I know Im being unreasonable!! but WTF?!...

I get that not everyone can but its hardly shocking that some people do.

You must have been hoovering behind her.

I was sat next to a good friend of mine.... She opened her bank to £108,000 !!

Well it's not easy at all. I did two degrees as a single mum with absolutely nothing and now do specialist NHS work, earn a lot and managed to buy my own house and easily have similar savings. It certainly wasn't easy, we scrimped and saved for years.
You can do better for yourself if you try hard enough and want it enough.
I didn't have any qualifications to speak of from school when I started as a mature student, I did extra entry level qualifications to get into university and sometimes wanted to throw in the towel because it was so hard.
But I want a nice life, I grew up poor and didn't want to go back there.

I would also look if it's waving in my face and so what. Not the least bit apologetic about it. Don't want people to see it - be more careful with what you're doing.

That said, I misread it as 800k and the following comms being 'get a better job', 'save 50p here and there', I though wtf. But 800 certainly isn't a lot of money. 15k sort of is, but it's hardly a life-changing massive amount. And perfectly saveable, especially if the person wasn't very young.

My granny, for example, recently bought a flat for about 100k or thereabouts for my sibling. From her savings. And she still has about 15k left. I know this, as she told me. She had a decent enough job, but wasn't a rich woman/millionaire/businesswoman.

Those aren’t large sums of money. £1k and £2k can be swallowed up on a car bill or similar.

Ds and his partner managed to save up 20k for a house deposit doing very ordinary retail and council jobs part time. They just scrimped on absolutely everything, clothes from charity shop, compared supermarket food prices and so on.
Now they own a house in their 40's.

If only it was that easy, we’d all be loaded !

People should not be viewing online banking apps in public spaces where they could be overlooked!
OP would have probably faint if I opened mine in public!
Keep stuff private you don’t know who’s looking!

YABVU you shouldn't be looking and surely you realise people have more money that you? I recommend you're never nosey over my shoulder if I've got my banking app open or we'd probably need to pick you up off the floor!

You earn less than a full time minimum wage salary. You have no idea of her circumstances, maybe she works full time, maybe she has 2 jobs, maybe she’s worked very hard at uni then a professional job, maybe she was born into money. Who knows, but it’s no point comparing. Only you can change your circumstances so maybe focus on that. What can you do if you want more money, retrain, go full time, get a second job, change career.

It may be ‘recommended’ but it’s not actually realistic for a vast percentage of the population.

I admire your positive attitude and understand why you don't want to touch your savings but please for the love of god do not jeopardise your health like this. You're making yourself vulnerable to serious illness by not eating enough. What would happen to your children then?

Food banks exist for exactly this reason, please look into getting a referral.

I think most people don’t have a ton of money in the bank to be honest, especially at the moment. Don’t compare yourself to anyone, you don’t know what goes on in their lives.

Ditto (though obviously not Lloyd's Mastercard with that particular balance)

I mean thats quite a slow look away 😂

Yep it's soul destroying

Mine doesn't - the only time it has a minus sign is if it accidentally has a positive balance (eg a refund to it)

There’s literally no point in comparing what you think others have with what you have. We all make different choices, have different opportunities open to us at any given time. Of course you’re not going to have substantial savings on a low wage, and there will be reasons for you earning £18k which may or may not change over time. I’d hate to think someone over looked me in a queue and made assumptions about my life choices.

Exactly.
Or what challenges this individual is going through life.

It is just not a nice thing to do and then post on mumsnet expecting sympathy for her woes.

Indeed.

Nope. Yours might. Mine doesn’t.

Don't compare yourself to other people, you have no idea what her circumstances are. She may be in a different stage of life from you . I used to live from week to week, and had to use credit cards that were never paid off in full for birthday gifts etc. Now I'm much better off and I have savings, but it took years.

Yes, honestly. That's beyond nosy.

It's a lot of money, although not crazy. 10k is a good amount for an emergency fund. No one knows how long it might have taken her to save it.

“If you just pull your socks up…”