many posts? Well, being asI have read them all......🤣

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 15:28

underthecokesign · 13/09/2025 15:16

Yes thanks. Inconvenience has been talked about in a variety of contexts, but no one has accused children of being a 'major inconvenience', and pp was the only person to say anything about martyrdom. They're being absurd.

HTH.

No, it doesn't help.
HTH you.

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 15:17

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 14:18

Lots of us agree with @BananaPeels.

How can you know that?. She has clarified that she was just asking a question.

underthecokesign · 13/09/2025 15:16

GleisZwei · 12/09/2025 11:58

Have you not RTFT then?

Yes thanks. Inconvenience has been talked about in a variety of contexts, but no one has accused children of being a 'major inconvenience', and pp was the only person to say anything about martyrdom. They're being absurd.

HTH.

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 15:03

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 14:17

It's not easier for them or the adult they have to sit on.

Good grief!

It is easier for a small person (3 year old) to sit on a lap than for a large person (adult). Do you understand?

Wherehasthecatgone · 13/09/2025 14:34

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 14:04

Can you read?

I am not dictating what anyone should do. I am telling you what I would do and have done.

Except don’t have a three year old.

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MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 14:25

It is not acceptable to judge someone in those circumstances.

BananaPeels · 13/09/2025 14:19

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 14:14

Can you show me where I have judged others who don't do the same?

Are you just having a general argument with the rest of the thread?

I didn’t say you had judged someone - I asked you the question ‘is it acceptable to judge someone?’

it was a question to further probe views on this. That is the point of a debate.

the answer would be no. Others on here have said yes to similar questions. It is interesting to see a range of views

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 14:18

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 14:14

Can you show me where I have judged others who don't do the same?

Are you just having a general argument with the rest of the thread?

Lots of us agree with @BananaPeels.

GleisZwei · 13/09/2025 14:17

MasterBeth · 13/09/2025 14:02

And, while their small size has nothing to do with their value but it clearly makes it much easier for them to sit on an adult's lap.

It's not easier for them or the adult they have to sit on.

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