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Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

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Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

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MarchingFrogs · 10/09/2025 21:51

Fishplates · 10/09/2025 21:42

Why on earth would you find it offensive if Muslim children were referring to things as ‘haram’ 🙄 your family is not Muslim so surely you wouldn’t care if something was haram or not.

also educate yourself on micro aggressions - you ‘ve pretended to offer the OP advice just so you were able to write how Muslims have apparently offended you, children no less.

ridiculous behaviour 🙄😡

It's one thing if the children are saying, My parents say that I'm not allowed to do x, y, z because according to our family's religious beliefs, these things are forbidden to us'.

Quite another if they are telling random other children that they, the other children, shouldnt do these things, because (blanket statement) they are taboo.

CatrionaBalfour · 10/09/2025 21:51

ForgetMeNotRose · 10/09/2025 21:49

I don't know why this is so unbelievable to some posters. This same thing happened to a friend of mine.

What exactly happened?

Gallopingfanjo · 10/09/2025 21:51

BarnOwlFlying · 10/09/2025 21:26

Sky Fairy? Is that really necessary? Grow up.

Well that’s what I think. I’m very aware of religion and I think it’s nonsense.

TheignT · 10/09/2025 21:50

LillyPJ · 10/09/2025 21:41

I agree with @moondune and @User364431 A 4 year old might belong to a Muslim family but they can't possibly hold a religious belief yet.

Not the teachers place to make that judgement about a child and then tell the child.

DryAndBalmy · 10/09/2025 21:50

Highly unlikely.
Talk to the teacher

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 21:49

@Kohll hilarious and mature. Agree with what the previous user said - I suggest going to therapy or dealing with whatever personal issues you have.

I don't have an issue with any regions or non religions, I teach tolerance and respect, and I most certainly don't make comments like the ones you do. Your hate is showing and your values clearly don't align with a lot of us.

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PollyBell · 10/09/2025 21:49

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 21:45

Atinydropofcherrysherry she is aware our family is Muslim and asked for clarification. I have not dictated to her what to believe in, only what I / our family believe, but that's beyond the point. The point is does a teacher have a right to decide any which way about a child's religious background or inform her she isn't of any religion during to her age?

But how do you know this actually happened, how reliable are 4yo?

soupyspoon · 10/09/2025 21:49

In time she will say something outlandish about her parents, perhaps indicating something amiss at home, upset at home, mistreatment at home (much like the posters child who said he had rum for breakfast)

Will OP consider that her child is very advanced and no misunderstanding or miscommunication has taken place then?

ForgetMeNotRose · 10/09/2025 21:49

I don't know why this is so unbelievable to some posters. This same thing happened to a friend of mine.

PossibleIm · 10/09/2025 21:48

I doubt very much after the reaction of the Muslim community against some teachers any teacher would dare mention anything about islam or Muslims ? That last teacher who had to go into hiding is he even out yet ?

BusWankers · 10/09/2025 21:48

BluntPlumHam · 10/09/2025 21:31

You won’t get any sympathy from anyone here. Islamophobia isn’t a thing according to most, any other religion and you would have had a different response.

Go with your gut, speak to the teacher and investigate firstly. It’s not a leap to think that there are perhaps racist undertones. I would like to think it is unlikely however you never know with the current climate.

No she wouldn't.

She'd have exactly the same response.... Ask the teacher, because it's more than likely your daughter got the wrong end of the stick.

That's the same advice anyone sane gives anyone on MN when they say anything like "my small child says the teacher/a child said some outrageous thing"

It's almost as if the child is only 4 years old, in a new setting, and has had to have all sorts of information to take in over the past few days surrounded by noisy chaos goblins all day, and has misinterpreted a comment/statement/question from an adult, because her brain is so busy and trying to process everything...

Lovelyladiesarenotinsecure · 10/09/2025 21:47

She started school no longer than a week ago and in that time multiple teachers have told you she’s advanced and one has told her outright that she’s not a Muslim?

Who specifically has said how advanced she is?

As if a teacher would lose her career over saying that to a 4yr old. And even if in the incredibly unlikely case the teacher is Islamophobic how does telling your daughter she’s not Muslim aid her cause?

soupyspoon · 10/09/2025 21:46

Fishplates · 10/09/2025 21:42

Why on earth would you find it offensive if Muslim children were referring to things as ‘haram’ 🙄 your family is not Muslim so surely you wouldn’t care if something was haram or not.

also educate yourself on micro aggressions - you ‘ve pretended to offer the OP advice just so you were able to write how Muslims have apparently offended you, children no less.

ridiculous behaviour 🙄😡

Same as if a christian child referred to everyday behaviours as sinful I suppose

Does that sound ok?

arcticpandas · 10/09/2025 21:45

Fishplates · 10/09/2025 21:42

Why on earth would you find it offensive if Muslim children were referring to things as ‘haram’ 🙄 your family is not Muslim so surely you wouldn’t care if something was haram or not.

also educate yourself on micro aggressions - you ‘ve pretended to offer the OP advice just so you were able to write how Muslims have apparently offended you, children no less.

ridiculous behaviour 🙄😡

Well when in school (I was often helping out on special days or outings) and kids refuse to hold hands when told to by the teacher because it's haram I do have a problem with it. As did the teacher. Religion has nothing to do in state school. Or you choose a religious school.

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 21:45

Atinydropofcherrysherry she is aware our family is Muslim and asked for clarification. I have not dictated to her what to believe in, only what I / our family believe, but that's beyond the point. The point is does a teacher have a right to decide any which way about a child's religious background or inform her she isn't of any religion during to her age?

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Echobelly · 10/09/2025 21:44

Yeah, check with the teacher 'I'm sure it's a misunderstanding, but DD was upset yesterday because she thought you said.... and I want to reassure her' I'm pretty sure it'll turn out to be crossed wires.

Fishplates · 10/09/2025 21:42

arcticpandas · 10/09/2025 21:01

My DS now 15 told me when he was around your dds age that X parents were mean because they had cut his penis off. The boy had had a medical procedure at the hospital which I explained to my DS:).

Kids misunderstand. Maybe the teacher said something like "school is not a religious setting, it's for learning". What I found was offensive when my child was in state primary (now in private Catholic secondary but I'm atheist and so is my son he says) was that many of the muslim boys were referring to a whole bunch of normal activities as "haram" (dancing, holding hands etc)...

Why on earth would you find it offensive if Muslim children were referring to things as ‘haram’ 🙄 your family is not Muslim so surely you wouldn’t care if something was haram or not.

also educate yourself on micro aggressions - you ‘ve pretended to offer the OP advice just so you were able to write how Muslims have apparently offended you, children no less.

ridiculous behaviour 🙄😡

Kohll · 10/09/2025 21:42

LillyPJ · 10/09/2025 21:41

I agree with @moondune and @User364431 A 4 year old might belong to a Muslim family but they can't possibly hold a religious belief yet.

Maybe that's why she cried.

LillyPJ · 10/09/2025 21:41

I agree with @moondune and @User364431 A 4 year old might belong to a Muslim family but they can't possibly hold a religious belief yet.

MrsArcher23 · 10/09/2025 21:41

Check with the teacher about what she actually said.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2025 21:41

I can't imagine a teacher saying that, unless she misheard your DD.
Did your DD ask?

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 21:40

DeftPoet perhaps angry was too strong, a bit cross would be a better description. She's been in some form of school since she was 1 just as an FYI to your assumptions.

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PollyBell · 10/09/2025 21:40

What my child heard and what was said does not always match at that age, could have happened but I would be extremely surprised

Isitreallythough · 10/09/2025 21:39

It would be such a bizarre thing for the teacher to say that I suspect a misunderstanding... I hope you get it cleared up and your daughter feels at ease

PrestonHood121 · 10/09/2025 21:39

FFS ask the teacher what she said then decide if you're going to be angry or whatever.