Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

This is a great response - do this. Good luck OP - there are decent men out there. My best mate is a single man on the apps and is just as disenchanted by the women he meets.

You can’t argue with stupid and it sounds like he doesn’t have the capacity to even comprehend your perspective. Don’t block him as the messages could be quite entertaining for you… don’t waste your time responding, just remain gracefully silent….

I agree with the others! He is quite simply too stupid to breathe. Don't waste your time trying to explain how inappropriate the 'thickos' behaviour was. Just block him and move on.
Look ahead, into the future! I'm not being a snob, but can you honestly imagine being at any social event with him. Ooooooh! I think not! Anyway good luck going forward.

It is odd and people don’t believe it… but actually narcissists often go for women in high powered positions!
when asked why they go for strong women they have answered things like ‘well I could go for unconfident women.. but where’s the fun in that!!’
part of the ‘fun’ for them is destroying women in important roles…. His name calling was his way of ‘testing you’… to see how much he can get away with..,. If you meet up again I’m sure he’d turn in the charm - love bomb you…. But he’d know that he can treat you like crap and you go back for more…. This is how abusive men work… reel you in, mistreat, then reel again…

I’d either message him back and tell him you’re very proud of your work and found it very inappropriate that he finds it funny to call someone a pedo.. then block without letting him respond!
or just block without responding!… he sounds like a manchild

Pratt! Just ghost and leave him hanging

Oh god, he sounds awful. Why would you want to spend any more time with him?

He’s prob so intimidated by you he tried to act like he wasn’t. I’d be irritated too & would dump him.

Txt him say f o and block

Who gives a shit about 'etiquette' when they've been subjected to negging?

Hang on a sec. When people say 'block and move on', do they mean literally that? Like, ermmmm ghosting?

After spending a couple of weeks chatting and an evening together, if a guy didn't want to see me I'd fully expect him to text me and let me know. Blocking and moving on is awful - totally rejecting the other person, leaving them completely none the wiser about why. So cruel and really bad dating etiquette. Is it really what you mean?

He felt threatened by a woman who was cleverer and more successful than him.
He sounds an absolutely vile specimen of a human being. Just block him.

what a nob !!! What’s his job ? Nothing g like as important as yours I bet . Block him move on not all blokes are nobs

Sounds like a reform voter.

Walking red flag. What’s his job out of interest ? I wonder if less qualified academically and has a big fat chip on his shoulder.

I was about to say the same. His responses to you during the date suggest he’s got a chip missing. Double check your profiles online and remove any photos or social media which could trace you to your workplace etc.

@brackenbury this is yet another awful story - how horrible after the upset of losing your father and previous partner. It troubles me that he's tried, clearly against your obvious wishes, to reconnect with you - it smacks of harassment (possibly he's stung by the rejection) more than your everyday denseness - I hope this is the last you hear from him.

What do you take forward from this? I wondered if you have a dual SIM capable phone - perhaps consider using another SIM/eSIM (i.e. another number on your mobile phone) for setting up WhatsApp using the alternative number - you can always dispose of the number or replace it with another number - just to keep people you don't have good reason to fully trust, at arms length.

How did you connect with this guy in the first place - is it through an app you can log a complaint through? From this point on, I'd give as little away as possible for him to feed off - no explanations - just stay disconnected. It must be hard to put it completely out of mind and to even think positively about another date with anyone if that's what you want - but - as true as it is that there are some undesirable guys out there on the prowl, there are some perfectly decent ones too imho - and if you stop looking you'll never find any of them.

That is one hell of an inference. Perhaps 'ex' is too strong a word to use for my own examples, but I have had several previous brief romantic interests (very previous, from back in the pre-social media days) who wouldn't know what my parents names were, least of all have met them, try to add me on LinkedIn. Or email me at my work email after infering my email address from the organisation I worked at, as listed on LinkedIn. Often nearly 2 decades after I last saw them.

Creeps going to creep, and blaming women for not being 'diligent enough' to stop this behaviour is deeply misogynistic.

The issue is that somebody can follow you on LinkedIn without you 'accepting' a friend request, unlike other platforms, and unlike how LinkedIn worked when I signed up for it. This change happened years ago with little awareness of the impact this can, and does be seeming to have, on women.

yes, but they were "ex's" for a reason, you had a relationship with them, they probably knew your family but these perfect strangers on the internet who you have zero references... giving your real name away is not the best idea, maybe once you've gone with the guy on a few dates and have a good feeling about him?

Oh he sounds absolutely dreadful, negging at a guess although no doubt he'd go for the it's only a bit of banter defence.

if he contacts you again I'd send a brief but snooty reply about the inappropriateness of calling you a pedo and that you didn't find it remotely witty. Nobody would.
im sorry you've had a horrible few years, hopefully things will get better for you from now on.

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He’s definitely not worth a second date.

But for any future woman this twit comes into contact with, please tell him why you’re not pursuing a relationship with him.

It may just be the wake up call he needs

OP, I'm not a doctor, but I am an intelligent woman who once rebounded with a man who couldn't pronounce some of the course titles I was studying at the time. (I had rebounded to him from a very brilliant physicist, and I think I went too far the other way...) It was a disaster. He ended up shagging my housemate who was so clever she was able to convince him she wasn't iyswim. You deserve much better and I am sorry this happened to you. FYI people in 'sales' aren't particuarly clever as a rule, though they do think they are God's gift.

Agree. I have a couple people, not exes or men, who make me hesitate about opening a linkedin but I do need to open one.

Some people are single for a reason!

Since he hasn't learned to hide how terrible he is, at least it should be obvious for his next date.