Can’t stop crying day 4 post partum

https://www.aboutbirth.com.au/?m=post&category=Birth+Facts&id=127#m=post&category=Birth+Facts&id=127

This is a good article, explanatory without being too long! x

3 day blues, Google it and hang in there x

Oh @custardcreams6 ❤️ Day 4 felt like my world was ending. Please just keep reminding yourself it’s just the hormones ❤️

No, you don’t have as much time just to sit and cuddle DS as what DD got - BUT he has an amazing big sister to watch and learn from which she didn’t have 😊

It sounds like you have a lovely DH and a lovely family! Congratulations on your new addition 😊

This is literally the only bit of unsolicited advice I ever give new mothers - on day 4 you won’t stop crying, it’s a hormone comedown and normal. You’ll be fine OP, congratulations and be kind to yourself

First of all op congratulations on your new baby.

As others have said, it’s the baby blues. It should pass but if it doesn’t, then keep an eye on yourself and ask For help. It’s such a rollercoaster of emotions, hormones, tiredness, the bigness of it all but it sounds like you’re doing great.

take care of yourself.

There is no way to describe the crippling guilt I felt after I had my second. It hit me like a ton of bricks and was completely unexpected.
I couldn't stop worrying about everything I had taken away from my first and as much as we tried she did struggle with the adjustment it was heartbreaking.
Days on my own were (and still are sometimes) a bit of a roller coaster. Just do what you can to get through and tomorrow is another day.

It didn't last!! I absolutely adored my maternity leave with my second. Some days were great, other days we all cried. Now when I look at them giggling together, absolutely obsessed with eachother I wish I could have told myself it would all be OK.

My second was a lot worse for baby blues then first. I got home after 3 days in hospital after her birth and I just cried . I didnt have any major reason why . At the time I thought the feelings would never stop.
Its a really hard time.
Dont put to much pressure on yourself. You are doing a great job.

This is so normal when your hormones have changed so much and your exhausted it will pass x

Dont worry its pretty normal - it is continues def speak to someone.

Lean into the crying it can be good for you as one of the ways the body gets rid of excess hormones is through tears- its why you often feel better after crying!

Congrats on your baby!!!!

I had quite severe pnd with my DS (mainly caused by my ex) but at the beginning my Dr said it wasn't me it was my hormones.

It's not you, it's your hormones and although it's horrific it will pass. You've made and birthed another human!

Congratulations on your new addition.

As others have said, it’s totally normal. My health visitor came over on day 4 and I sobbed and sobbed, whilst promising her I was a good mum really and didn’t know why I was crying. She gave me a hug and said most her mums cry around this time, and it was hormones and milk coming in and it would all settle. DS is 13 now and I’m still an emotional wreck, but she was right and the crying does stop I promise!

I went through the same with both of mine. Every night for two weeks I cried starting at 7pm. Your body just went through something amazing but traumatic. Your hormones are going crazy and your life has changed. It will be okay. Give yourself some grace and cry if you need to. A few weeks on and it got better like a fog lifted. It will be better and you will feel better soon. Hang in there OP ♥️

Its completely normal its the sudden change in hormones with the placenta going and progesterone having a sharp fall. :)

Ahh I’m sorry you’re having a bad time. I have a 2.5 year old and had my second baby nearly 4 weeks ago and can 100% relate. I felt great for a few days and then suddenly around day 4 or 5 I just couldn’t stop crying. It lasted a couple of days and then has got better - I am still very emotional and do still cry, but it’s different to the intense blue mood I felt at first.
I think everything you’ve said is normal - especially the guilt. I get upset when I think about how my toddler no longer gets my attention. We used to have so much fun and now I’m stuck on the sofa feeding the baby and can’t play with him or do the fun outings we used to do, so then I cry a bit. And then sometimes he is just so sweet and kind and that also makes me cry! You’ll probably find that you do start feeling better but you may still cry at little things - the hormones are crazy for a while aren’t they!
Make sure you tell your Health visitor how you’re feeling though. They say that baby blues can last two weeks, but if you’re really down or it lasts longer then to let someone know. My husband actually called our HV and asked them to come and see me as the sadness and crying had gone on longer than he felt was ‘normal’ baby blues (I did get help from the maternal mental health team after my first birth, so he was able to recognise that I might need extra support this time round too). Our HV has referred me to the mental health team again, just to be sure I’m getting all the help I can, even if I feel better. And she’s been to see us a couple of extra times to also check on me and offer some advice etc. So I really encourage you to be super honest about how you feel and how long you feel like it for.
Everything you’ve said you feel is normal, but please make sure you reach out for help if you’re struggling, so you can avoid it developing into anything further.

Im mentally very strong but the drop in hormones even took me out. I was so mean to my husband.
I felt guilty for not wanting to be pawed over by my toddler and guilty for ignoring my newborn. It gets easier but if you have a history of depression then do seek help.

Congratulations on your lovely family. I got this with DD but strangely not with DS. I didn't find out the gender with DD and I was convinced she was going to be a boy. When the blues hit I cried for hours about the fact I'd brought a little girl into a world that had Donald Trump in. So I cried for hours over Donald Bloody Trump. This was around the " grab her by the p*y" stuff time. Fuck sake. I got over it after a few hours.

In amongst all the crap that's going on in the world, bless your beautiful new baby - and mother, of course x ❤️

Sounds like you have the baby blues..it’s horrible as it catches you off guard .I’m 1 month postpartum with my second child and I went through this phase around day 5 PP too but I was expecting it as I had the same with my first DS.

This second time only lasted 3-4 days but I remember my first one taking a couple of weeks - I was a blubbering mess everyday. Just know that it’ll pass abs it’s your hormones trying to go regulate back to pre-pregnancy levels. I still get the guilt but I know once we find our routine, things will flow better! Hang in there mama

Congratulations on your new baby and try not to worry too much, these feelings are perfectly normal and will pass.
I had the exact same on day 3 or 4 with both of mine. I was still in hospital with my first and remember absolutely sobbing my heart out to the poor midwife who reassured me it was perfectly normal, due to hormones and milk coming in and brought me a cuppa and a biscuit and let me sob! I did feel quite overwhelmed for the first 2 weeks or so looking back but it definitely did pass. With my second, it was literally the one day and then it lifted again as quickly as it came.
Hang on in there and remember you’re doing an amazing job with both of your babies.

I remember this feeling. It was awful. I felt so alone, scared, depressed. Couldn’t stop crying even though my dream had come true of having a baby after 5 years of fertility treatment and IVF. I thought it would never end but it did.
I do wish I had better support at the time. Do you have people you can talk to? It will pass but I know it’s incredibly hard.

Well you have done well to last to day 4 as I understand day 3 is the day the tears start.
Don’t worry love this too shall pass.

When I had my second daughter (second baby), I felt like I was depriving my older daughter of being an only child. I felt like I’d ruined our relationship by having another baby, and I couldn’t give either child what they deserved. It wasn’t true, and although things definitely became different, they weren’t worse. Hang in there.

I wanted to add that all those guilty feelings and worry about ruining everything are very normal when number two comes along. Its an adjustment and you and your all need time to adjust to the new dynamic. It will pass.

Very normal sweetheart, it’s your hormones going haywire and your milk coming in.

Get as much rest as you can; it will pass. If it doesn’t, tell your health visitor and your GP.