What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

Thank God for that! 🤣🤣🤣

Seriously though, DH seems to be overreacting and I'm curious about any pertinent missing details 🤔

Missing the point much

Same here. OP, I think he's being really out of order, you're an adult and assuming it isn't part of a bigger pattern, and doesn't impact on anything you're supposed to be doing at the time, you're perfectly entitled to pour yourself a drink if you want one.

Were you caring for children at the time? While I (and most people) could easily do that while having one drink, I would wait until they were in bed and would worry if DH couldn't do that unless it was at a party/bbq etc.

Hmm personally I think that anyone who comes home from work and pours a drink has a drink problem. Don’t care if I get flamed for this. Drinking during the week is a no no, Drinking afternoon/early evening, a no. I have AdHD going through bad perimenopause symptoms and wouldn’t dream of drinking alcohol to help me cope after a stressful day at work If you do rely on alcohol to unwind, you have a drinking problem in my book. The minute you start using alcohol as a crutch, that’s a problem. People don’t seem to realise how damaging alcohol is, a lot of breast cancers are due to drinking alcohol. My cousin just lost her life at 49, had breast cancer, loved her wine & gin. Someone else I worked with died of Brest cancer, she liked her drinking too. Just because it’s legal, doesn’t mean it’s safe to drink it. I think alot of women now have a drinking problem but to them its completely normal life.

My husband doesn’t drink. If he came home and saw me with a glass of wine, which he does sim nights, he would probably make a joke about “drinking again” and I would raise my glass and laugh back.
Your husband sounds like he has a problem

It would be very likely that I had. So nothing whatsoever. Other than maybe ask if he can have a glass of my wine. I'll invariably reply with 'what's wrong with your beer?'

Your husband sounds horrible. I mean if you were dying of liver failure and had just come out of a really expensive rehab I get he might be disappointed. But otherwise it's none of his concern!

When he was working he would have laughed and asked me to pour him a glass!

Fury is a very very weird reaction to getting home from work to find your wife has had a glass of wine after work.

Are you not allowed to enjoy anything without him being there? Have you asked him what his problem is? It sounds like your biggest problem is him.

Exactly this. Your husband sounds absolutely insufferable. I can only imagine that this is the tip of the iceberg in terms of wankerish behaviour. My DH probably wouldn't even comment if I had a random glass of wine. He certainly wouldn't tell me off like a 4 year old. Im an adult and can drink when I choose.

My hubby would think he might be on to something and tell me to have another 🤦‍♀️

My DH would join me. He quite often has one poured for me on a Friday evening as he is home first

No were not alcoholics before anyone starts down that road

His choice not to drink. I’d be having a stern word about his behaviour and controlling behaviour

Mental, me and DH occasionally have a bottle of wine between us with dinner during the week if we fancy it. I’m be more furious over the reaction and that someone would think they can have an opinion if I can or can’t have a drink if I so wished

Context ....do you have children, would the liklihood of you needing to drive later in the evening be a potential issue, do you become a different personality with drink eg loud mouthy and argumentative. Have you had issues with alcohol before , drinking alone can be a slippery slope. An ex of mine was unbearable when he had a drink, one drink always lead to 3 or 4 more and the more he drank the louder and more obnoxious he became, in or out of company. Maybe his reaction is rooted in previous bad experiences or his dislike of you with alcohol.

Mine would probably think i had a long day and offer to run a bath or cook dinner.
He views on alcohol do seem quite extreme

"Only 1 glass, you're starting late" and he would join me but with a lager

He'd say nothing at all, certainly wouldn't carry on like yours did. He might have something to say if I had had a few drinks, was drunk, or if I made a habit of it. So would I if he did that but neither of us did.

My husband would be disapproving but that's because he's a recovering alcoholic (hasn't drank in 12 years) and can't seem to understand that alcohol doesn't control everybody the way it did him. It wouldn't stop me though 😁

Same 😂

The only time I would possibly drink in the daytime, would be if I went out for lunch with a friend and she was driving.

However, when we met at in the 80s at work, drinking Friday lunchtime and all night was the norm, so I doubt he’d say anything! Words like pot, kettle and black would be springing to my mind!!

He would say "at it again"...but he would be joking. I am such a lightweight, I don't drink much hence the comment.

My dh doesn’t drink now but he wouldn’t bat an eyelid

I'm a husband, and if my wife is drinking in the week, I'm assuming that she's in a good / festive mood and I'm jumping all over that gravy train

He’d be surprised cos I don’t drink atm!
In the past he’d ask me to pour him a glass! I v rarely drank on my own/after work - if I was using a bit of red wine for cooking I’d have a small glass.