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Given detention for lateness on tube strike day

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Longingdreamer · 09/09/2025 15:18

My child was given a detention today, despite there being a tube strike in London, which has caused travel chaos. They early but were apparently still late: roads are almost at a standstill it seems.

They get very upset by detentions, due to underlying neuro diversity.

Aibu to think that the school shouldn't give these on a strike day for minor lateness?

They usually give them, even if a child is only 1 minute late, but it seems wicked when it is out of their control.

OP posts:
saraclara · 10/09/2025 07:46

ILoveWhales · 10/09/2025 07:25

If there's transport running, why can a twelve year old not get on it?

Strangely the kids from city of london school managed to get in.They were everywhere in rush hour.

They may well have been everywhere at rush hour, but you don't have the first idea whether they ALL got in on time. For starters the school's pupils will be coming in from very different addresses. Some of them will have had straightforward journeys or been able to walk. Others on much busier bus routes or caught in gridlocks.

As I said in an earlier post, in the late afternoon I witnessed 11 year old pulls begging to be let on a bus that was packed and refusing more passengers.

HowamIgoingtocope · 10/09/2025 07:44

ILoveWhales · 10/09/2025 07:25

If there's transport running, why can a twelve year old not get on it?

Strangely the kids from city of london school managed to get in.They were everywhere in rush hour.

Some kids dont do well with change. Regardless of how much you prepare them. Gotta love ableism.

Ddakji · 10/09/2025 07:42

ILoveWhales · 10/09/2025 07:25

If there's transport running, why can a twelve year old not get on it?

Strangely the kids from city of london school managed to get in.They were everywhere in rush hour.

Lots of those children wouldn’t have used the tube to get in. Where I live and my journey in isn’t impacted at all.

saraclara · 10/09/2025 07:42

Vse500 · 10/09/2025 07:31

Those outside of London don’t appreciate the rest of us not having a tube system at all

I live outside of London, but even I understand that the number of people living and working in London and relying on public transport is absolutely vast compared to pretty much anywhere else.

Approximately one million people use the tube at the time that OP 's DC would be going to school (there are four million tube trips per day) Adding a million people to the number who already use the buses and taxis at peak time, means that the transport system simply won't cope.

It's bizarre that so many people on this thread can't see that.

Dolphinnoises · 10/09/2025 07:33

Vse500 · 10/09/2025 07:31

Those outside of London don’t appreciate the rest of us not having a tube system at all

Having lived all over the U.K. - you really need to understand that in the event of a tube strike traffic is gridlocked. Not “that journey took twice as long as normal” gridlocked. Not moving in 40 minutes gridlocked.

Vse500 · 10/09/2025 07:31

Longingdreamer · 09/09/2025 15:26

They did leave extremely early. It would have been quicker to walk compared to take the bus, but they cannot walk long distances.

I think those who haven't been in central London the last few days do not appreciate the chaos. The roads are absolutely gridlocked.

Those outside of London don’t appreciate the rest of us not having a tube system at all

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 10/09/2025 07:26

ILoveWhales · 10/09/2025 07:25

If there's transport running, why can a twelve year old not get on it?

Strangely the kids from city of london school managed to get in.They were everywhere in rush hour.

Well you can't get on a bus if it's full, no matter whether you are 12 or 45.

ILoveWhales · 10/09/2025 07:25

HowamIgoingtocope · 10/09/2025 07:12

You are an adult im presuming not a 12 year old child.

If there's transport running, why can a twelve year old not get on it?

Strangely the kids from city of london school managed to get in.They were everywhere in rush hour.

HowamIgoingtocope · 10/09/2025 07:12

ILoveWhales · 09/09/2025 20:00

I was in central london today. There was so much other stuff working. I didn't have any problem getting in or getting home.

You are an adult im presuming not a 12 year old child.

HowamIgoingtocope · 10/09/2025 07:09

AffableApple · 09/09/2025 20:44

I'm sorry my comment upset you. You're right, I have no experience of how schools work with ND kids.

I have plenty of experience, some personal, of the application of the Equality Act 2010 on disability in the workplace.

I'm really saddened that kids are being let down by the law, and I'm sorry for your experience.

Edited

Most nd kids are let down by schools. Workplace and schools are two different ball games. Im disabled so know my work generally looks after me to an extent. My kids however have been failed by the school system and only now my 17 year old is getting support in college.
Talk to any sen parent and you will find d out exactly what a fight for your child is like.

Saltandpepperlife · 10/09/2025 07:02

ManteesRock · 09/09/2025 22:47

Imagine if teachers just rocked up late because of a tube strike and your little darlings were left waiting outside for them....

Your son was late, late is late strike or not!

Do teachers have some kind of special tunnel to the school then? Maybe they could let the kids use it as well so they could be on time. 🙄

As already mentioned there has been times when due to an accident/train strikes/roadworks that mine have been late for school. Teachers as well have been sat in the same traffic.

I had a dentist appointment the other day where the dentist was late due to major road works going on.

It’s not always possible to plan ahead and many have other commitments theirselves such as childcare where they can’t drop their kids off in the middle of the night so they can make it on time or at a school gate at 6am just so they can leave earlier.

No body is immune from it just because of their profession.

GagMeWithASpoon · 10/09/2025 06:58

ManteesRock · 09/09/2025 22:47

Imagine if teachers just rocked up late because of a tube strike and your little darlings were left waiting outside for them....

Your son was late, late is late strike or not!

DD’s teacher was late, by 2 hours, not 5 minutes. The world didn’t end.

Emailsshow · 10/09/2025 06:06

Longingdreamer · 09/09/2025 18:53

I think it is too rigid. This just leads to resentment from pupils (my daughter's friends have said the same). They do not consider fairness when applying their punishments.

Why am I not surprised that the OP is generally unimpressed with the school.

Clearly this is just one issue in a long line of issues you have with the school.

so you think the school is “too rigid” and “doesn’t consider fairness when applying their punishments”.,, what about how you regard the school’s teaching and pastoral care @Longingdreamer ?

zebrastripesarefun · 10/09/2025 05:19

Totally unfair to punish a child for lateness due to tube strike. Child left for school early. I would phone school. Many NHS staff were late too. Not everyone can stay in hotels or leave young children to go to work hours early. It’s inevitable people would be late. Punishing for the sake of punishing serves no purpose at all

ByCyanMoose · 10/09/2025 00:46

TartanBarmy · 09/09/2025 16:32

I know what London is line on Tube strike days - you just get up early and walk. DH was in London yesterday and walked everywhere! He did say the traffic was atrocious but it’s never exactly plain sailing there, even in bus lanes or taxis

I hate lateness, it is a personal bugbear of mine. And colleagues who are Gen Z genuinely cannot understand why people around them are annoyed when they come in every day 10 or 15 mins late. “Oh I’ll stay late and make it up” or “I’ll take a shorter lunch break”. You only have to come in two frigging days a week! Be on fucking time you useless lazy twats.

I know a surgeon who has just stayed in town rather than have her ops cancelled! So they meet their contractual obligations.

Obviously this is not so much about the OP’s child now but EVERYONE can get to work or school on time if they try hard enough. Everyone.
whether they can be arsed or not to make the effort is a different matter.

Many people hate lateness, in the casual sense. What you have going on is something a little more intense. I suggest you try to dial it back a little bit, for the sake of your own peace of mind and that of any employees/students you may be supervising.

Needmorelego · 09/09/2025 23:27

ManteesRock · 09/09/2025 22:47

Imagine if teachers just rocked up late because of a tube strike and your little darlings were left waiting outside for them....

Your son was late, late is late strike or not!

In some schools the teachers were late.

Schoolchoicesucks · 09/09/2025 23:08

The craziness of cyclists in central London today has been on the news - it's been absolutely carnage out there and definitely not something recommended for a novice teenage cyclist with a dodgy knee.

School are unreasonable giving out a detention to a kid being 5 minutes late due to the tube strike.

But agree with the PP to work on de-escalating the status of detentions with your DC. Even if the school did back down on this occasion it's likely that your child will get another for some other (petty) reason.

Ruby1985 · 09/09/2025 22:49

Eloeeze · 09/09/2025 15:19

Wicked?

Yes very, in case you are unable to read!

ManteesRock · 09/09/2025 22:47

Imagine if teachers just rocked up late because of a tube strike and your little darlings were left waiting outside for them....

Your son was late, late is late strike or not!

AnotherSuperHeroe · 09/09/2025 22:43

I would be writing to the school and making it very clear that I (as a parent) do not accept detention for my child due to the extenuating circumstances and she will not be attending. As they have to give notice, I would be collecting her at the school’s finishing time when the detention is set.

Pherian · 09/09/2025 21:30

Longingdreamer · 09/09/2025 15:18

My child was given a detention today, despite there being a tube strike in London, which has caused travel chaos. They early but were apparently still late: roads are almost at a standstill it seems.

They get very upset by detentions, due to underlying neuro diversity.

Aibu to think that the school shouldn't give these on a strike day for minor lateness?

They usually give them, even if a child is only 1 minute late, but it seems wicked when it is out of their control.

My employer cancelled my travel to London due to all this. I cannot see how the school expects you to get there on time - if the transport is late.

swingingbytheseat · 09/09/2025 21:29

This sounds ridiculously rigid of the school, they need to get in touch with reality. Unless you cycle or skateboard you won’t get anywhere on a strike day

Franjipanl8r · 09/09/2025 21:26

That’s bonkers. Loads of stuff in London’s been cancelled and people have been late to work as a result. I’d kick up a massive fuss about this.

DdraigGoch · 09/09/2025 21:25

Chompingatthebeat · 09/09/2025 17:12

Central london has lots of bike lanes

Until you enter Kensington & Chelsea where the borough council are idiots.

DdraigGoch · 09/09/2025 21:21

Deepbluesea1 · 09/09/2025 16:01

presumably they had a car?

I doubt it, London was gridlocked. The only people getting anywhere on time were those on bicycles.

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