What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

Same!

As others have said, either you're an alcoholic in denial or your relationship is problematic. I can't say for sure either way but I suspect that it might be the first one.

Yep. Same here!

OP this question seems too simplistic, obviously most partners wouldn't have any reaction to coming home to their partner having a drink so 99% of people would agree with you.
Is there any reason your husband has had such a reaction? Is your drinking an issue in your marriage? If not, of course he shouldn't go on like that but if you have an issue with drinking then that would explain such a reaction.

this. Also is that his only unpleasant behaviour or does he have others?

Mine would make a joke about me being a lush because he makes a joke about any out of the norm behavior.

then he would ask if I made sure our teenager saw me drinking, because both of us drink so rarely that we feel like we aran’t doing a good job of modeling that it is ok to drink in moderation, but not excess. We feel like we are giving her a skewed perspective of moderation so I’ve been trying to drink more since he really can’t.

DH would wonder if I was OK as it would be rather out of character to be drinking alone on a school night.

He'd probably then help himself to one and we'd have a chat.

The devil is in the detail - WHY is your DH annoyed you're drinking? Do you have a history with alcohol? Or are you trying to lose weight, get healthy, save money.....? Looking after a high needs child and need to be totally sharp?

but his mum once went mad when we had a drink in her garden one day.

I presume he has similar views on booze?!

When I read your OP I thought maybe you had driven home after, but I see you were already home when you had the drink.

My DH probably wouldn't comment, but might join me and have one. Your DH's behaviour seems completely over the top and controlling.

Not the point OP. You are your own person and it’s up to you when and where you have a drink. Assuming you weren’t falling down drunk when he got home, his behaviour is unacceptable and childish.

Ltb x

That's odd. I realised my own views about alcohol were impacted by my Mum's and in turn her's was influenced by her Father's.
I am aware of this and know that it's perfectly fine for an adult to have a drink in the evening if they feel like one (insert all the disclaimers about alcoholics, health conditions, responsibilities). Your DH needs to sort out his attitude.
Is this the first time something like this has happened?

It doesn’t matter what other people do in their home.

Your husband sounds like he grew up thinking alcohol is the root of all evil as that is what his mother believes.

Is it a religious belief?
Is there alcoholism in his family?

I’m surprised this hasn’t arisen before.

He can believe whatever he likes i
suppose but when it is affecting you and how you feel in your own home, it has to make you reflect on how you want to spend your life.

If it’s religious I think I would have made the decision before living with him to respect that and I wouldn’t bring alcohol into the home.

Do you have kids? What would he be like if your kids drink/socislise with alcohol when they are older?

Is it just alcohol or does he have other ‘expected behaviour’?
Can you relax at home or are you on eggshells around him?

I think you need to give more context and I think you might need to try to see into your future with him and see if it’s the one you want?

Has a pint (ping ?)

"Hello"

My DH and i often go to lunch on a Monday and he has a ping and I have a glass of wine

Yes, that's the question.

He’s in AA so would be concerned if I was ok - I don’t drink at home or have alcohol in around him
probably ask me WTF was wrong

He wouldn't day anything unless I had a history if problem drinking and/or I finished work really early in the day. Then he might raise an eyebrow.

My husband would not care less and would probably join me 🥂

This would be my DH's reaction, closely followed by 'bad day then darling? tell me about it'

This happened me last week when I randomly poured myself a glass of wine out of a bottle I was using in a recipe.

He shouted out to the kids what did you do to your mother, because now she is drinking wine at 5pm on a Monday,

Unless you have a problem around alcohol or you need to drive. I can’t understand why he would be cross.

What's his problem! Very controlling behaviour, as you have an absolute right to make decisions on your own. You shouldn't let him bully you or make you feel bad. Ensure you don't put up with this nonsense at all.

Same here. I can’t imagine him ever behaving like OPs husband. The stonewalling and slamming around is abusive

This is really worrying behaviour from your husband.

Is he able to articulate why he’s angry?

He would grab a glass and say can you pour me one too!

Unless you were sat drinking vodka neat out of the bottle which is a very different scenario his reaction is completely out of order and controlling.

Edit to say completely off topic but now I really fancy a cold glass of white wine 😂 sadly none in the house!