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Do we stop wearing coats in high school?

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TheyNicknamedHerTheBolter · 08/09/2025 09:55

So my DS has just gone up to secondary school.

I’ve bought and returned three coats so far, non of which fit over his blazer. He’s informed me today NOBODY wears a coat, and the blazer acts as the coat. He can take it off in class but has to wear it in the corridor.

Is this typical? What do they do when it snows? Aibu to think this is mad?
or am I struggling to cut the apron strings 🤪

I’m used to bundling him off to primary mittens and a woolly hat!!

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Itsnottheheatitsthehumidity · 09/09/2025 21:10

Mine is 19 and still won’t wear a coat. It comes from the kids not wanting to drag around a coat on top of everything else they have to carry. Also they weren’t allowed to wear coats inside the school building, but wearing a blazer was obligatory. Stupid rule.

LouiseK93 · 09/09/2025 21:03

Its the same as my daughters high school and has been this way for years! Leave them too it 😂

CrispySquid · 09/09/2025 19:45

Hungryhippa · 08/09/2025 09:57

Coats are very uncool round here

There was a brief period where north face coats were in, and a brief period where canada goose was in

Now it's back to no coats!

Yep. Same at my school. Been told by students that it’s not cool to wear a coat and “only old people wear coats”. As quoted PP said, only ‘high status’ coats that give you cool points are acceptable like Canada Goose, North Face and Zavetti.

K0OLA1D · 09/09/2025 19:42

Yeah, my eldest is in year 9. He wears a school jumper under his blazer and sometimes when really cold a hoodie as well, which technically isnt 'allowed'. But he takes it off before he goes in and puts it in his bag. He's never worn a coat. He walks to and from school

Sassylovesbooks · 09/09/2025 19:42

It's common once children reach secondary school. Well, apart from my son, who hates being cold or getting wet, so he wears a coat! The majority don't, not even when it's frosty or raining - snow that's a bit different and most do. Although where I live in the UK, we get snow once in a blue moon! I think some of it is because the children, then have to carry the coat around all day, as my son's school won't let them wear coats inside.

LynetteScavo · 09/09/2025 19:40

Coats are not a thing at high school, and that’s OK, because a hefty application of Lynx will keep them warm.

ErrolTheDragon · 09/09/2025 19:33

DDs school didn’t have a blazer as part of the uniform, so coats in bad weather were the norm. They did have somewhere to put them.
As dd went on the bus and sometimes had to wait quite a while at the bus stop in all weather she was more than happy to wear sensible coats - various types over the years. The school didn’t place many restrictions as to style and colour.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 09/09/2025 19:26

My dd was like this.

Then in yr 10 she walked to school in the sleet. This was during Covid when they had all windows open and had to go outside all the time.

That night she came home and asked for a coat😁

BogRollBOGOF · 09/09/2025 19:26

Mine have coats which they wear out of school but it has to be pretty arctic before they'll wear them on school days.

They do wear thin black pac-a-mac type waterproofs when the rain is biblical.

I survived y10 and y11 refusing to wear the "perfectly good" coat DM bought me in y8 that I unfortunately failed to grow out of and was therefore never replaced despite being horrifically out of date and babyish. We had more frosts and snow then and I managed not to get hypothermia. My DCs also have shorter breaks/ lunches and a modern indoor site rather than umpteen eras of sprawling blocks. I survived so see no point in arguing it because they'll survive too.

Schools can't have coats hung up in corridors due to fire safety regulations along escape routes.

Sausagescanfly · 09/09/2025 19:18

Judging by the messages on our parents' WhatsApp, it's north face or nothing and the north face ones go missing all the time. Sadly for my DD, it's nothing as I don't want to pay that much for someone to steal her coat.

MagneticSquirrel · 09/09/2025 19:04

Far too hot for a coat over a blazer at the moment anyway. Kids can layer up with vest, shirt, jumper, blazer and then scarf, hat gloves before remotely necessary for a coat! Umbrella if raining.

I’m not even wearing a blazer / jacket to walk to work yet, 5 mins walk in long sleeve shirt in the morning and more than warm enough! It’s warm in afternoons too.

Mutability · 09/09/2025 19:04

Completely typical ime. No-one wore a coat once they got to secondary school.

Thatcannotberight · 09/09/2025 19:04

DS 13, just going into yr 9, has a thin raincoat for very wet days and a puffa jacket for very cold days. No pegs, no lockers, everything has to be screwed up and stuffed in your rucksack. Otherwise it's the blazer, which is worn all day unless it's hot and teachers allow them to take them off in class.

User79853257976 · 09/09/2025 19:02

They do wear coats but it’s still warm at the moment.

TheCurious0range · 09/09/2025 19:01

Don't children have school lockers anymore? I used to get the bus to school and bundle my coat in there first thing and get it for the journey home

Blipette · 09/09/2025 18:59

I never wore a coat in high school, come rain hail or shine. My eldest wouldn’t wear a coat either. My middle child has just started year 8, he probably would wear something if it’s small enough he can chuck in the bottom of his bag. But so far he hasn’t really needed it.

WhatNoRaisins · 09/09/2025 18:55

We also had the trend of wearing your rucksack straps really loose. I used to hate the sensation of my bag going bash bash bash against me when I walked but didn't want to go against the trend.

ColdWaterDipper · 09/09/2025 18:43

My boys (11 & 13) don’t usually take coats to school - the younger one has just started in year 7 and is too cool for his own good already. The older one is not one of the really cool kids and never has been (but happily in a great bunch of friends), and he will now take a coat IF it’s pouring with rain or freezing cold. The younger one has to wear shorts to school still and still rolls his socks down, he cares far too much about his image! Luckily (for him) they can’t walk to school, so they get dropped off in the school driveway and only have to pause slightly to shake hands with the headmaster as they scuttle in and then they either keep warm by playing football on the quad for the 20 mins or so until form time starts, or they can go straight inside if it’s very wet.

I remember refusing to wear a coat at big school as well, and my friend (whose mother made her wear a cagoul every wet day) was gently teased by the rest of us on the walk to school. We also could only wear our rucksacks over one shoulder for some reason and thank goodness that trend hasn’t come back yet!

Osmosisfreight · 09/09/2025 18:23

My Yr 11 hates me when I insist they wear a coat, I presume they take it off as soon as they leave the house😂 I remember I also used to hate wearing a coat and my mother also had the same fight with me.

MightyGoldBear · 09/09/2025 18:20

I still have anxiety dreams about not getting from my locker to my bus in time and missing my bus home. There was no other transport option just that one bus who wouldnt wait.

If you had p.e, home Ed and art on the same day what a faff carrying about numerous bags potentially a tupperware box of some sort of food and a massive A3 art folder sometimes A2.
The coat was not even remotely on my list no matter what time of year it was. It was just impossible to carry everything. Schools really need to re think this.

Sometimes I didn't make it to my locker in time. So hello mouldy home ed food on Monday or worse after half term !

Anotherename · 09/09/2025 18:19

Honestly I think my kids used to live in fear of their mates finding out that they own a coat 😆

give up the fight

Ibizamumof4 · 09/09/2025 18:13

No coats it’s just too much to carry and too bulky over blazer

Mere1 · 09/09/2025 18:08

TheyNicknamedHerTheBolter · 08/09/2025 09:55

So my DS has just gone up to secondary school.

I’ve bought and returned three coats so far, non of which fit over his blazer. He’s informed me today NOBODY wears a coat, and the blazer acts as the coat. He can take it off in class but has to wear it in the corridor.

Is this typical? What do they do when it snows? Aibu to think this is mad?
or am I struggling to cut the apron strings 🤪

I’m used to bundling him off to primary mittens and a woolly hat!!

As a secondary school teacher for 30 years, girls wear them, and sweaters under blazers. Boys shun sweaters and coats, unless it’s seriously cold when they might add a woolly.

Duechristmas · 09/09/2025 18:07

No, they don't wear coats in senior school, even in rain or snow and even when they walk to school. Adolescents don't feel the cold!

tinygingermum · 08/09/2025 14:23

Currently in the north face coat phase as DCs secondary school, last year was no coats.