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Porridge as evening meal for DC?

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Smithson85 · 10/09/2025 19:03

DC7 is a bit of a 'basic' eater and quite often just asks for a big bowl of porridge for his tea if we're at home - which I'm generally happy to give him.

But I'm getting a bit of judgement from the in-laws that we're not making him have a meat-and-two-veg style meal every evening. My thinking is that porridge (with milk, seeds and honey) is a pretty complete meal option, he has plenty of fruit and veg during the rest of the day, and he will eat 'proper' meals on other nights - but just seems to prefer the porridge a couple of times a week.

AIBU letting him have what he wants?

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oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 10/09/2025 19:48

It's a lot healthier than some of the stuff that kids are given !

tarheelbaby · 10/09/2025 19:42

Crack on! My DDs have not always been good eaters but a bowl of porridge at any time fills a crater in the tum-tum and is solid (literally, like concrete) nutrition. DD1 especially ate loads of porridge - sometimes 3x per day - twas better than chips ...

My MIL is in league with your rellies. None of us has ever told her about all the meat & 2 veg meals that my DDs have never had. She is a lovely lady but still convinced that in the evening 'you need something hot'.

The whole time they were in primary school they ate 'picnic tea' on a several nights at week - this was sandwiches and fruit/cucumber plus crisps - as we drove from activity to activity and then to pick up DH. It worked perfectly for us on all nights they had swimming, ballet or other activities that MC children must do

Unicornskies · 10/09/2025 19:38

I do sometimes wonder why porridge is only seen as a breakfast dish when it is so warming and satisfying on a chilly evening as a dinner. It's an easy way of getting in some fruit, seeds etc and recently I've started mixing in some Greek yoghurt, which adds protein but also makes the porridge so creamy and filling.

It's a better dinner than something like oven nuggets and chips.

GivingUpFinally · 10/09/2025 19:36

Porridge is a great meal and we have it as a family if we're under time pressure. Everyone loves it.

Maybe try adding a tablespoon of flaxseed or even a teaspoon to help boost the nutritional benefits. They hardly alter the flavour at all. We also add cinnamon, sultanas or other dried fruit, fresh fruit, Greek yogurt, honey or maple syrup depending on how Everyone is feeling. We also sometimes have a plain Porridge amd then each add whatever we fancy. Gets the kids involved and the youngest calls it cooking which is sweet.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 10/09/2025 19:30

My mate regularly gives her kids porridge for dinner... we all take the piss that she's feeding them gruel but are secretly impressed her kids will eat porridge, not moan and she has two bowls to bung in the dishwasher!

Magenta82 · 10/09/2025 19:19

Its a healthy meal, especially when you consider the toppings, it really isn't an issue

Hankunamatata · 10/09/2025 19:17

Love bowl porridge.
Chopped dates are my fav at the mo

SoftPillow · 10/09/2025 19:16

If he’s asked for it and is happy with it, I can’t see a problem.

Sometimes you get home exhausted and eating something complicated is just one faff too many. Cereal, porridge, toast are all fine quick dinners in my book, if that’s what the person fancies

itsgettingweird · 10/09/2025 19:15

I’m out most evenings with ds training and I often take a thermos with porridge (oats, water and honey) and add some raspberries or take a banana.

It’s filling, full of fibre and as you said you can eat fruit/veg and protein during the day.

I think it’s great your listening to your child’s needs around food which will build a better relationship with it than eating a full dinner he doesn’t want.

ListOfJobsKeepsGrowing · 10/09/2025 19:12

My little one isn't particularly fussy, but still sometimes insists on porridge for dinner.
I thinks there's far worse things he could eat, so I generally allow it if he's asked before I've prepared anything else.
It usually gets an extra portion of fruit into him too.

BuddyGiveOver · 10/09/2025 19:12

Sounds fine. It's fairly balanced and probably healthier than sausage and mash or whatever

MrsVinceVega · 10/09/2025 19:11

It's fine.

I sometimes have porridge with berries or toast with peanut butter and an apple.

Overthebow · 10/09/2025 19:09

As long as he’s getting his fruit and veg in other meals that day then there’s no problem. Porridge isn’t bad.

ListOfJobsKeepsGrowing · 10/09/2025 19:08

My little one isn't particularly fussy, but still sometimes insists on porridge for dinner.
I thinks there's far worse things he could eat, so I generally allow it if he's asked before I've prepared anything else.
It usually gets an extra portion of fruit into him too.

CinnamonBuns67 · 10/09/2025 19:08

Nah if his belly gets filled and he wants to eat it then do it.

PepsiMaxandPringleStacks · 10/09/2025 19:05

I have a picky eater who is 7 and my goal is as long as hes eating! There's worse things than a bowl of porridge to consume, I wouldnt worry too much!

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