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What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

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khlolea · 08/09/2025 18:55

I have had a glass of wine tonight after work, thought why not?
Dh is home and is furious, speaking to me like a disgrace and slamming cupboards.
I now have an uncomfortable silence which isn’t quite a silence because he’s saying he’s not giving me the silent treatment.

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Didntask · 08/09/2025 19:18

He would join me. YANBU.

Giggorata · 08/09/2025 19:18

Mine would say “I see you've had a DRRRRRRINK!” In a terrible faux Glaswegian accent and then offer to top me up.

Nirsery · 08/09/2025 19:17

Nothing because I am an adult and so is my husband

Powerof321 · 08/09/2025 19:17

Do you have young children?

i don’t drink very often & never did at home when the kids were younger. Now are teens / tweens i have the odd glass or wine or a gin but usually only special occasions but sometimes a weekend if i feel like one. My husband would therefore be surprised especially as it is early on a Monday night but i’m an adult who makes decisions for herself so he wouldn’t comment or judge

SleepWalkingtoSeville · 08/09/2025 19:17

Mine would probably ask if I’d had a shit day!

Shitmonger · 08/09/2025 19:16

He’d probably quote this since we keep sending these back and forth. 😂

What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?
TrixieFatell · 08/09/2025 19:16

He would check if I'm ok, and what had happened but I very rarely drink so it wouldn't be the norm. He wouldn't react negatively though, your DHs response is concerning.

Plethorapeach · 08/09/2025 19:15

Unless you are an alcoholic or drinking too much regularly then he is a controlling twat. He is in the wrong here no matter how he tries to gaslight it off as your problem.

MYOB12 · 08/09/2025 19:15

DP would tease me for being a pisshead (I’m not!) and may join me for a drink. He usually doesn’t bother.

Viot · 08/09/2025 19:15

On the face of it, his reaction is far more worrying than you having a drink.

MrsTrellisOgleddCymru · 08/09/2025 19:14

My DH would probably comment ‘You alcoholic old trout!’ Then pour me another drink and one for himself.

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khlolea · 08/09/2025 19:14

Itstwelveoclocksomewhere · 08/09/2025 19:07

Did you drive home after drinking?

It’s the only reason I can think of for someone to be cross about someone else having after work drinks.

No I was home

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pinkbackground · 08/09/2025 19:11

I suppose it depends how much you drink typically

GRCP · 08/09/2025 19:11

Either nothing at all or “on it already?” In a jokey tone.

Bertielong3 · 08/09/2025 19:11

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Comtesse · 08/09/2025 19:11

It’s a pretty OTT reaction. Having a drink on Monday night is not a sign of complete degeneracy or worth huffing and puffing about.

MummaMummaMumma · 08/09/2025 19:10

I very rarely drink. My husband would never put me down about it. He'd probably say something like "ah good, you deserve to relax".
Your husband is being unreasonable.

TheChosenTwo · 08/09/2025 19:09

He’d say ‘ooh let me top you up’ and pour himself something too! Mind you I think he’d be pretty surprised as I rarely drink and I don’t fancy drinking alone.
He’s usually the one having a glass of wine or a beer while cooking but not really outside Thursday-Saturday.
Why is your dh behaving like this do you think?

HangingOver · 08/09/2025 19:09

He'd phone my sponsor and organise and intervention 🤣 (5 years sober)

SunnyD4ys · 08/09/2025 19:08

khlolea · 08/09/2025 18:58

No but it is a bit unusual for me to have a drink without him

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From choice?

I can't imagine not having a drink when I fancied one, surely that's a benefit of being an adult

Letsgoroundagainnow · 08/09/2025 19:08

He wouldn’t say anything, would join me I’m sure.

ChaToilLeam · 08/09/2025 19:08

He'd probably like one too! He's more likely to unwind with a drink than I am.

Your DH getting angry is way over the top. Unless there is more of a back story to this!

Changingplace · 08/09/2025 19:08

He’d be a bit surprised maybe because I don’t usually drink in the week, but more in a ‘everything ok on a Monday night?’ type raised eyebrow way, he’d definitely not be slamming cupboard and acting like I’d done something hideous!

Is he usually like this? Have you ever had a drinking problem?

His reaction is unhinged!

MyElatedUmberFinch · 08/09/2025 19:08

He would chuckle and be impressed, I hardly drink and I think he wished I drunk a bit more.

Itstwelveoclocksomewhere · 08/09/2025 19:07

Did you drive home after drinking?

It’s the only reason I can think of for someone to be cross about someone else having after work drinks.