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Letting children chalk public pavement

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RainbowRanger29 · 09/09/2025 11:45

Hi,

So wondering AITA for allowing my young child (age 5) to draw with chalk on the public pavement?

My child was happy out drawing pictures and writing her name with chalk in the front garden with her little friends from the street. They ran out of space in the garden and continued there colourful chalk drawings along the public pavement outside the house.

No one owns the public footpath (its not anyone's actual property) and they drew along outside around 5/6 houses. They drew rainbows and houses and wrote their names and a hopscotch. Nothing offensive but not exactly amazing art (they are only 5!)

One of the neighbours arrived home and appeared visibly annoyed with the chalk, the kids asked if they like their art and they ignored them, went inside, got their hose and washed the chalk away from the public footpath outside of their house only.

The children were still out drawing and got upset that they had washed it away (mummy didn't they like our pictures? Why are they washing it away? Etc)

We live in the UK and it rains an awful lot! It would have washed away anyway later that evening when it rained ... I think it was mean of them to hose it away in front of the kids (surely they could of waited until the kids had stopped playing?)

Or is it me ... should I have not allowed them to chalk the public footpath?

Is it kids being kids enjoying chalking public areas? I used to do this as a kid and it never seemed to upset anyone? Or is it disrespectful to allow children to chalk on public footpaths outside of other people's home?

Interested on everyone's opinions

OP posts:
Catwalking · 09/09/2025 13:39

I absolutely couldn’t care less,-lucky, as our garden soil is almost 95% chalk 😆.

OP’s the neighbour may have their own personal reason for not wanting chalk on pavement beside their home?
could be simple as; it treads in onto the carpet?

Hoardasauruskaren · 09/09/2025 13:38

‘Enjoyment of a tidy pavement’

What sad lives people must lead if this is a concern. Need to get out more!

Jeregrettetous · 09/09/2025 13:38

You know this is the same neighbour who’d be judgy if they saw your kid on an iPad. What a grumpy idiot.

Tell your five year old I think their pictures are FABULOUS and I haven’t even seen them. If they can draw on a hopscotch for me to hop down on my way home from work I’d hugely appreciate it.

SpidersAreShitheads · 09/09/2025 13:38

BoredZelda · 09/09/2025 13:24

Thanks for proving my point nicely.

If you think it’s joyless to not want kids to wreck trees and damage cars, that’s a strange stance to take.

I think the examples you gave in your post are fair enough. Protecting a fragile tree and not wanting your vehicles isn’t being joyless.

I do think it’s joyless to wash away a child’s chalk drawing while they’re still out there though. If you really hate it that much, fine, but maybe wait until the kids have gone in to wash it away. I think that’s the part that makes the neighbour sound like a massive grump - it’s the timing for me.

Reallyoldperson · 09/09/2025 13:38

We all did this as kids decades ago. Not one person ever complained about it, people can be real miseries nowadays.

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:38

Dontknowwhattocall13893 · 09/09/2025 13:36

But the majority of people, judging by this thread, would find it joyful. It's not like they drew on that neighbours path.

And that’s fine. But I don’t find it joyful. We are all different.
I’m simply offering an alternative view.

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:36

Parker231 · 09/09/2025 13:33

Why would you have been annoyed - it was a public area and not outside your front door?

Because I just don’t like it. The way I wouldn’t like it if a dog did its dump on the pavement outside my house. It’s something I’d prefer to not have there.

Not everyone wants kids drawings everywhere. It just looks messy, even though it’s temporary. The broadband people coloured our pavements with lines when they were here planning the cables and I thought that looked a mess too. So it’s not just kids stuff.

Hoardasauruskaren · 09/09/2025 13:36

This used to be so common and it was never an issue. We used to do it in the 80s, my parents in the 50s , my kids in the 2010s etc. People just seem much less tolerant of children playing outside these days.
We have a childhood obesity problem coupled with screen ‘addiction’ so anything safe that gets DC outdoors is generally a good thing! I loved to see local
kids running around playing in the trees behind my house during the summer holidays. Let them chalk on the pavement & play hopscotch!

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/09/2025 13:36

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:29

On the same hand, perhaps the children are ruining someones enjoyment of a tidy pavement.

We are all just living our lives and that should involve not inflicting things on other people who might not like them. So I will stand by the fact that the kids should have just decorated the pavement outside their own house/drive.

You could have the enjoyment of a tidy pavement the other 360 days of the year once this is washed off?

Dontknowwhattocall13893 · 09/09/2025 13:36

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:29

On the same hand, perhaps the children are ruining someones enjoyment of a tidy pavement.

We are all just living our lives and that should involve not inflicting things on other people who might not like them. So I will stand by the fact that the kids should have just decorated the pavement outside their own house/drive.

But the majority of people, judging by this thread, would find it joyful. It's not like they drew on that neighbours path.

whynotwhatknot · 09/09/2025 13:34

we used to do it all the time in the 80s on a public footpath people are jut miserable

Londontown12 · 09/09/2025 13:34

Kids doing what kids should be doing I love to see kids making their own entertainment outside it’s what we used to do !!!
Your neighbours are absolutely killjoys !!
Let your kids keep doing what their doing because it’s better to be outside in the fresh air than cooped up indoors watching tv x

Parker231 · 09/09/2025 13:33

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:04

I’m going to go against the tide. Chalk outside their own house is fine, but frankly it’s a bit entitled to go around chalking outside other peoples houses.

I know it washes away and I certainly wouldn’t have washed it away infront of them, but I’d have been inwardly a bit annoyed and wondered why the parents couldn’t have had a bit more control over where the kids played.

Why would you have been annoyed - it was a public area and not outside your front door?

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/09/2025 13:33

MyRubyFox · 09/09/2025 13:28

Because I don't want a load of gharish scrawl outside of my house. Whilst you may look on with the eyes of a loving, doting Mum and see pretty pictures, some people, like me have worked incredibly hard after many years to buy their house and because of this take great pride in how it looks. It wouldn't annoy me greatly just be a bit niggled and hope it rains soon. Agree the neighbour should have been a bit more kindly with the children when getting rid of chalking.

Do you take pride in how the public pavement outside your house looks? Do you sweep it clear of mud and leaves, get rid of any weeds the pop up?

Maybe you do, in which case I apologise. But I don’t think everyone on this thread with a sudden interest in the public pavement, or “enjoyment of a tidy pavement” as a PP said cares about it all the time. Just when someone is having some fun.

Eastmeetswest1 · 09/09/2025 13:33

Well done for getting them all outside playing in the fresh air. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

BeaLola · 09/09/2025 13:33

We don't have any small children in our road currently but when we did and they did this outside my driveway on the public footpath I was quite touched by their efforts - when they were asleep in bed I drew a rainbow on their driveway (I did ask the Parents permission as I ask needed to borrow the chalk )

TalkToTheHand123 · 09/09/2025 13:32

Ablondiebutagoody · 09/09/2025 11:53

St George's flags would be more popular than rainbows tbf

Edited

😂

Mischance · 09/09/2025 13:31

What a grumpy cow!

Letsgoroundagainnow · 09/09/2025 13:31

Indianajet · 09/09/2025 11:50

I remember doing this as a child - marking out hopscotch squares. It certainly wouldn't worry me if children used chalk on the pavement outside my house.

Nor me!

I may try and join in with a go at the hopscotch! 🤣🤣🤣

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 09/09/2025 13:31

I think that the neighbour was a joyless sod.

However I also think that if your kids are saying, "mummy, didn't they like our pictures", you can nicely respond, "Looks like they didn't. Not everyone likes drawings on the pavement. Next time, check with me if you want to chalk outside of the house."

Just because the neighbour is a joyless sod doesn't mean your children get to wilfully piss them off, they can learn a bit about dealing with joyless sods without getting upset about it.

ChiliFiend · 09/09/2025 13:30

Wow - I would be exacting petty revenge forever, like never accepting a parcel for them and any of the other things nice neighbours do.

MaloryJones · 09/09/2025 13:30

Doesn't bother Me

The littles down the road have spent a lot of Summer chalking outside their's on the pavement .
Not a Problem

Typicalwave · 09/09/2025 13:30

I couldn’t waste energy over this - it’s a complete non issue

Pricelessadvice · 09/09/2025 13:29

ShesTheAlbatross · 09/09/2025 13:27

I don’t get warm fuzzy feelings either. I just think, oh there’s chalk there. And then probably immediately forget. I cannot imagine caring enough to get a hose out. I’d be completely neutral on it.

Regardless of children, I do think it is grumpy to deliberately ruin someone else’s enjoyment of something that isn’t affecting you.

On the same hand, perhaps the children are ruining someones enjoyment of a tidy pavement.

We are all just living our lives and that should involve not inflicting things on other people who might not like them. So I will stand by the fact that the kids should have just decorated the pavement outside their own house/drive.

Ginburee · 09/09/2025 13:29

My children chalk but only outside our house as we have neighbour issues.
I love seeing adults hopping on it when they think noone is looking.

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