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To use dead neighbours bins

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Lovelyskyx · 08/09/2025 09:18

My elderly neighbour sadly suddenly. died a few months ago, and I always used to use his bins (with his permission) as he had very little waste and we have a big family and many pets.
I haven't put anything in them since he passed as it felt disrespectful, even though I know he would say yes if I asked him and he was here, but we have a few extra bags of rubbish and the bins are being collected today, so I popped them in and put his bin out.
Now I'm feeling bad and worrying that his relatives would take it badly if they saw (they come round once or twice a week , but I haven't had chance to really talk to them or ask permission as it wasn't on my mind). , I'll obviously pop the bin back as soon as it's emptied.
Am I terrible for this?

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LadeOde · 08/09/2025 11:40

SprayWhiteDung · 08/09/2025 10:57

Is it even possible to 'just get another bin'?

Unless you qualify by e.g. having more than a certain number of people (excluding pets!) in your household or a medical condition that generates a lot of clinical waste, most councils won't allow you to have an extra bin - even if you're happy to pay for it each month.

They don't have any mechanism for charging domestic customers for doorstep waste collections other than what you already pay as part of your council tax; so you get whatever you qualify for free and any extra has to be taken to the tip or taken away by a private waste company that you pay.

Actually that's not true for Waste collection. Depends where you live. Where i am, we pay a yearly fee of £55 per bin, double that if you have more than 1 bin. This is outside of the council tax. So you couldn't just grab your neighbours waste bin and use it, you also have to pay for having an 'extra' bin (£38 + £55 +£55).

ComfortFoodCafe · 08/09/2025 11:37

I think its fine long as you only do it on the night before bin day/on the day itself as they might start clearing the house & need to use the bins.

VexedofVirginiaWater · 08/09/2025 11:32

I have had this situation from the other side, where I was the family of the deceased relatives. What I would say is, it is OK if you put your rubbish in the day the bin is due to be collected, and if you put the bin out and return it afterwards, and if it doesn't leave the bin smelling really bad. However what I found was that I would go to do some clearing of the house and go to use the bin only to find it was full of someone else's stinking rubbish. Once someone put dog shit in - that was really annoying. I had to pay to have it cleaned.

It was during lockdown too and one time they filled up the cardboard bin so I could get nothing else in at all. Honestly it was infuriating and meant I wasted a trip there.

I did go round to the neighbours either side to ask if they knew who had filled the bins and explain the difficulties, and both lots denied knowing anything about it, but it mostly stopped after that - sometimes I found a few bags in. If it had continued I was seriously considering putting gravity locks on them.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 08/09/2025 11:32

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 11:23

I had 1 cat in a 2 bed terrace way back, was fastidious and still even with a covered tray if he pooped it stank like high heaven. I have 1 small dog just now, again fastidious and I'm aware of his odour. I think you must not be aware of your own stench. Like the febreeze naoe blind advert

I'm not nose blind, far from it. I actually have hyperosmia from chronic migraine, my sense of smell is heightened and I need to have a fragrance free house. I agree cat poo stinks, but we move it straight away. I can smell my cats at times but I have spare litter trays and swap them over every two days. I wash the litter trays outside with hot soapy water.

Large, naturally moulting dogs don't always have a strong dog odour by comparison with small dogs and unless they get very wet you don't notice it all.

CinnamonBuns67 · 08/09/2025 11:26

I really think you ought to ask his relatives, unfortunately the person who originally gave permission is not the owner anymore and you need permission off the owner. They might be happy to agree to allow you to use it temporarily until they've sorted what they are doing with the property (move in or sell it on) if you ask but they might feel a bit miffed off if you did it without asking.

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 11:23

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 08/09/2025 11:16

We had 6 large cats and three giant breed dogs in a very average 3 bed semi for years. The cats shared two big covered litter trays that were cleaned out and refilled every night. Dogs fully housetrained with garden access and regular long walks, poo always bagged up straight away. No, the house didn't stink.
If you have a lot of commitment and a good routine it is perfectly possible to have multiple pets in a normal house. I've always worked from home and since covid my partner is wfh also so that helps I suppose.

I had 1 cat in a 2 bed terrace way back, was fastidious and still even with a covered tray if he pooped it stank like high heaven. I have 1 small dog just now, again fastidious and I'm aware of his odour. I think you must not be aware of your own stench. Like the febreeze naoe blind advert

napody · 08/09/2025 11:19

LadySuzanne · 08/09/2025 10:18

I would not continue to use the bins (especially for animal waste) unless I had first discussed it with the executors or relatives and they were happy for me to do so. I think it would be a bit cheeky not to ask them.

Agree. Especially smelly stuff like dog/cat poo and rat wee! Amazed that people think it's OK. The last thing his family need right now is having to approach neighbours and have awkward conversations. You need a new plan- compost heaps should help a lot since the bedding will be the bulkiest element of the waste.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 08/09/2025 11:16

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 10:17

Surely unless you're in a truly massive property your house would stink to high heaven? Particularly if litter trays for that many. I'm picturing op in a 3 bed terrace like me mind you she may be in a 7 bed detached with a couple of acres which makes it less mad

We had 6 large cats and three giant breed dogs in a very average 3 bed semi for years. The cats shared two big covered litter trays that were cleaned out and refilled every night. Dogs fully housetrained with garden access and regular long walks, poo always bagged up straight away. No, the house didn't stink.
If you have a lot of commitment and a good routine it is perfectly possible to have multiple pets in a normal house. I've always worked from home and since covid my partner is wfh also so that helps I suppose.

Luckyingame · 08/09/2025 11:06

No problem.

Conniebygaslight · 08/09/2025 11:06

SepticPegsSepticLeg · 08/09/2025 10:46

Your house must stink. Urgh.

It's not always necessary to post what you think......

SprayWhiteDung · 08/09/2025 10:57

Is it even possible to 'just get another bin'?

Unless you qualify by e.g. having more than a certain number of people (excluding pets!) in your household or a medical condition that generates a lot of clinical waste, most councils won't allow you to have an extra bin - even if you're happy to pay for it each month.

They don't have any mechanism for charging domestic customers for doorstep waste collections other than what you already pay as part of your council tax; so you get whatever you qualify for free and any extra has to be taken to the tip or taken away by a private waste company that you pay.

SepticPegsSepticLeg · 08/09/2025 10:46

Lovelyskyx · 08/09/2025 09:34

We have four dogs, six cats and the rest are guineas/ rats.
That's a good idea, thank you x

Your house must stink. Urgh.

SeaAndStars · 08/09/2025 10:45

This will sound bonkers OP, but someone might want the waste from your guinea pigs. I have hens on my allotment and my fellow allotmenteers are always after the clearing from their coop for their compost bins.

If you put an ad up on your local Facebook page I bet some mad keen gardener will collect it from you on a regular basis.

thecatneuterer · 08/09/2025 10:31

Lauren1983 · 08/09/2025 10:27

You need to get another bin sorted asap. Not quite the same but an elderly relative had an agreement with her neighbour that they could park on her land as she didn't drive. When she died the neighbour was very put out when family members who were clearing the house and who did drive took 'his space' as he expected the agreement to continue. You sound a caring person but sadly the neighbour is no longer able to make this decision and it isn't a guarantee the new owners will agree to the bin usage.

True. But it's fine to continue until there are new owners.

LadeOde · 08/09/2025 10:30

@OP do you not pay for your bins or bin collection? we pay an a yearly charge for the collection and if you want more than the standard one bin you have to pay for that as well. I'm just wondering wouldnt you have to pay to have your neighbours bin being collected?

Lauren1983 · 08/09/2025 10:27

You need to get another bin sorted asap. Not quite the same but an elderly relative had an agreement with her neighbour that they could park on her land as she didn't drive. When she died the neighbour was very put out when family members who were clearing the house and who did drive took 'his space' as he expected the agreement to continue. You sound a caring person but sadly the neighbour is no longer able to make this decision and it isn't a guarantee the new owners will agree to the bin usage.

Isobel201 · 08/09/2025 10:24

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 10:17

Surely unless you're in a truly massive property your house would stink to high heaven? Particularly if litter trays for that many. I'm picturing op in a 3 bed terrace like me mind you she may be in a 7 bed detached with a couple of acres which makes it less mad

No I think most of them went out in the garden, so we had no extra waste to deal with. My mum only has two cats now.

Connectingconcrable · 08/09/2025 10:21

The owner of the house is responsible for whatever is in the bin. I looked into this after I saw my neighbours putting their rubbish in my bin. Our council are very strict about what goes into each bin and you see the bin men looking into the bins before they are emptied.

LadySuzanne · 08/09/2025 10:18

I would not continue to use the bins (especially for animal waste) unless I had first discussed it with the executors or relatives and they were happy for me to do so. I think it would be a bit cheeky not to ask them.

Tranky · 08/09/2025 10:17

No not at all - your lovely neighbour would want you to do this. He’d want to help in any way he could 😊

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 10:17

Isobel201 · 08/09/2025 10:15

We had over six cats at one point, its not uncommon. We weren't a rescue either, just had a mother who liked multiple cats lol and we grew up with them.

Surely unless you're in a truly massive property your house would stink to high heaven? Particularly if litter trays for that many. I'm picturing op in a 3 bed terrace like me mind you she may be in a 7 bed detached with a couple of acres which makes it less mad

Isobel201 · 08/09/2025 10:15

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 10:13

Are you an animal rescue? Do you live on a large plot of land? That's an insane number of pets

We had over six cats at one point, its not uncommon. We weren't a rescue either, just had a mother who liked multiple cats lol and we grew up with them.

Barnbrack · 08/09/2025 10:13

Lovelyskyx · 08/09/2025 09:34

We have four dogs, six cats and the rest are guineas/ rats.
That's a good idea, thank you x

Are you an animal rescue? Do you live on a large plot of land? That's an insane number of pets

Isobel201 · 08/09/2025 10:11

I did it when living next to rental houses that were vacant for a while. As long as you put it back, its fine.

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 08/09/2025 10:02

When my friend's grandmother died, years ago now, it took months and months for her house to sell.

Because the house was empty the family were paying either reduced council tax, or no council tax (I can't remember) and that meant there were no bin collections. I know this because I visited the house with her and she told me not to put rubbish in the bin.

So I'd be wary of filling the neighbour's bin, because it might not be emptied, or it might mean the family getting charged for it if you put it out for collection.