Being apart from 9 month old for 2 weeks

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MissTiss · 10/09/2025 20:06

Hi all,

DH is from Australia and wants to take DD (3) and DS (9 months by then) home for Christmas. I'm supposed to join December 1 but he wants to go two weeks earlier for extra time with his family.

I'm already taking 4 weeks off work in December after 8 months of mat leave and I could really use the two weeks to get started on a contracted project that's overdue and fairly important (writing a book). Also missing one leg of plane journey feels like a reward for all the sleepless nights!

But I'm starting to worry that 2 weeks apart from DS is too long. His dad is brilliant, he's very attached to him and he loves his sister. Grandparents etc will be there too.

But is it too long? I am not BF.

YABU - enjoy good sleep and a clear head for 2 weeks, baby will be fine.
YANBU - baby is too small go with them or stay behind for just one week.

OP posts:

Cosyblankets · 10/09/2025 21:00

We had this the other way round in our family. They live in Oz. Baby came to uk with mum. All was fine.

Meadowflower2023 · 10/09/2025 20:56

I take my hat off to your DH, not many men would want to do that flight with two young children.

I personally couldn’t have left my DC at nine months for two weeks but this isn’t my predicament (unfortunately!) You know for sure you’ll miss them like crazy but could you actually not see/hold them for that amount of time?

lolomoon · 10/09/2025 20:20

If you feel comfortable with it then your baby will be fine! Dad sounds like he’s up for the challenge and it’s lovely that he is confident enough to do it. Grandparents will help too! Enjoy the downtime.

DaisyChain505 · 10/09/2025 20:10

Your baby will be with their other parent they will be fine.

Can you compromise and only come a week later if that makes you feel better?

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