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I know Im being unreasonable!! but WTF?!...

205 replies

PunnyOliveTurtle · 10/09/2025 11:15

In the queue for the post office and a woman in front of me (take note we very squished up together) opened up her banking app. and my heart sank, she had 4 accounts...800ish, 2kish, 1kish and 10kish. I have one account with 178quid til pay day at the end of the month, and i need to buy food and pay a bill. I know i was unreasonable for looking, I looked away as soon as I could, but my heart died a little. I'll never have that kind of money. Such a different world we live in...

OP posts:
Onthebusses · 10/09/2025 13:35

BellyPork · 10/09/2025 12:49

I admire your positive attitude and understand why you don't want to touch your savings but please for the love of god do not jeopardise your health like this. You're making yourself vulnerable to serious illness by not eating enough. What would happen to your children then?

Food banks exist for exactly this reason, please look into getting a referral.

I eat, just only about 1,500 calories. Of course I utilise food banks also. There just isn't enough money in the pot. I can't touch my savings, I put them somewhere I can't, and do the government help2save which will actually make me 1,200 over 4 years.

I need more income. Another £100 a month would do and I'm working on it. I work from home.

5128gap · 10/09/2025 13:34

HangryLikeTheHulk · 10/09/2025 11:19

If you get a well paid job or start a successful business you might well earn enough to save that much money

Really? Wow. Did you ever think of drawing up an anti poverty strategy? I do believe that in one sentence, you've completely solved the problem. I can't wait for the next installment where you explain where all the well paid jobs are going to come from so there's enough for us all, why we suddenly won't need any low paid jobs doing anymore, and where all the gaps in the market awaiting new businesses are.

parababe · 10/09/2025 13:33

Loveduppenguin · 10/09/2025 11:28

A credit card balance would have a minus in front of it…

Mine doesn’t…. Just looks like a positive balance

PeachySmile2 · 10/09/2025 13:32

It might be a loan she’s taken out. I’ve taken out a loan for a car I’m buying next week and currently have £17k sitting in bank account, there is no way I’d able to save that money myself. It will all be gone next week!

jeaux90 · 10/09/2025 13:31

FFS OP. She might run a business and this is all going to go out in payments. She might have lost family and inherited some money (I know I’d rather have an alive parent) she might have just got divorced and this is the settlement and needs to buy a house.

Either way it’s literally none of your business.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/09/2025 13:28

😭😭 yanbu for your eyes to have gone 👀👀👀 for a minute second

I can only dream of that much money right now, omg

Maybe one day 🙏🙏🙏

ButSheSaid · 10/09/2025 13:27

PunnyOliveTurtle · 10/09/2025 13:24

I'm not going to get into details, I work term time, I live and work in a small rural town with nothing in it other than a chippy, a charity shop, a pub, a school and a post office. Nothing here. No I cannot move. This is it for me im afraid. Had my DD young. Never did much with myself.Its my own fault. I'm lucky to earn what i earn tbh

Ok 🤷‍♀️

Agapornis · 10/09/2025 13:27

The only thing stopping you is a defeatist attitude.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2025 13:25

CustardySergeant · 10/09/2025 13:23

😆I don't think she was!

Dam. 😅😆

PunnyOliveTurtle · 10/09/2025 13:24

I'm not going to get into details, I work term time, I live and work in a small rural town with nothing in it other than a chippy, a charity shop, a pub, a school and a post office. Nothing here. No I cannot move. This is it for me im afraid. Had my DD young. Never did much with myself.Its my own fault. I'm lucky to earn what i earn tbh

OP posts:
whitewineandsun · 10/09/2025 13:23

I can't get over the fact that you looked long enough, let alone that you're posting about it publicly on the Internet. But shout out to post office lady if she's here. Cover your phone next time.

CustardySergeant · 10/09/2025 13:23

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2025 12:57

You must have been hoovering behind her.

😆I don't think she was!

ButSheSaid · 10/09/2025 13:21

I have about that amount in my two accounts. I work part time.

If you post your income and what it's been spent on already, there are lots of posters who can advise.

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 13:16

MidnightPatrol · 10/09/2025 13:12

So - yes, escaping poverty and low paid work is difficult.

£800 or £2k is a very achievable sum to target for savings, for someone who is working - and not totally pie in the sky thinking IMO.

It may not be achievable for someone living in poverty.

MidnightPatrol · 10/09/2025 13:12

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 13:01

It simply is not true that if you want it hard enough, you can get more money. Have people never heard of social inequality? Do you have any idea how hard it is to break the cycle of poverty?

Astounding ignorance here.

So - yes, escaping poverty and low paid work is difficult.

£800 or £2k is a very achievable sum to target for savings, for someone who is working - and not totally pie in the sky thinking IMO.

fatphalange · 10/09/2025 13:12

🤷🏻‍♀️ there’ll always be people who have more and people who have less. Not ‘wtf’ worthy or even something to give a second thought about really.

limescale · 10/09/2025 13:09

Galdownunder · 10/09/2025 12:58

Save your money! Budget. My daughter who pays 450 a week rent and is at full time uni saved 40k in 3 years. She works 4 shifts a week in a luggage store and budgets well. People whinge too much and don't even try. Just put their hands out.

Darn....that's it. I just didn't try.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 10/09/2025 13:03

Maybe you should spend the time you spent spying on other people’s personal bank accounts and posting bitterly about what they have on public websites more productively to try and find a way to earn more.

Or is this a (not very) stealth begging post and you’ were hoping people would DM you offering you money?

If this is real you are being incredibly unpleasant, you had no right to look, and nobody sees this kind of information accidentally, you didn’t look away as fast as you could, or you wouldn’t have seen the balances of four bank accounts. So at least be honest and admit that you deliberately kept looking until you’d seen what you wanted to see, although I expect this didn’t actually happen in the way you claim it did, given that most people open their banking app and go straight to the account they’re going to interact with and don’t spend long enough on the front screen for random members of the public to see enough of what they have to post about it on mumsnet.

You have no idea of this woman’s circumstances. I once had over £100k in my bank account, it was the proceeds from my divorce where my ex had bought me out of the house, and was waiting to be put into another house.

Maybe this is it for her.

Maybe she’s been saving for years.

Maybe she earns decent money.

Maybe she’s had a payout because of a car accident/medical negligence/<insert happening of choice>.

Or maybe it’s just none of your bloody business and you ought to put your time to more positive use.

Lyocell · 10/09/2025 13:02

How many hours a week do you work? If you’re in 18k that must be part time on minimum wage?

musicalfrog · 10/09/2025 13:01

MasterBeth · 10/09/2025 11:42

You have no way of knowing that at all.

Why would you say that?

It could be anything!

Oh this is a hilarious response thank you @MasterBeth !

You're completely right I don't. It was just a suggestion.

😂

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 13:01

It simply is not true that if you want it hard enough, you can get more money. Have people never heard of social inequality? Do you have any idea how hard it is to break the cycle of poverty?

Astounding ignorance here.

whitewineandsun · 10/09/2025 13:00

MidnightPatrol · 10/09/2025 12:58

I mean my takeaway from that is ‘why are you keeping so much money in cash, it’s probably losing value’.

This! If I had that kind of money, the vast majority would be in investments.

MidnightPatrol · 10/09/2025 12:58

Sdpbody · 10/09/2025 12:57

I was sat next to a good friend of mine.... She opened her bank to £108,000 !!

I mean my takeaway from that is ‘why are you keeping so much money in cash, it’s probably losing value’.

newshoestoday · 10/09/2025 12:58

I have had internet banking for an employer on my phone before so I could authorise payments remotely. If you’d been looking over my shoulder you could have seen several hundred thousand if it was the right day after direct debits came in and before payroll went out. It didn’t matter, it wasn’t my money.

Galdownunder · 10/09/2025 12:58

Save your money! Budget. My daughter who pays 450 a week rent and is at full time uni saved 40k in 3 years. She works 4 shifts a week in a luggage store and budgets well. People whinge too much and don't even try. Just put their hands out.