What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

"That's all right for some! Any left?". Something like that. Your husband sounds quite cold and controlling. You can make your own decisions! (Assuming you're not an alcoholic)

Depends on the time for us. What time did you get home? I think the key here is that he’d never drink on a work night and his parents obviously think drink is the devil’s work! I’m assuming you had this all in mind when you poured a drink. Was his reaction unexpected?

Irrelevant as your Dh is not your Dh, but he’d ask (as others) if I’d had a hard day and give me a hug.

My DH would fetch a glass and pour himself one too then offer me a refill.

You can have an opinion on alcohol, thats its for special occasions etc, but the difference here is hes turned into a petulant child and is now stomping round like a toddler, silent treatment the lot... sounds a bit toxic... a bit immature, no respect for you? Would he treat his boss the same if there was a work event, and ge saw his boss with a glass of wine? No... he wouldn't. So he thinks its ok to treat you like that why?

He knows hes your spouse not your dad right?

His reaction isnt normal. Why cant you have a drink?

Unless theres a back story where one of you is in recovery or "a glass of wine" is code for absolutely wrecked and behaving badly - where his mood could perhaps be understood?

Id expect DH to either say "pour me one will you?" Or "none for me on a school night thanks, ill make a cuppa"

He would either sit down beside me with a beer or make a cheeky comment like ‘Oh a Monday drink I see’ for a joke - only because I rarely have alcohol on a Monday! He would also be asking me what’s up, he absolutely would not behave the way your DH is behaving, what a child! In saying that, unless he is like this all the time… is he concerned with your drinking? That would be my only reason to think he is so angry! Also, how long have you been together… I’m really surprised you have never been in this situation before.

Need more context- what time is it, is it a regular occurrence, are you in charge of young kids, how big was the glass of wine..?

“Gin o’clock time is it?”

and that would be it

My husband would have poured mine, them himself one. Yours was unreasonable unless there's a big back story.

He’d probably be a bit raisey eyebrowed and concerned because he gets home for 3pm most days!

but if it was at a normal time in the early evening he’d probably just make a joke about me going to bed early because I’m a right lightweight and I usually end up asleep after one glass of wine.

Where's mine?

Or do you mean you are visibly a bit tipsy? And he's annoyed about that.

Erm that’s not normal OP. Mine would probably ask where his was!

Mine would say: "Oh go on then, pour me one."

Your DH's reaction is alarming. Who made him the booze police?

He assume I'd had a rough day and be sympathetic.

He would say nothing because I am an adult - this kind of behaviour would really piss me off and I would tell him so…

(unless there is a back story and you drink 2 bottles a night or something!) If not then he is a controlling, nasty man!

He wouldn't be bothered, as long as it was only 1 as we have 3 young children at home - just incase there was an emergency and I had to drive and I was still able to care for the children. Once he's home he wouldn't mind if I had another but it is very very rare I drink and I'll be lucky if I can even finish 1.

My partner things I’ve got a potential addiction problem and I drink about 2 units per week. I do tend to get addicted to things so I can see where’s she’s coming from. I find if v controlling tbh

He's practically wiggle his eyebrows off his forehead, thinking he was in with a chance.

He needs to get a grip

Are you a recovered alcoholic or have you had drinking issues in the past? If yes then of course he’s entitled to be upset.

My husband would just go quiet. But that’s because I was once a mean drinker. He wouldn’t slam about or get angry but he wouldn’t approve.

If I’d had one, nothing at all.

If I’d done two bottles of wine and was shitfaced, he’d say something.

He wouldn’t react like your DH because he’s a fully functional adult.

He’d be surprised I think, and would probably make a joke after checking I was ok. I hardly ever drink at home. He’d probably also be secretly delighted as I suspect I’m a lot more fun and less uptight with a drink in me!

Honestly I do find myself getting a bit eye rolly and irritated when he is drinking on a random weeknight. Partly because it just feels really alien to me now, it wasn’t so much in my younger days but now I’m just baffled and think what’s the point? Also he seems ‘tipsy’ literally after the first half pint, so whilst he generally is only drinking a moderate amount it’s like being around someone who has had a fair bit more. Not nasty or unpleasant but just irritating when you’re sober. And like I say so alien to me now - I love a few drinks when we’re out, with a nice meal or socialising with friends and family, I just genuinely don’t get the attraction on a random Tuesday teatime when you’ve still got to do homework and bath and bedtime with the DC.

I’m massively oversensitive though and tellingly I never gave a shit before we had DC - it’s only since we had them that I suddenly don’t like it. And I grew up with an alcoholic parent so that’s clearly why it triggers me these days. So I do make a real effort to keep a lid on my annoyance and realise it’s my issue, not his!

Hands down could not be married to someone like this. What a miserable arse.

Mine would think something was very wrong since I don’t drink and the smell of alcohol on one’s breath, especially wine turns my stomach.

I struggle to kiss DH when he has had wine.

I get annoyed with DH but not to the point your DH has about you drinking and my parents rarely drink too. That level of aggression is pointless and usually unnecessary.

Mine would say “have you had a bad day lover?”, hopefully give me a hug, then pour me another glass