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Teacher not saying hello

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Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:25

My son has just started reception it's literally day 4. He only turned 4 on the 26th of August so he's the youngest in his class. We had a meeting with his teacher and head teacher before we made the decision to send him or wait till next year. They were very supportive and said he was ready from what they can see. He went to nursery 3 days a week at the school.

So he started along with his friends from nursery. But he has been crying every morning. The teacher hasn't even said morning once. He is taken from my from the teaching assistant. I understand the main teacher is busy and there are lots of partners and children, but she know my son is the youngest, we were worried about him starting and she hasn't even made the effort.

Am I wrong for emailing the school.

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arethereanyleftatall · 10/09/2025 15:03

Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 15:00

Haha do you have children and understand how much the develope in a year

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Um. You do realise don’t you op that every other child isn’t an entire year older than him?!? Likely there’ll be a few august borns, a few july etc
also in other years children are 4 in august, so they’re kind of used to it. Your kid isn’t some kind of 1 in a kind!!

Han86 · 10/09/2025 15:02

Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 15:01

I was on abkut during g the day for a coupe of days untill he was settled lol

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How do you know this doesn't happen?

SallySuperTrooper · 10/09/2025 15:02

Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:57

I have been with this school for over 10 years. I have never made one complaint.

We had a meeting before he started and she said she would offer support, we had an email 2 days before he started saying how they will support him and us as a family as we were concerned he was so young.

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship.

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2 mins with every child in the am? An hour of teaching time to say hello? Or just yours? How old is he?

Ablondiebutagoody · 10/09/2025 15:02

Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:57

I have been with this school for over 10 years. I have never made one complaint.

We had a meeting before he started and she said she would offer support, we had an email 2 days before he started saying how they will support him and us as a family as we were concerned he was so young.

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship.

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2x30=1 hour per day on one to one relationship building. Teacher will be extremely lucky if she gets an hour per week for that!

Han86 · 10/09/2025 15:01

Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:57

I have been with this school for over 10 years. I have never made one complaint.

We had a meeting before he started and she said she would offer support, we had an email 2 days before he started saying how they will support him and us as a family as we were concerned he was so young.

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship.

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You are witnessing one very small moment of the day. There may be other August birthdays in the class, other children with additional needs and even just generally other children with things going on that the teacher is also aware of and needs to check in with.

The TA is in this situation welcoming your child. Your child will likely be welcomed when doing the register, if not before.

I don't know what you would be emailing to complain about - the teacher didn't say hello?

Dozycuntlaters · 10/09/2025 15:01

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship

OP I get it, I'm not trying to be mean but what if every child wanted 2 minutes one on one from the teacher. It's just not possible and as long as your child is being greeted, feels safe etc and the teacher isn't being mean to horrid to him, that is the main thing.

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Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 15:01

arethereanyleftatall · 10/09/2025 15:00

You want the teacher to spend 2 minutes (so an entire hour per class of 30) greeting each kid individually?!? No thanks, as a parent I do not want to waste 25% of teaching time saying hello.

I was on abkut during g the day for a coupe of days untill he was settled lol

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Starlight1984 · 10/09/2025 15:01

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship.

Oh come on. 2 minutes with each child? You can't be serious...

Or..... do you mean with just your child?!?!

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Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 15:00

Starlight1984 · 10/09/2025 14:53

but she know my son is the youngest, we were worried about him starting and she hasn't even made the effort.

What the fuck has him being the youngest got to do with anything?!?! 😂

Haha do you have children and understand how much the develope in a year

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arethereanyleftatall · 10/09/2025 15:00

You want the teacher to spend 2 minutes (so an entire hour per class of 30) greeting each kid individually?!? No thanks, as a parent I do not want to waste 25% of teaching time saying hello.

IwouldlikeanewTV · 10/09/2025 14:59

Hi Op I understand you are worried. He is your baby. But you will be fine. My son was 6 weeks premature and born end of August. He managed and is in the forces now. It is hard as we all think our baby is the most important but you need to lighten up. My second child cried everyday at nursery. It’s tough, but it has to be done.

Luxio · 10/09/2025 14:59

First thing in the morning as they are coming in the door really isn't the time to be building a relationship especially if your child is already with the TA. I get you're anxious but you seem to be just looking for problems where they don't actually exist.

Bluevelvetsofa · 10/09/2025 14:58

I imagine these aren’t the answers OP is looking for.

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Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:57

Dozycuntlaters · 10/09/2025 14:32

Don't be "that" parent. He is being greeted and welcomed, it really doesnt matter if its the TA or the teacher. Honestly, if you are going to complain about this, you are going to lose all credibility and when you have a real complaint they just wont take you seriously. It is hard having a young one, my DS was the youngest as he was born on 31st August but it was harder for me than it was him. Loosen up a bit, he will feed off your upset about this all.

I have been with this school for over 10 years. I have never made one complaint.

We had a meeting before he started and she said she would offer support, we had an email 2 days before he started saying how they will support him and us as a family as we were concerned he was so young.

I'm taking about a hello in the morning lol, and to maybe spend 2 minutes one on one to check in lol build a relationship.

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Beautifulhaiku · 10/09/2025 14:57

Does she say hello to every kid other than him?

arethereanyleftatall · 10/09/2025 14:56

im a teacher - swimming - and through experience I have learnt that when parents are over anxious, as it seems you are op, I need to step up in under anxious to balance it all out ifswim.

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Tubestrike · 10/09/2025 14:55

Maybe he's not as ready as you think

Starlight1984 · 10/09/2025 14:53

but she know my son is the youngest, we were worried about him starting and she hasn't even made the effort.

What the fuck has him being the youngest got to do with anything?!?! 😂

arethereanyleftatall · 10/09/2025 14:53

Wow!!!
fgs if this is what you get upset about, I would buckle up for your next 10 years op.
this is absolutely NOTHING to worry about and to waste the schools time over this is simply ridiculous

pinkbackground · 10/09/2025 14:53

Why can’t the TA be just as welcoming as the teacher?

Starlight1984 · 10/09/2025 14:52

Am I wrong for emailing the school.

Yes. Very. HTH.

Wolfiefan · 10/09/2025 14:52

The teacher is there to get them in and start the day. Not give a personal welcome to each of the 30 kids. 🤦‍♀️

Ablondiebutagoody · 10/09/2025 14:51

I don't think that you should email the school or be so fixated on DS's age.

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Hc1984 · 10/09/2025 14:50

Dozycuntlaters · 10/09/2025 14:32

Don't be "that" parent. He is being greeted and welcomed, it really doesnt matter if its the TA or the teacher. Honestly, if you are going to complain about this, you are going to lose all credibility and when you have a real complaint they just wont take you seriously. It is hard having a young one, my DS was the youngest as he was born on 31st August but it was harder for me than it was him. Loosen up a bit, he will feed off your upset about this all.

Wow okay the teacher is the one at the door greeting.

You must all be very rude peope if you don't think an upset 4 year old is looking at his teacher for a hello and she says nothing lol.

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