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To not have DH’s dinner waiting on the table

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SoftPillow · 10/09/2025 20:32

My DH works a commute away and always comes home at 7.30pm earliest. I get home at 6.30pm if I’m at the office, as I did today.

His train was delayed, he told me to eat earlier. I ate with the kids, tidied up, prepped his dinner so the main part was cooked and waiting for him in the oven, then did bedtime, uniforms, school bags. All the usual shit I do every day.

I get downstairs about 30 secs before he gets home. I say your dinner is ready and in the oven, and he gets huffy that I haven’t prepped his salad.

‘I’d have done it for you’ he said. Well no, because you are never home before me, but if you were you’d be doing all the shit stuff I’d mentioned above.

I explained I’d been doing bedtime and that the entire household routine didn’t revolve around his arrival and needs for lettuce. He said that he was ‘disappointed’ that it wasn’t ready for him.

So I’ve come to Mumsnet as the sight of him mournfully making his salad makes me want to find a spade and a patio (perhaps exaggerating) AIBU not to have his salad prepared?

OP posts:
FairFuming · 10/09/2025 20:36

No you aren't unreasonable. It takes a minute to make a quick side salad and he had most of his supper ready waiting. If this is unusual behaviour for him then maybe let it slide but I think you need to have a conversation about his attitude when he's eaten and decompressed if this isn't a complete one off.

outerspacepotato · 10/09/2025 20:36

He'd be scrounging his own dinner every night with that attitude. You work too but he expects his dinner prepped and ready to eat on the table.

Dude. Bad dude. Spray him with the water bottle next time he pops out that 50s bullshit.

Rosesanddaffs · 10/09/2025 20:35

I’ll help you dig the patio.

Incase he’s forgotten you’ve been working too and doing all the other shit xx

ForeverPombear · 10/09/2025 20:34

You need to find a spade and dig up your patio.

He's bloody lucky you sorted most of his dinner anyway, if he was a single man living on his own he'd have had to do it himself.