Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

Nobody cares about idiotic men like this. They deserve to be blocked and ghosted. I don't waste my time giving lengthy explanations to puerile stupid people.

What a brainless moran

What a idiot

Sorry you had to deal with this man child block him and move on. Life is way too short.

As for 2 to 3 weeks of messaging - that’s another waste of your time! if you like the sound of someone arrange to meet for a coffee straight away; you will know within minutes whether you like this person or not. Coffee can last 20 minutes and you are out of there. you cannot get to know somebody via text, as you have just proven. what a waste of those three weeks of your precious life have been! you deserve way way better and yet here you are still talking about somebody who wasted so much of your time already. Let him be someone else’s waste of time and spend your time attracting the kind of person that you want and deserve.

What does he do for a living?

I didn’t explain why I ended the date early with the guy I mentioned upthread other than to say I felt uncomfortable and his attitude came across as combative.

But I didn’t mention everything eg. the fact he seemed drunk or that he was smoking in the restaurant terrace. He could’ve checked with me if I was going to be okay with him blowing smoke around our table while I (non-smoker) ate.

I think it’s up to each person if they tell their bad date what went wrong but I certainly don’t feel Op has a responsibility or obligation to.

If she chooses to that’s fine but just be aware if he is really unhinged there may be backlash.

I had that once from a guy I’d been talking to. He claimed he’d call me on X day for a phone date (during the pandemic) and just didn’t bother although I seen he was on WhatsApp that evening.

The next day I told him it was pathetic he couldn’t even make a pre-arranged phone call after texting me every day that week, and saying how eager he was to chat. I said not to bother calling me when he finally decided he wanted to actually talk and goodbye .
I then blocked him but he sent me a very long angry text from another phone number!

But yeah honestly women aren’t obliged to try and fix strange men! Especially given when they do they are mostly met with gaslighting or hostility.

Tbh there are so many awful men (and women) in relationships too. I believe there’s always a woman who will feel desperate enough to take on a man. We see it on here all the time. Same probably goes for men too although I think women are more conditioned to accept bottom barrel behaviour.

So I don’t necessarily think someone is single because they’re awful, since it doesn’t stop anyone else from finding “a match”

The OP must be an intelligent woman, and she has let an incredibly immature adult make her feel bad about her profession. His whole behaviour is juvenile, crass and quite honestly pathetic. She needs to block and move on and not give any head space to this imbecile.

I disagree.

It's EVERY person's responsibility to at least minimally speak up, to inform, to educate, to clarify.

I never said she wasn't justified in blocking him. I just think that's not a very good reaction for either of them.

Was it Ronald Villiers of Widdecombe and pump.. chewing the fat viewers will get it.

I'm sure brackenbury knows this (being an educated women） but for the avoidance of doubt, "paidos" (child) and "philos" (loving) are Greek, not Latin.

Because your an intelligent women with a prestigious and admirable career some men will try and belittle you or embarrass you Because they are jealous & feel immasculated... they will weed themselves out & as this one clearly has ... don't give up there is an incredibly handsome, intelligent man with a good bank account without an inferiority complex waiting for you x

Apart from being crass/juvenile, the joking about paediatrician/paedophile is incredibly unpleasant. How does he know that the OP or anyone else he goes on a date with isn’t an SA survivor? It’s not something they would tell him before a first date.

Plus, a paediatrician will obviously come across children who are victims of SA, so will find his jokes in very bad taste.

He sounds a bit thick op.

That last sentence is brilliant. As well as a specialist nurse you are also very funny!

What a complete arse. Tell him, he's not funny and a crap date to boot. Fun times with him, not a chance. I appreciate he might have been nervous but also tell him why, as he clearly is unable to see you didn't have a nice time. Otherwise he'll inflict his 'humour' on some other poor unsuspecting date.

OP, I'm a bit concerned for you. You're clearly highly educated and have a valuable and good job. But your self-esteem seems low. You simply do NOT have to 'settle' for someone like this, or indeed any man who gets 'abusive and angry' if you aren't bowled over by their majestic personality. Just don't even go there. In your shoes I wouldn't have sat this date out - I would have walked out, after explaining that owing to his utter offensive stupidity, the two of you will never work out.

But actually your comment about not wanting to be 'too openly unimpressed' for fear of triggering angry abusive men is worrying me more. Please don't pander to dicks. Please please don't belittle yourself or keep quiet or be 'polite' to pander to men you suspect might get nasty. You can avoid this. Stay safe, I hope you meet someone you hit it off with that you can meet with on your own level. You sound lovely and you are doing a brilliant job.

I don't know why you are feeling bad - he sounds incredibly thick and insecure into the bargain. I'd be embarrassed for him, he sounds about 12.

Hes feeling inferior. Most men cant handle an educated woman.
I had similar while chatting to a guy via old.

Lots of 'jokes- and 'banter' which wasnt at all. It was negging. He seemed normal until he found out I had more qualifications than him which led him to start calling me a 'bird' and hes still the boss ( wink wink).

As for your date...who laughs at that ...god even a child wouldn't find that funny. Thank yourself you found out sooner and not wasted anymore time on the sad prick

He sounds thick as shit. You're far too accomplished to waste your time on someone as brain dead as this. Keep looking.

There is a reason some people remain single.

I would say to him that although he appears to have the mental age of a child himself, we are not well matched, so goodbye. And block.

mansplain to him that the prefix “peas” means child hence the name pediatrician or child doctor, and pedophile which translates to child loving both Latin words where the term originates

then laugh at him and say no thanks

I think respond saying no thanks outline your reasons and then block. Only suggesting this as it might just get it off your chest so you can move on. But defo block