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Letting children chalk public pavement

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RainbowRanger29 · 09/09/2025 11:45

Hi,

So wondering AITA for allowing my young child (age 5) to draw with chalk on the public pavement?

My child was happy out drawing pictures and writing her name with chalk in the front garden with her little friends from the street. They ran out of space in the garden and continued there colourful chalk drawings along the public pavement outside the house.

No one owns the public footpath (its not anyone's actual property) and they drew along outside around 5/6 houses. They drew rainbows and houses and wrote their names and a hopscotch. Nothing offensive but not exactly amazing art (they are only 5!)

One of the neighbours arrived home and appeared visibly annoyed with the chalk, the kids asked if they like their art and they ignored them, went inside, got their hose and washed the chalk away from the public footpath outside of their house only.

The children were still out drawing and got upset that they had washed it away (mummy didn't they like our pictures? Why are they washing it away? Etc)

We live in the UK and it rains an awful lot! It would have washed away anyway later that evening when it rained ... I think it was mean of them to hose it away in front of the kids (surely they could of waited until the kids had stopped playing?)

Or is it me ... should I have not allowed them to chalk the public footpath?

Is it kids being kids enjoying chalking public areas? I used to do this as a kid and it never seemed to upset anyone? Or is it disrespectful to allow children to chalk on public footpaths outside of other people's home?

Interested on everyone's opinions

OP posts:
alloutofcareunits · 09/09/2025 14:48

Americano75 · 09/09/2025 11:54

What a ratbag!

I'd be tempted to chalk a massive cock and balls outside their gate but I'm childish that way.

🤣👌🏻

MasterBeth · 09/09/2025 14:48

User155 · 09/09/2025 14:45

I would have smiled sweetly and answered the kids that it looked great, but in my head I would have been thinking “what an absolute mess, I hope it rains soon.” It would also annoy me that the parents had presumed it’s ok - make a mess outside your own house by all means, but don’t assume everyone else likes chalk all over the pavement.

Were you ever a child or were you grown, fully-formed as a grumpy adult?

"Chalk all over the pavement"! The indignity!

Epidote · 09/09/2025 14:47

I would take a photo of the art and play with them for a bit if I know them and their parents, why not. But I like kids, I have a seven years old and I think they are bright and wonderful little humans in most cases.
Once I've said that I also can see why some people can be annoyed by it.

User155 · 09/09/2025 14:45

I would have smiled sweetly and answered the kids that it looked great, but in my head I would have been thinking “what an absolute mess, I hope it rains soon.” It would also annoy me that the parents had presumed it’s ok - make a mess outside your own house by all means, but don’t assume everyone else likes chalk all over the pavement.

Welltower · 09/09/2025 14:45

White chalk is great. I bought some coloured ones and they would only come off with bleach and scrubbing

Happyher · 09/09/2025 14:45

BunfightBetty · 09/09/2025 12:35

What’s disrespectful about drawing with chalk on a pavement?

The resident clearly doesn’t like it so the child should be advised that it’s only ok outside their own home. It’s called being considerate to your neighbours

Carodebalo · 09/09/2025 14:41

I loved doing this myself and so did my children, but I always told them to stay in front of our own house. I would not per se love it if other children chalked in front of our house; as a one off no problem, if it were all the time I would probably like it less. Can't really explain why tbh! But I would never, ever have hosed it down, I would have praised their art and would probably have told myself not to be so difficult and just enjoy the art!

FullLondonEye · 09/09/2025 14:37

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:29

On the same hand, perhaps the children are ruining someones enjoyment of a tidy pavement.

We are all just living our lives and that should involve not inflicting things on other people who might not like them. So I will stand by the fact that the kids should have just decorated the pavement outside their own house/drive.

'Enjoyment of a tidy pavement'???!!! You win the internet today 👏 . Did you lose your soul by accident or did you purposely crush and burn it?

It really takes a special kind of wanker to object to this. I don't even like children and I'm very precious about keeping our house clean and Insta-perfect but even I couldn't complain about children's chalk drawings not on my own property. Isn't children playing innocent games outside the exact thing we're all supposed to be encouraging in order to reverse the destruction of our society?

Your neighbours (and certain posters on here) are about as miserable as it gets, but I think this is a case of 'when someone shows you who they are, believe them'. Clearly people to be avoided and no doubt the same kind of people who will moan about how awful young people are today and how there's no respect anymore as they age and want help bringing in their shopping/bins/whatever and no-one is interested in helping them because they are FUCKNG MEAN OLD BASTARDS. Let's hope they never need a parcel taking in or for a neighbour to keep an eye on their empty property while they're away.

theressomanytinafeysicouldbe · 09/09/2025 14:37

I let my GC do it on the drive and pavement in front of the house - and on the extrerior walls of the house - like you said it rains a lot and it washes away eventually. I make sure they keep it in front of our house though. Yes it rains but it doesn't wash it all away and I've seen the state of my floors when the dogs has walked it in, dry and even worse wet, it's like paint

Ginagogo · 09/09/2025 14:37

akkakk · 09/09/2025 11:49

that which is art to you and your child might be graffiti to someone else...

personally I have little issue with chalk on pavements as it washes away, but technically they do belong to someone (the council - and therefore arguably all the public), and doing it outside the houses of others is probably best avoided...

they might need to learn to draw a bit smaller rather than visually taking over the whole area - no need to do more than your drive and if you must the pavement outside your house...

Graffiti 🤣

usedtobeaylis · 09/09/2025 14:37

Greeting about entitled young people when full grown adults are banging about THEIR PROPERTY as if a public pavement outside belongs to them and God fucking forbid a child even looks at it 😂

songbird3086 · 09/09/2025 14:33

On front of my house yes possibly and I’d clean it once they were done. Not in front of anyone else’s.

DryAndBalmy · 09/09/2025 14:25

Also, I bet it would be the same miseryguts that complains that all kids are online these days and don’t know how to entertain themselves without a screen.

Letsgoroundagainnow · 09/09/2025 14:24

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:55

Every day on this forum, I see the reason we have an epidemic of entitled and out-of-control children. There are zero boundaries anymore, and anyone who dares to put a boundary in place, gets told they are ‘miserable’.
Its madness to me, but clearly we are in the minority.

Out of control children….. 5 year olds chalking on a pavement?

Yes m, luckily miserable people are the minority!

DryAndBalmy · 09/09/2025 14:24

I’m FURIOUS on your behalf. What a horrible, miserable person.

OF COURSE your lovely children should have fun playing with chalks on the pavement. It’s a simple, ancient little pleasure that countless other kids before them have enjoyed.

Perhaps your neighbour has an issue with small children making sandcastles on the beach too? Little chalk drawings are about as offensive and permanent as that.

I’m really sorry that you’ve had this experience.

Newmummypamela · 09/09/2025 14:23

No, I wouldn't allow my children to do this anywhere but on my own property, out of respect for my neighbours. I remember years ago, one family beside us who prided themselves on a neat & tidy exterior, wouldn't let their children chalk outside their house, but allowed them to do it everywhere else - & I'm not talking about a few small doodles, it was around the whole block - so cheeky!

wldpwr · 09/09/2025 14:20

SparklingRivers · 09/09/2025 14:16

Were the children of the 80s also entitled and out of control? Chalk on pavements is far from a recent development...

I don't believe for a second that the "problem children" of our society are the ones drawing rainbows in chalk on the pavement 😂

Roseshavethorns100 · 09/09/2025 14:20

SparklingRivers · 09/09/2025 14:16

Were the children of the 80s also entitled and out of control? Chalk on pavements is far from a recent development...

No the people that moan about it are the entitled ones.
Children drawing on a footpath with chalk is hardly out of control.
Were you a child once? What did you do for fun?

MyDogHumpsThings · 09/09/2025 14:19

I’m quite the curmudgeon for child-related issues, but even I think this is fine! Give it five minutes and the rain will wash it away!

Friendlygingercat · 09/09/2025 14:18

Many years ago when kids still played in streets of terraced houses my friends and I wrote with chalk on the pavement when playing a game called hopscotch. In those days many women took great pride in not only washing their front step but also the entire pavement in front of their house. Unfortunately my pals and I had not taken this into account and simply wrote our names in coloured chalk on various flags.

The neighbour complained to my mother who directed me to get a bucket of water and a scrubbing brush and remove all the marks in pink chalk which I had made. Later the neighbour again knocked at our door and complained to my mother that there were still chalk marks on her "front". My mother told her that "My daughter used pink chalk. I have punished her for what she did but I am not going to punish her for what her friends did. You are going to have to speak to the parents of the other children." When the neighbour asked for the names of the other kids she was told "I am not a snitch" and had the door closed in her face.

IAmQuiteNiceActually · 09/09/2025 14:18

Americano75 · 09/09/2025 11:54

What a ratbag!

I'd be tempted to chalk a massive cock and balls outside their gate but I'm childish that way.

😁

Roseshavethorns100 · 09/09/2025 14:17

PollyBell · 09/09/2025 11:59

Yes this, no i wouldnt say something to throw children but my child would not have been allowed to do this outside someone else's property, it is not up to me to decide what my child does is harmless or not

It's just chalk on a footpath for goodness sake what is the big deal. What's wrong with people these days all so bloody rude, miserable and entitled.
As far as I'm concerned those children are spreading a bit of joy and adding a bit of colour to the world just what we need to brighter up our days.
😊💐

LatteLady · 09/09/2025 14:17

Where I used to live we held a week long Arts Festival and for one of the weekends, our street was closed to traffic, so children could chalk art onto the road. One of th best bits of the week and our local shops said that sales of chalk always went up afterwards. It is ephemeral and disappears at the first shower... how sad that your neighbours @RainbowRanger29 could not enjoy it... you would be very welcome to come and chalk in my current road!

PizzaPowder · 09/09/2025 14:16

Your neighbour needs to lighten up

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 09/09/2025 14:16

It an issue. But as with everything (especially anything related to children), people can make an issue out of it.
Ignore them.

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