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To not be looking forward to a trip?

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Browneyeees · 08/09/2025 22:11

Mum to 3.5 yo and 1.5yo. Wedding annniversary trip booked for wed-fri as both kids in nursery then so my parents will be looking after them.

We'll be dropping them off Wednesday morning and picking up Friday afternoon, where we're going is only a few hours drive

I just feel so bad leaving them and I don't like it. I love us all being together. When im at work I just feel so bleh. I love being with my kids and as a family!

My eldest is looking forward to a sleepover at grandma and grandads. He loves his grandparents, usually as they say yes to everything haha! I try not to police it too much as my nana was the same growing up. My youngest is still kind of young but loves her grandparents too.

I just dont feel excited and want to get it out of the way really. Sounds awful doesn't it? Me and dh havent reallt had time alone since our youngest was born because up until recently she refused to be alone with anyone else and screamed bloody murder if I left her. So I guess I. Used to no dates no trips etc

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Eenameenadeeka · 08/09/2025 22:20

I understand how you feel, we've never had a night away since we had children ( and our eldest is about to be 13 haha) because we prefer bringing them with us. I think id just worry too much and be terrible company, but hopefully once you get there you can relax and enjoy yourself. Your children will be safe and happy at nursery and with loving grandparents

Cakeandusername · 08/09/2025 22:17

It’s a short time and the children are with adults who love them. Personally I think not wanting to spend time with husband is potentially an issue. You do need to be a couple not just mum and dad.

AlloaintheMiddle · 08/09/2025 22:16

Well I’d say it’s normal… it’s life with kids and it won’t feel better anytime soon, so just go, try to enjoy and slowly get used to leaving them.

RoseAlone · 08/09/2025 22:13

I don't blame you. I've never left mine like that so I wouldn't be going I'm afraud

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