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Does anyone here have an ‘average’ job with an average wage?

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gummybearrr · 09/09/2025 08:45

A weird thread I know but, whenever I see posts on here about income, jobs, wages, I’m just in awe, people earning 100k+ (I don’t think I know anyone who earns that??) and there seems to be so many, all with really good jobs too, no debt, owns their own house, I mean - good for your you’ve worked hard for this, that’s my dream but unfortunately not yet..

so, is anyone here like me? Never really had ambition to do anything when I was younger. I work in retail on checkout (or I did, I’m on maternity) earning min wage, Dh is a manager in retail and earns just a little above NMW but not by much, we have UC top up and private rent, we’ve nearly paid ALL our debt (yay)!!! But sadly don’t think home owning is something we will ever do, I do plan on going to college when DC is older to try and get a good job, (I don’t know what, I’m one of those people who want to do something good but with no clue as to what) but yeah, I class myself as extremely average, to which I’ve never really come across anyone really on Mumsnet!

this is not me slating these people - I wish I was you 🤣

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InveterateWineDrinker · 10/09/2025 16:05

Crushed23 · 10/09/2025 15:55

But there’s no one who doesn’t know a single person earning £100k if they engage in every day things like going to the dentist, having a GP appointment, giving birth or any other medical need under consultant care, sending children to a school where there is a Headteacher. People just like to pretend that £100k pay is so incredibly rare that anyone on MN claiming to earn anywhere near that is a “fantasist”.

Come off it.

Receiving a (tax-payer funded) service from someone on £100k is nothing ike knowing that individual well enough to understand their insights on purchasing power, home ownership, cost of living, or what kinds of debts they have.

And going to the doctor, dentist, or giving birth are hardly 'every day things' for most people.

Crushed23 · 10/09/2025 15:55

Christmasnewyear · 09/09/2025 18:58

NC for this. Thank you for this thread. Exactly why I didn’t post on the other thread as I didn’t want my genuine post to be mislabelled, so I thought, why bother!

have found reading this thread interesting. What has stood out was a chorus of ‘ I don’t know anyone on 100k’.

to bring balance, I don’t know anyone on less than 120k.’

Isn’t there some indication, in there?

i am sure mn has diverse people and it is interesting reading different perspectives. One can also choose to avoid some threads by just looking at the title.

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But there’s no one who doesn’t know a single person earning £100k if they engage in every day things like going to the dentist, having a GP appointment, giving birth or any other medical need under consultant care, sending children to a school where there is a Headteacher. People just like to pretend that £100k pay is so incredibly rare that anyone on MN claiming to earn anywhere near that is a “fantasist”.

Juicymed · 10/09/2025 15:09

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 09:20

I'm a SAHM and my OH earns about £30k a year. Pretty average lifestyle x

What does “average” look like to you? I only ask that because £30k total family income with children be incredibly difficult in south east

Christmasnewyear · 09/09/2025 18:58

NC for this. Thank you for this thread. Exactly why I didn’t post on the other thread as I didn’t want my genuine post to be mislabelled, so I thought, why bother!

have found reading this thread interesting. What has stood out was a chorus of ‘ I don’t know anyone on 100k’.

to bring balance, I don’t know anyone on less than 120k.’

Isn’t there some indication, in there?

i am sure mn has diverse people and it is interesting reading different perspectives. One can also choose to avoid some threads by just looking at the title.

Thebluespoon · 09/09/2025 18:48

I'm on carers allowance (which is a pittance), I care for my mum who has advanced Alzheimer's. Before that I was a PA for disabled people earning £15 per hour.

In a much previous life I was training as a dispensing optician with a view to becoming a partner within a franchise but my chronic health issues put a firm lid on that.

Such is life.

user1476613140 · 09/09/2025 18:30

blondebombsite13 · 09/09/2025 17:56

That’s interesting. If you don’t mind, what are your outgoings?

I wouldn’t have thought a family with kids could get by on one salary unless it is was very high, so I’m pleased to see that it is possible.

Do you live in a cheap part of the country?

We have slightly less household income than this and have managed fine over the years. Got four DC, eldest 18yo. You just get on with it. I have been a SAHM for 17 years now.

SkaneTos · 09/09/2025 18:28

SkaneTos · 09/09/2025 18:17

I work in elderly care. I work in a care home now, but for many years I worked in home care.
Love my job. Very average wage.

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Below average wage, I should say.
But I still love my job.

SkaneTos · 09/09/2025 18:17

I work in elderly care. I work in a care home now, but for many years I worked in home care.
Love my job. Very average wage.

Chester23 · 09/09/2025 18:12

Im a machine Operator in a kitchen Manufacturing factory. Slightly above minimum wage but was on nmw when I was a general op

user1476613140 · 09/09/2025 18:10

DH earns £28k roughly each year. I am an OU student and a carer for three disabled DC in the family. We do fine. Not struggling. Get a huge help from UC each month.

YessicaHaircut · 09/09/2025 18:04

Me and DH are both very average earners, on around 30k each, both work part time (I also work term time only) mainly to reduce our childcare needs/expenses. We are now mortgage-free after making overpayments when we were able to, but our place is a modest 2 bed flat. Neither of us drives which probably saves us a lot, both cycle/walk/public transport everywhere. We usually have a uk holiday each year (Haven, Parkdean or similar) and a package holiday abroad every other year which we pay off in installments. We both have savings and a savings account for DS too. The thing we focus on is living within our means day to day but making sure we have a few things to look forward to as well! And we both value our free time and time spent with DS more highly than being big earners.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/09/2025 17:56

Minimum wage here! Work part time as a veterinary care assistant (part time because we have dogs).

Other half is a self employed mechanic and we bring home about £2800 per month combined but his earnings vary.

Highest earner I know is a 75k train driver.

blondebombsite13 · 09/09/2025 17:56

dontcomeatme · 09/09/2025 09:20

I'm a SAHM and my OH earns about £30k a year. Pretty average lifestyle x

That’s interesting. If you don’t mind, what are your outgoings?

I wouldn’t have thought a family with kids could get by on one salary unless it is was very high, so I’m pleased to see that it is possible.

Do you live in a cheap part of the country?

Cece92 · 09/09/2025 17:39

Im a single parents work full time for a well known company doing back office type work and earn 26k a year. As my DD gets older and less needy I’d love to move up the ladder a bit. Don’t get me wrong it is a struggle and some months I need to be realistic about what I can afford. X

JHound · 09/09/2025 17:37

Harriet9955 · 09/09/2025 09:39

I am in my fifties and earn around 27k full time. All my friends of a similar age earn similar. maybe that's why we are all still working as I guess most earning significantly more retire earlier. In my friendship group the higher earners have already retired with good pensions ! Ido get a bit upset when I see my 24 year old son earning 20k more than me( not sad for him ! ) as that is a salary I have never ever earned. To be honest though I feel lucky that I have lived in a time when it has been possible to buy a house on two modest incomes ( dh has never been a high earner either ).

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I am envious of your friends that retired in their early 50s!

I earn above average but will be working till I am 67 (my own fault though.)

IsItWickedNotToCare · 09/09/2025 17:34

I am in a job for which you need a professional qualification and Master's degree and only get paid around £37k. Managers obviously get more but most in my profession get around this wage, slightly more in London. I don't know what jobs people get paid 100k for but I'm interested...

buffyfaithfredwesley · 09/09/2025 17:33

40hrs a week, 28k in a tiny call centre (8 staff)

Onegingerhead · 09/09/2025 17:33

Was kind of hoping that the discussion will turn into “and this is how you get into 100K salary, easy peasy”…

Hedgestoohigh · 09/09/2025 17:30

I’m on 20k working 26 hours/week 🙁 wish I could do better but childcare would cripple us even more.

PrincessC0nsuelaBananaHammock · 09/09/2025 17:28

Doggymummar · 09/09/2025 09:15

I'm unemployed, but before that I worked in admin for £50k WFH so pretty average

50k isn't pretty average! That's more than both DH and I earn combined!

VIOLETPUGH · 09/09/2025 17:27

Doggymummar · 09/09/2025 09:15

I'm unemployed, but before that I worked in admin for £50k WFH so pretty average

that is not average !

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/09/2025 17:21

Doggymummar · 09/09/2025 09:15

I'm unemployed, but before that I worked in admin for £50k WFH so pretty average

Pretty average 🤣🤣

BCBird · 09/09/2025 17:18

Teacher 31 years. Retired early. Looking for jobs on NMW to top.up.my pension.

Arraminta · 09/09/2025 17:15

I worked for years in university libraries for tuppence! You certainly don't become a librarian for the money, although you do need to be a graduate. It didn't matter though because I adored my job and actually looked forward to going to work! Thank God DH has always earned more than enough for the two of us.

Straightjacketsandroses · 09/09/2025 17:07

I’m slightly above average (50k) but at the top of the pay scale an average job (teacher). My husband earns between 80-100k which I think makes me a fantasist, liar or both. My wage doesn’t feel too average in comparison to many of my colleagues, but feels low compared to my husband’s sector. He is aiming to double his income over the next two years, whereas mine will likely stay the same for a while, and not climb much higher. We don’t feel like we live a luxury life but I imagine we do really in some respects.