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Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

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Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

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IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 11/09/2025 09:56

@Jkam24 hopefully you'll have some clarity on the issue today.
Some people on this thread seem to be being deliberately provocative.

Zebedee999 · 11/09/2025 09:55

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

What idiot parent believes what their child said without listening to the teacher's side?

We already have teachers in hiding in this country because Muslim mobs have hounded them out of their jobs with death threats. Don't cause yet another teacher to have to flee for their life.

ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2025 09:52

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:44

Because I was a teacher

The OP is a teacher too.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:51

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:59

Let's not be patronising, I'm sure you are well aware why someone might have done this.

I really don’t understand why? Are you suggesting the teacher is Islamaphobic (that’s the only thing I can think you’re suggesting). Really can’t believe someone would risk ruining their career like that.

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:50

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:44

Because I was a teacher

A psychic teacher??

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:49

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:48

It was almost certainly be a misunderstanding by your 4 year old.
(Unless you are Muslim converts, by any chance? If so, it’s possible the teacher may not be aware?)

Than it's a stretch.

Most likely they are in a Catholic school and child is confused

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:48

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:51

I'll be addressing it with the teacher tomorrow in case it is a misunderstanding.

It was almost certainly be a misunderstanding by your 4 year old.
(Unless you are Muslim converts, by any chance? If so, it’s possible the teacher may not be aware?)

GleisZwei · 11/09/2025 09:47

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

I'm not sure this actually happened exactly as written OP, did it? Are you sure your daughter didn't mishear/understand?

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 11/09/2025 09:47

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:59

Let's not be patronising, I'm sure you are well aware why someone might have done this.

Why?
I'm not aware.

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 09:46

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:29

Getting a hard time because OP thinks her daughter is advanced.
What a weird attitude!

Good job you don't live in America, it's common practice to think their own children are more advanced.

I like it, it's a good positive attitude.
Not negative like UK, where you're demonized for thinking your child may be advanced.

I agree that young children get confused easily but it doesn't hurt to check.

Hope you get it sorted OP

No, I think it's just that even if a 4 year old is advanced, they can still get confused (qv).
I don't know what you've been reading, but believe you me, no parent in the UK is "demonized" for thinking that their child is advanced.

lazyarse123 · 11/09/2025 09:45

This post is so full of arseholes. If you don't believe it fuck off and find something you do believe.
You are just making yourselves look foolish.

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:44

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:32

I'm confused. How do you know nothing was said or happened?
Were you there or have I missed something?
Apologies if I have....

Because I was a teacher

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 09:43

soupyspoon · 11/09/2025 09:40

She might have to if the teacher cant remember anything about it. Might be an off the cuff remark or discussion she has no memory of

It might have been an indepth (for a 4 year old) discussion about philosophy and religion.

Who knows.

That's true! None of us know what happened and the teacher may have no idea, at least the teacher knows something has upset the child and concerned the parents, in all likelihood it'll be sorted.

soupyspoon · 11/09/2025 09:40

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 08:33

The OP has concerns, and those concerns need to be addressed. The teacher needs to have a conversation about what happened, the OP isn't just going to let this go.

She might have to if the teacher cant remember anything about it. Might be an off the cuff remark or discussion she has no memory of

It might have been an indepth (for a 4 year old) discussion about philosophy and religion.

Who knows.

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:32

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I'm confused. How do you know nothing was said or happened?
Were you there or have I missed something?
Apologies if I have....

Limehawkmoth · 11/09/2025 09:30

In a class of busy 4/5 year olds she probably wasn’t listening with complete focus and maybe thought child asked is she (the teacher) was Muslim…it’s a strange question for anyone to ask teacher “am I Muslim”…not strange as in odd, but a bit random and not what a teacher is expecting to be asked…
almost certainly teacher would not have even tried for a minute to answer a question like that with a straight “no you’re not” ….at worse it would be a “ well we all need to make our own choices about our faith ..type of woken answer!

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:29

anyolddinosaur · 11/09/2025 09:06

It's possible that the teacher said something like that (other child at the table) child is not a muslim.

You are being VU to get angry over something a 4 year old says without telling the teacher your child was upset because she though she was being told she is not like her family - and asking the teacher politely what was really said.

You are getting a hard time first because you think your child is advanced and second because you started talking about micro aggressions very early on when most people were simply telling you that young children get confused easily.

Getting a hard time because OP thinks her daughter is advanced.
What a weird attitude!

Good job you don't live in America, it's common practice to think their own children are more advanced.

I like it, it's a good positive attitude.
Not negative like UK, where you're demonized for thinking your child may be advanced.

I agree that young children get confused easily but it doesn't hurt to check.

Hope you get it sorted OP

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MasterBeth · 11/09/2025 09:16

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Neither of what things happened?

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MasterBeth · 11/09/2025 09:12

moondune · 10/09/2025 21:11

Perhaps the teacher meant that at 4 years old a child can’t possibly know what religion they are. At that age it is something foisted upon them (or not).

I am staunchly atheist and agree with the fundamentals of your post but you would be a really dreadful teacher if you tried to make this point to a child of 4.

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:09

Your four year old doesn't understand other people aren't Muslim. So the teacher never said this.

anyolddinosaur · 11/09/2025 09:06

It's possible that the teacher said something like that (other child at the table) child is not a muslim.

You are being VU to get angry over something a 4 year old says without telling the teacher your child was upset because she though she was being told she is not like her family - and asking the teacher politely what was really said.

You are getting a hard time first because you think your child is advanced and second because you started talking about micro aggressions very early on when most people were simply telling you that young children get confused easily.

TheignT · 11/09/2025 09:05

40andlovelife · 10/09/2025 22:32

I’m not sure anyone is enraged at you feeling emotional towards your child. Bit hyperbolic that. I think people think it’s a ridiculous thing to approach the Teacher with.

Don't you think a teacher would want to know if a child goes home and cries about something she heard or misheard at school? I assumed teachers would want four year olds to be settling in happily not going home crying.

TheignT · 11/09/2025 08:59

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 08:52

The people who have been put in prison for it

Well it isn't a normal legal activity then is it.