To pay my boyfriend’s child’s school fees?

Is this a troll post? Unless you are a millionaire why would anyone expect someone else to fund for their child?

It does depend on your relationship with the man and the child and how easy it would be to part with £40k.
I would pay for a family, e.g. 1st/2nd nephews/nieces if I had a good relationship with parents but not sure re relatively new boyfriends. Although appreciate how unpleasant it might be for him not being able to afford those 2 yrs

Give your children a leg up on the housing ladder instead. Or set it aside for your future grandchildren. Your loyalties are misplaced.

The child has a mother, and she might have siblings or parents, likewise your boyfriend, who could help.

If you weren't around, they'd figure it out.

Don't be sucked into feeling like you should, it's your money, you will need it for your future.
Easy to give, hard to get back.

Honestly, Look after your own. His children have two very capable parents, you haven’t met his DC3 and they are not your responsibility, they’ve both made it clear they don’t have the money, so unlikely you’d ever be repaid if loaned.

Feasibly if this is for 2 years only, in 2 years time boyfriend would have stopped paying fees altogether and will have the means to pay you back instead. This would be the only way I would consider it. As a loan.

Also - how much is this going to be a stretch for you? Is it taking all your savings or will you still have a comfortable pot?

Imagine then you’ve paid the fees and he wants to leave you but can’t because he feels beholden to you… it kind of gives you a power you probably don’t want … you might always be wondering if he’s only with you for that reason! It makes the relationship uneven I think. Loan by all means but don’t pay it.

I was gonna say it's your money and if u can afford it then that's entirely up to, which is still is, but seeing that u also have kids that went to state school, absolutely big no no! If my mum had done that I would think it would have really affected our relationship

Even if you were married,I would say don't pay
Why would you want to cause upset to your own children,as you didn't pay for them ,but are paying for a random child you've never met ..madness

Term and sixth form have already started. The parents should contact the school rather than move a pupil. Schools have bursaries/contingency for all sorts of situations and they should be able to help in some way.

You’re going to change the dynamics of your relationship. He’ll be indebted to you , so what if you argue or he wants to split ?

You’d pay for a boyfriend’s child (a child you barely have a relationship with but didn’t pay for your own kids to go to private school?

I don’t understand why the parents don’t just apply to the schools bursary scheme, if they really are struggling, usually the school will want to help students that are already in the school.

No and no and oh hell no

Personally, I think it's a lovely gesture. I think it depends how much that money means to you - as in, are you going to struggle without it? Is it just disposable income? If you split up with your BF, would you begrudge having paid it?
I think it's really generous and karma is absolutely real. But don't put yourself at hardship to do it.

No, it would place your BF under some kind of obligation to you, and possibly cause problems in the future.
What if you split up, would you continue to fund the schooling for the following year?
I think the State school should be just fine.

If I was your kids and getting to bee you pay fees for a boyfriend of a year DC and dis not send me to private school I would be very resentful

What a load of actual bullsh*t! My DD went to a regular 6th form at an average school and achieved 3 A stars in Biology, Chemistry and Maths. no tutors, no fancy private schools. She's got one more year at Uni studying Chemistry and she's near the top of her year. Your BF cannot seriously be 'devastated' because his kid has to choose a different (free) 6th form! Plus obviously don't just gift them the money - that's crazy.

A year?? Absolutely not! I’ve had a longer relationship with my dustbin man! If you were married, maybe but certainly not after dating a year unless you just want to burn your money! Not your husband, not your child, not your problem…sorry, but so many things could go wrong such as you breaking up and never seeing your money again! Nope…

You would be crazy to entertain this, you are mostly likely to never see the money again. It’s not just tuition it’s exam fees / trip fees and likely uniform yes even for 6th Form. It’s a never ending tap with 20% vat on top to boot.

its down to the parents or their family.

youre only a year in and you don’t live with each other / legally bonded.

100% don't do it. Your BF's children are not your responsibility especially 1 you have never met. If you break up it leaves you in a bad situation.

No way. Will probably do him good to do sixth form elsewhere to be honest.

How much is the shortfall?
Is this a gift or a loan?

Have to agree with the others. He’s semi retired so he goes back to work and earns the money to send his son to school

WHAT?! Your boyfriend is party retired and devastated about not being able to pay his sons sixth form school fees.

there is a simple solution here. He gets a full time job and earns more money for 2 years.