Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

Was he draped in a St George cross too? Sounds like a right idiot

I like the PP who said “tell him to P off.”

He sounds horrendous. Possibly threatened by successful, clever women. You deserve much better (and I suspect will find it, if you decide to keep looking).

you sound great OP - he’s just an idiot alas

@brackenbury Why not go on a date with a normal man who isn't obsessed with paedophilia, and who wants to talk about things that are not work related?

Clearly, you're a very very smart, educated person. I don't think you need to waste any time with this knobhead..... what on earth do you see yourself talking about with him ? He's quite simply an eeeeeedyat and you owe him nothing. Do not lower your standards. NEXT........
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Its not remotely funny but I burst out laughing at this! Not at his pathetic humour but out of shock that an adult man would behave like this on a date and you had to sit there and humour such an imbecile. I haven't heard such discourse from a male since I was at secondary school. Did he also wear lynx deodrant and fart loudly and laugh about it??

He was intimidated by your profession so he wanted to make you feel bad by making a stupid joke he seems childish and a loser don’t give him another chance .

I really think you have left the minute he said that to you on the date. I don't understand why you stayed another moment longer with that idiot.

Block him now and work on tightening your boundaries.

Am I the only one who doesn’t understand this post? What do you mean she read the PhD to get to know her better? If your friend is a woman, what’s that got to do with men being immature? And what do you mean that guys with PhDs aren’t any better? Please explain! 🤯

Ah, the manosphere 'negging' bs. A whole movement that tells men they have to put women in their place by putting them down so their expectations are lowered.

I doubt that your feedback would make any difference. He's a puerile, sad little man who clearly does not deserve your attention or time. Move on.

Tell him you spend your working life with children and don't want to spent your free time with one!

He sounds like a complete moron.

Why are you even asking? Block!

I’d respond and tell him why you are blocking him. He sounds like a weirdo.

He was negging you. You're successful and that makes him feel insecure. Deep down he knows that's pathetic, hence the veneer of "joking".

And you say this guy is 43? He's a loser. You're well rid.

I hate men like that. I would have just stood up and walked out. Don't reply or explain - it’s not worth wasting another second of your precious life.

He actually sounds scary.

Just thick I reckon. No person of normal intelligence would think it was remotely funny. Saying it once and then cringing yourself inside out is one thing (still thick, but some self awareness at least) - repeating it again and again? 😳 yikes. What a loser he is. At least he put himself out of the running early on OP, that's about the most positive thing I can say 🤭

That's what I thought - but you are perhaps worried about the situation. Definitely don't respond - it's what he wants and no matter what you say he could twist it to continue involvement with you. I hope you hear no more of him.

I’m all for blocking him but you should have told him why. If for no other reason than to do the next woman who dates him a favour! 😂

Ah yes. This was brought sharply into light thanks to a super gay lesbian friend, who, when she felt the ol' hormones of luurve flowing, and through conversation, discovered her date had a PhD, "read it so I could get to know her better".

I just can't believe it's taken me to this age to realise how fucking immature men generally are. If I don't enjoy their company, or the hot second there's an energy shift I'm out. Also started calling out their shite as they really do need it explaining to them. Even the decent ones. Just don't get angry, do it like you're talking about the weather.

Men, sort your status and hierarchy issues out, be mindful of them at least!

A PhD is a dick slayer.. Oh and don't think guys with PhDs are any better. Don't get me STARTED on male medical PhDs.

OMG the Harvard academic who could not work out the washing machine when my (doctorate) friend left him. What. The. Fuck. Is. It. With. The. Washing. Machine. Alzheimer's.

Do tell him off for funsies, but for your entertainment. He treated your life's work as his entertainment. See how he likes the energy (he won't, stay safe).

He can't cope with an intelligent woman,hence the infantile response.
Don't even bother to reply. It will feed his ego. Block and move on.
Maybe go on a site for professionals .
Good luck. You don't deserve to be treated like this by an unintelligent moral!

He's an insecure, unamusing twat.

I think you're right that he felt he needed to 'bring you down'. It has been my experience in the past that many men can't handle being with intelligent women. It hurts their ego. 100% their problem, but it's worth remembering that all men are not the same. Good ones are out there.

I also think you need to unclench a tad. You don't need to take the inane ramblings of a man child so personally.

Laugh it off and move on.

Yeah you can do better.

Loads of men do feel the necessity to crap on women success to feel important. Please find one that is happy and leave the unhappy ones in their unhappy ponds (lake, ocean?)

Honestly he is beneath you and below your standard for a response. Block and move on OP. You do an amazing job which is super hard.

Oh god, you poor thing. Idiot.
It reminds me of the episode of Friends when Monica goes out with Chip 😂