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DH gift - WWYD?

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Sandflea9900 · 09/09/2025 12:25

DH has bought me jewellery for a big wedding anniversary. It’s costume jewellery and not my style at all, but it somehow cost quite a lot, despite not being gold or silver. I can’t see myself ever wearing it. Do I tell him and ask to exchange it for something more my style, or suck it up as it was a gift he chose for me?

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Coconutter24 · 09/09/2025 12:52

My DH bought me some dresses which were not my taste at all, I told him because I would never of worn them. With jewellery I’m not sure if I’d just keep it as sentimental pieces but then equally if you’re never going to wear them and he’d like you to I’d probably tell him

JadziaD · 09/09/2025 12:46

This is quite a difficult one and I think it depends on a few factors. Does he usually get it right and this is a once off aberation? And if so, is there a particular reason he likes this piece so much that might make you feeel you need to keep it, or was it just a poor choice in the moment?

You say it cost quite a lot - is it a designer piece or something using semi precious stones etc? Again, if it's completely different to your usual style, it seems odd he'd spend this money and without a specific reason for it, I'd be gently asking if you can change it.

Ivy888 · 09/09/2025 12:44

Honesty is always the best policy.

ZippyPeer · 09/09/2025 12:43

If i had spent a lot of money on my partner, but they didn't like it, I would rather know and not waste the money.

I would be hurt when they told me, but honesty better in the long run

Icanttakethisanymore · 09/09/2025 12:39

Is it a lot of money for you as a couple / family? If it was expensive but money was not tight I probably wouldn’t say anything. If it was expensive but you rarely get to buy new jewellery etc and this is a rare treat, I would try to tactfully suggest an exchange.

NagathaCrispy · 09/09/2025 12:28

As he chose it and bought it, I think you accept it gracefully, wear it once and quietly put it away somewhere. I hate this mentality that gifts are exchangeable, but fully accept that I'm a bit old fashioned about that sort of thing.

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