Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

I love it when the first answer nails it.

Don't waste your time with this wanker.
He's an idiot

This and to grow up! X

Well, he certainly did not read the room, did he? At best he is insensitive with a juvenile 'sense of humour' - at worst he has taken the red pill and thinks the way to get a woman is by making them uncomfortable and insecure. I would tell him why he will never be seeing you again. Sorry, its grim.

Why didn't you say something on the date? I couldn't have sat there and been insulted over and over again.

I'd have said something up front like "I'm not really finding that funny, in fact, I'm finding it pretty offensive". And see what his reaction would be. If he got huffy, well that would be the end of the date and you could part.

I think you need to explain to him in very clear terms what is acceptable or not. Otherwise these men imagine somehow it's incel culture and 'women are to blame', when it's very clearly not the case. He's an imbecile.

Paediatricians do an amazing job. Often in extremely difficult circumstances. You want to be with someone who builds you up not makes puerile jokes.

There is nothing funny about child abuse and calling someone a paedo could have serious implications to their job, let alone it just not being even vaguely funny.

Dump and move on. Or ghost and move on. He’s not worth the time of day.

As a man reading this, I'm horrified - what a dick - but I guess my question would be why you stayed after he went down that road.

It shows he has a complete lack of sense and education in acceptable behaviour.

As to going forward, just ignore, he's not worth your valuable time.

And thanks for the much appreciated good work you do!

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@brackenbury absolutely call him out!
Tell him he is childish and ignorant and horrible .
That you would never go on a second date

Exactly!

I'd be tempted to say something along the lines of "given that you repeatedly brought up paedophiles on our first date.....there won't be a second one."

He sounds horrid and dim. Don't give him another thought.

How do you even entertain the idea that calling a pediatrician a pedo is ok

You're well out of it! He sounds very immature, that's schoolboy stuff.

There are many more fish in the sea who are not silly little boys of 43. He must know he was being ridiculous.

Onwards and upwards!

How embarrassing for HIM! Throw him back

So he has got an inferiority complex when meeting a highly educated woman which leads him to try to belittle said woman. Charming..not so much. Maybe try to date someone working in healthcare who will respect and admire you. I do, I could never have gotten through med school.

Ha ha first post nailed it!!

What an stupid man

insecure and a felt he needed to bring you down

block move on he isn’t worthy of a response

I can't get my head round why you stayed!

The first time he'd said that I'd have given him a look and said, 'What an incredibly juvenile and inappropriate thing to say. Do you actually know what a paediatrician does?'

If he'd said it again I'd have stood up and left. And blocked him.

Yuck. Definitely block, but I would send something first that makes it clear how unacceptable his behaviour is.

I've got some "P" words to describe you Derek; pathetic, puerile, persona non grata. I'm afraid I'm not interested in dating anyone with the sense of humour of a 9 year old boy and the inability to recognise when they are being incredibly offensive.

Joking about paediatrician sounding similar to pedo might be funny, once, to an 8 year old.

But the signals being given out are more serious than the wearisome, and over used, 'joke'

I suspect he can't cope with your better education, job, salary, position etc and this is his way of putting you down and pulling himself up.

It's not a good basis for any meaningful relationship.

Tell him/block him/ghost him as you see fit.

Other men are available.

All the best.

I would just reply, "Surely you can't seriously think I would be up for a second date with you?"

Hi Name ,

Im really not sure what you were going for but taking the piss out of my job and repeatedly calling me a pedo was not funny and frankly a bizarre way to behave towards someone on a first date.

I am not interested in another one. No need to respond.

then block.

Indeed. I would bet that OP has patients who are significantly more mature than that moron.

he's massively insecure and a loser. block.

you know what to do, block him.
Fragile ego,thin skinned man threatened by a clever professional woman
He has absolutely shown you what a dullard he is. Run