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Freedom of speech isn't tolerated by some

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WhatNextBanana · 10/09/2025 22:58

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/us/comment/2025/09/10/charlie-kirks-shooting-terrible-moment-american-democracy/

Political violence on the rise.

People are getting angry when people have Political views they don't agree with. Freedom of speech must be allowed not shutdown.

Tragic news of a young family man shot by someone today. Please remember he was a human with a family. Violence is never ok.

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Swiftie1878 · 12/09/2025 08:12

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 03:25

His anti-abortion views predated his suddenly becoming a devout Christian (which only happened a few years ago).

To be honest - and this is speculative on my part - I doubt he was actually believer. I think it was a self-marketing decision.

Ouch!!

justasking111 · 12/09/2025 08:10

His death has caused a tidal wave of truly dreadful online comments. Whether they're genuine, bots Etc who knows but it's gifted the republicans a tremendous boost.

maddening · 12/09/2025 07:58

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 10/09/2025 23:04

Ah yes. This is the man who stated in 2023 that lives need to be lost as part of America’s need to bear arms.

It’s terribly tragic especially for his young children having had to witness this, but let’s be honest here, when people talk about freedom of speech what they generally mean is that they should be allowed to hold and express any abhorrent views they choose without consequence.

So you think we have the right to murder for speech now?

If i don't like things you or your family say can I murder them ? If I find it abhorrent - surely just consequences....

WhereIsMyJumper · 12/09/2025 07:57

Charlie Kirk did not deserve to die. I am shocked by it. I haven’t listened to everything he has ever said, and I doubt I would agree with all of it but then there is rarely an individual that you will agree with 100% of the time. But the one thing I do know is that he believed in debate and open discussion. That’s one sentiment I am totally behind.

Id probably class myself as centrist. Although even your place on the political spectrum is skewed by how far people are on either side. To a far left, I’d be right wing and to a far right, I’m too much on the left. So here is the thing, if (for example) a militant far left TRA was speaking at a University and spouting rubbish about TERFs or whatever and they got shot in the neck for it, I still would be just as shocked and disgusted by it. Because nobody deserves to die for words. Whether or not those words are classed as hate speech - investigate them and use the law if needs be but they don’t deserve to be fucking shot for just speaking.

I watched a video online of someone walking around the streets of an American uni town asking students their opinion on his death and they all said they were glad and he deserved it. Is that what we have become now?

The thing is, these tribal politics seem to mostly be rife in western democracy. When compared to global politics - especially in more oppressive countries - or if you use historical context, the left and right in the west are barely a few paces from each other. The political spectrum in the west is pretty narrow (on the most part, save for pockets of extremism that I wouldn’t class as main stream) so what the hell are both sides fighting over? We have more in common than not. You could have people debating trans rights, for example, with one side screaming TWAW and the other saying “we don’t want men in our spaces” but if both sides were shown footage of what happens to gay people in extremist countries where it is illegal to be gay, both sides would be totally against it.

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:55

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CantCallItLove · 12/09/2025 07:51

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:25

So you've just said he deserved to die for having an opinion and for saying things, other people didn't like.

That tends to be the view of the left. Look how they treated j k rowling for her views. How many death threats did she get.

Thanks for clarifying, though that you do think people deserve to die for their views. No matter how controversial they are.

That tends to be the view of the left.

And the right - see Melissa Hortman.

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 07:49

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:43

You said he crossed the line, and people will take action.

You definitely said he got what was coming to him and deserve to die. You didn't say it out, right?But that's what you meant. You said he got what was coming to him.And people will take action.

Do you wanna go and say that to his wife's face right now? Or his three year old child. Honestly, do you people think before you post online.

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That’s absolutely outrageous. Your interpretation is not what I meant at all. By all means ask me for clarification of what I meant but please don’t tell me what I meant.

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:43

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 07:29

I did not say he deserves to deserves to
die!!!!

You said he crossed the line, and people will take action.

You definitely said he got what was coming to him and deserve to die. You didn't say it out, right?But that's what you meant. You said he got what was coming to him.And people will take action.

Do you wanna go and say that to his wife's face right now? Or his three year old child. Honestly, do you people think before you post online.

Idinnaenah · 12/09/2025 07:31

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 06:22

Charlie Kirk crossed the line from free speech into hate speech. Words matter. Some people will act on them.

He absolutely did and his words incited violence against others who didn’t hold the same extremist right wing views. He and his movement were Incredibly harmful in many ways.
There are many people, quite a few educators and academics, who are speaking out now about how they’ve suffered from being singled out by Kirk.

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 07:29

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:25

So you've just said he deserved to die for having an opinion and for saying things, other people didn't like.

That tends to be the view of the left. Look how they treated j k rowling for her views. How many death threats did she get.

Thanks for clarifying, though that you do think people deserve to die for their views. No matter how controversial they are.

I did not say he deserves to deserves to
die!!!!

ILoveWhales · 12/09/2025 07:25

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 06:22

Charlie Kirk crossed the line from free speech into hate speech. Words matter. Some people will act on them.

So you've just said he deserved to die for having an opinion and for saying things, other people didn't like.

That tends to be the view of the left. Look how they treated j k rowling for her views. How many death threats did she get.

Thanks for clarifying, though that you do think people deserve to die for their views. No matter how controversial they are.

dizzydizzydizzy · 12/09/2025 06:22

Charlie Kirk crossed the line from free speech into hate speech. Words matter. Some people will act on them.

CantCallItLove · 12/09/2025 06:19

WhatNextBanana · 11/09/2025 22:56

I'd wasn't aware of Melissa H shooting so wouldn't post about her would I. Another poster asked why no one bothered to post about her death, so I asked if the poster if they had started a thread about her death since they'd raised the question about why she didn't get a thread, however, they didn't bother doing it themselves. You can't post about what you are unaware of can you 😂

Go back and read the comments made from other poster then you will understand better why I asked them if they'd bothered, since they raised lack of thread. They didn’t bother.

But it's interesting that the people so very exercised by Kirk's death have absolutely nothing to say about that murder even when they are made aware of it. No condemnation of the politically motivated murder of Democrats by a right-wing assassin, no wailing over the death of free speech when someone who advocated for left wing policies was killed, no sadness expressed for her and her husband and her dog who were all shot in the attack. Apparently that assassination didn't indicate that the right are evil and out of control and a danger to society but Kirk's death means that's all true of the left?

It's the eagerness to make political capital for the right from Kirk's killing that's so worrying. These performative, handwringing threads are designed to stoke up yet more division and more violence. It's the last thing we need.

CantCallItLove · 12/09/2025 06:08

Pigeonpoodle · 11/09/2025 21:05

If you believe that:

a) life is sacrosanct and should not be taken
b) life starts at conception
c) an individual’s wellbeing doesn’t trump another individual’s right to life;

then CK’s position is very consistent and moral…

Personally, I think this morality is simplistic and flawed, and I certainly wouldn’t want my 10-year old to continue with a pregnancy but, nonetheless, his was a very “moral” position based on fundamental principles about the value of human life, even if I might personally have serious issues with some of the presuppositions that underpin that morality.

So, whereas I might disagree strongly with CK on this, i don’t believe he was an immoral monster for holding those views.

Anti-abortionists don't believe that life is sacrosanct. They're happy for women to die. Abortion bans kill women. Very much like Kirk's position on gun control, those deaths are the 'acceptable cost' of the policy. Being anti-abortion is not a stance that values life. It means deciding that some women should die rather than allow them autonomy over their own bodies.

Kirk's stated views on abortion and gun control are not about protecting life. That wasn't his priority. He wasn't guided by a moral imperative to preserve life. I would absolutely characterise him as immoral. It doesn't mean I think he should have been shot, I think I need to add for people who might deliberately misinterpret otherwise!

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 03:25

Pigeonpoodle · 11/09/2025 22:26

Sanctity of life is pretty absolute!

Just because you have issues with it, as do I, doesn’t mean CK didn’t have a strict moral code that emphasised that value of life over everything else.

Your morality prioritises the wellbeing of a 10-year old. His morality prioritised the right to life of another person (and he - rightly or wrongly - believed that a foetus was a person). You might believe he was monstrous to let a 10-year old suffer. He might have believed you were monstrous for killing a person.

You are both being “moral”, but from different standpoints. That’s very different from being “immoral” - where you behave in a way you know isn’t moral, but do it anyway, or “amoral” - where you don’t have a concept of right or wrong.

You could even argue that CK was very moral in this regard, as there would be many people, especially Christians, who would accept the three principles I outlined in my previous post… but would nonetheless act against their morals to protect their child, even though their morality would hold that preventing their child’s suffering was a less important principle than not taking life.

His anti-abortion views predated his suddenly becoming a devout Christian (which only happened a few years ago).

To be honest - and this is speculative on my part - I doubt he was actually believer. I think it was a self-marketing decision.

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 03:16

Double post.

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 03:15

LuckySpark · 12/09/2025 00:01

Truthfully I don't know as much about those events (and certainly know nothing of Kirk's involvement or views) so difficult to comment.

His behaviour and views may have been despicable on this issue.

Fair enough - its worth a read-up, if you're interested.

For me, there's a profound falsity to someone purporting to care about a fundamental principle of democracy - freedom of speech - who also played a significant role in the campaign to overturn the results of an election.

His carefully cultivated image, and free-speech-defender schtik, was a facade. He was an anti-democractic Christian nationalist and, if he had his way, he'd have been complicit in the stripping of the most powerful means of expression one has in a democracy - the right to vote.

I would be unsurprised to see his murder used as part of a smokescreen for why there wont be free and fair elections in the US next year, so perhaps he'll win in the end.

nothingbeats · 12/09/2025 02:18

i personally loved watching Charlie’s videos and found them quite entertaining. The way he debated was fascinating and watching who he was debating stutter and look around the crowd for help was hilarious. I don’t personally agree with America’s gun laws but I’m respectful enough to understand that that is part of their culture and who am I to think my country’s any better when it’s in the shit state it is. Infact I don’t even feel safe walking about in broad daylight in the uk right now. I didn’t agree with some of his beliefs on abortion but I understand and respect he was a devout Christian and he was pro life. I admire and share the same morals on marriage, chivalry and men being providers. I am a romany gypsy and our morales are very much the same. Even though I’m against abortion being used as a contraception i 100% am all for it in cases of rape victims. So yes I agree with some of the views but not all and that is absolutely fine.

He didn’t deserve to go out like that and the comments online are terrifying. From these two pictures on X people are not even trying to hide their hatred for people who speak up.

Freedom of speech isn't tolerated by some
Freedom of speech isn't tolerated by some
DdraigGoch · 12/09/2025 01:25

Pigeonpoodle · 11/09/2025 21:05

If you believe that:

a) life is sacrosanct and should not be taken
b) life starts at conception
c) an individual’s wellbeing doesn’t trump another individual’s right to life;

then CK’s position is very consistent and moral…

Personally, I think this morality is simplistic and flawed, and I certainly wouldn’t want my 10-year old to continue with a pregnancy but, nonetheless, his was a very “moral” position based on fundamental principles about the value of human life, even if I might personally have serious issues with some of the presuppositions that underpin that morality.

So, whereas I might disagree strongly with CK on this, i don’t believe he was an immoral monster for holding those views.

Given that he supported the death penalty, and opposed regulation of lethal weapons he wasn't entirely consistent on the sanctity of life.

nothingbeats · 12/09/2025 01:22

If you are going to use his quote, use all of it.

"I can't stand the word empathy, I think empathy is a made up new age term and it does a lot of damage.
Sympathy is a better word, because empathy means you are actually feeling what another person felt, and no one can feel what another person feels."

GeneralPeter · 12/09/2025 01:08

LittleYellowQueen · 11/09/2025 15:33

Let's say you left your teenager at home while you went to buy a newspaper. The house burns and your teenager is killed. Who in their right mind would say that you obviously felt beforehand that his/her death was worth it for the newspaper. What you thought was worth it beforehand was the risk of that happening.

The newspaper analogy only works if you’ve:

previously campaigned against fire safety legislation,

publicly said that children dying in house fires is an acceptable side effect of people being allowed to own flammable houses, and

insisted that regulations to prevent those fires infringe your “God-given right” to live in a tinderbox.

At that point, if you still pop out for the paper and your teenager burns, it’s not just that you “accepted the risk.” You actively supported the conditions that made the tragedy likely — and you declared in advance that the resulting deaths were an acceptable price.

You’ve missed which point the analogy is illustrating (despite my lovely clear numbered heading).

PP’s claim was that CK was an acceptable casualty “by his own logic”. That relies on eliding “the risk of X is an acceptable price” and “X is an acceptable price”. They are nothing like the same.

You might think he did things that made his death more likely or made it ironic, or whatever, but that’s not the point being disputed.

It’s “did CK’s logic mean he accepted being himself killed”? No. What he accepted was a risk.

RowanRed90 · 12/09/2025 00:44

ForeverScout · 11/09/2025 10:15

I guess it depends what you're reading. I'm thinking specifically comment threads online, whether that's here, Reddit, Facebook or whatever counts as twitter these days. But yes, real people should be held to account for their words - though equally you should support their right to say them.

I don't know what "being held to account means" in this context

TinyIsMyNewt · 12/09/2025 00:37

LuckySpark · 12/09/2025 00:01

Truthfully I don't know as much about those events (and certainly know nothing of Kirk's involvement or views) so difficult to comment.

His behaviour and views may have been despicable on this issue.

Fair enough.

Personally, although he was savvy enough to never directly call for political violence, he'd been happy to stoke and downplay it, if it aligned with his views.

He shouldn't have been murdered, but I'm not sad he's dead. He was an awful man.

LuckySpark · 12/09/2025 00:01

TinyIsMyNewt · 11/09/2025 23:45

How did you feel about Trump's election denial, attempts to overthrow the election, threats against lawmakers lives and the general violence of the mob as they entered the Capitol? I think thats relevant to any assessment of Kirk's morality.

To my mind:

  • he whole-heartedly supported the completely basis notion of the stolen election:
  • he knowingly peddled the lie that Mike Pence could legally refuse to certify the election;
  • His embracing and spreading of falsehoods contributed to the manifestation of some physical violence, along with threats to politician's lives (including "Hang Mike Pence") - and I, like relevant security personnel, believe that lawmakers could well have been killed if they weren't successfully evacuated.
  • He refused to answer questions about his role, to the Jan 6 committee, pleading the 5th instead.

I actually don't judge him or anyone harshly for belief in sancity of life in the abortion context (even if I profoundly disagree) because it has a reasonable religious grounding. I do, though, think everyone involved in the dishonest scheme to overthrow democracy, and who participated in whipping the crowd up into a frenzy through their disinformation and rhetoric, is/was a scumbag of the highest order.

He may have presented himself as some reasonable intellectual, but yeah- to my mind, he was despicable.

Truthfully I don't know as much about those events (and certainly know nothing of Kirk's involvement or views) so difficult to comment.

His behaviour and views may have been despicable on this issue.

TinyIsMyNewt · 11/09/2025 23:45

LuckySpark · 11/09/2025 23:31

I don't know what the racism references are about, but on guns wasn't his point that if you allow guns in society you will inevitably get shootings because there are bad people and those bad people might get access to a gun, but that the right to bear guns is important enough in a US cultural and historical context for that to be the price (rather than thinking it being a good/welcome thing that people use guns for shooting people)?

He had a different strategy for avoiding those deaths, by trying to have debate replace violence and to try and create a strong community and society, built on Christian values.

I don't have to agree with him (and I think it is batshit crazy to oppose all gun control) to see he is applying a moral framework, even if I don't hold the same opinions.

In this country we allow people to keep guns for shooting clay pigeons and game. Sometimes people (men) use those guns to kill their families. Do we think we should stop personal gun ownership completely in order to try and make sure that doesn't happen? Maybe we should, but I don't think that those wanting to shoot for sport are immoral for not being willing to give it up because sometimes bad/ill people might use the guns for awful purposes.

How did you feel about Trump's election denial, attempts to overthrow the election, threats against lawmakers lives and the general violence of the mob as they entered the Capitol? I think thats relevant to any assessment of Kirk's morality.

To my mind:

  • he whole-heartedly supported the completely basis notion of the stolen election:
  • he knowingly peddled the lie that Mike Pence could legally refuse to certify the election;
  • His embracing and spreading of falsehoods contributed to the manifestation of some physical violence, along with threats to politician's lives (including "Hang Mike Pence") - and I, like relevant security personnel, believe that lawmakers could well have been killed if they weren't successfully evacuated.
  • He refused to answer questions about his role, to the Jan 6 committee, pleading the 5th instead.

I actually don't judge him or anyone harshly for belief in sancity of life in the abortion context (even if I profoundly disagree) because it has a reasonable religious grounding. I do, though, think everyone involved in the dishonest scheme to overthrow democracy, and who participated in whipping the crowd up into a frenzy through their disinformation and rhetoric, is/was a scumbag of the highest order.

He may have presented himself as some reasonable intellectual, but yeah- to my mind, he was despicable.