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Are full stops passive aggressive?

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Samas · 07/09/2025 22:16

Are full stops really passive-aggressive now? According to my colleague they are, especially in text messages. Apparently, ending a sentence correctly is no longer “neutral” but somehow comes across as cold or hostile.

yabu= full stops are indeed PA
yanbu= of course they’re not

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Rightandwrong · 07/09/2025 23:28

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 07/09/2025 23:21

So, fuck off is casual and what I send as a jokey message in WhatsApp group texts to some friends.

If I want to say that to someone at work for real, I can envisage there will be a full stop used. I will be wielding that full stop in the same way I would bang a door.

I will be wielding that full stop in the same way I would bang a door.

Please tell me this is a joke!
How can you possibly wield a full stop?
It's punctuation!

UnintentionalArcher · 07/09/2025 23:27

Thunderdcc · 07/09/2025 22:36

Yep. My apprentice admitted the other day she often re-reads messages to check if the person is cross with her or just using correct punctuation.

It made us all laugh so much we have all started sending just single full stops as Teams messages to each other.

😂 That’s an excellent response.

I haven’t heard of this but find it utterly ridiculous.

AngelofIslington · 07/09/2025 23:27

Jesus I’ve heard it all now, getting offended by a full stop.
These people are very lucky if all they have to worry about is a .

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:26

NoWordForFluffy · 07/09/2025 23:24

I must be inadvertently offending people all over the shop with my full stops. Oops. 😬🙄🤣

I can't believe you ended your reply to me with a full stop! How rude! 😄

I think emojis are a much better way to show passive aggression, if someone wants to (note, no full stop. I'm catching up with the times)

LeftieRightsHoarder · 07/09/2025 23:26

It is serious. The point of language is to communicate. The point of punctuation is to aid communication by making written language as clear as possible.

You only have to read some online posts, including on Mumsnet, to see how useful punctuation is. It’s difficult to understand what you’re being told in hundreds of words without a comma, bracket or full stop. The education system has failed adults whose communication is restricted this way.

murasaki · 07/09/2025 23:26

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:23

We're not discussing if it means something passive aggressive though, we're discussing that it's ridiculous to think that or react to it in some way. 😂

True. And it is totally ridiculous. Amusing, though, that anyone thinks a full stop is anything other than the end of a sentence.

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 07/09/2025 23:26

Rightandwrong · 07/09/2025 23:18

I honestly cannot believe that every single communication has to be scrutinised and analysed to guess the psychological state of the sender.
Absolute madness.
Paranoia rules.
Just use proper punctuation all the time and there isn't an issue is there?

In spoken communication, we use the speaker's accompanying tone and body language to interpret mood.

Written communication is stripped of that, so both reader and writer use punctuation to communicate/gauge mood.

Blackalice · 07/09/2025 23:26

My teens say they are 🤣 It's a youth thing apparently.

Pepperypottery · 07/09/2025 23:26

It seems to me people are being purposefully obtuse on this thread.
It isn’t a problem with every full stop, it’s only full stops at the end of a message. If you bother to try and think about it, text conversations are continuous now due to unlimited data/wifi. Previously, text messages were limited in length as pp mentioned. Now, if you put a full stop at the end of a message, it indicates that the conversation is over, you are forcefully bringing the dialogue to a close, instead of allowing the rolling, text-based conversation to continue. For all the eye-rolling about the sensitivities of younger generations on this thread, there seems to be a sort of delight in the opportunity to be irritated by them.

I am impressed by how many people are conscientiously whacking full stops at the end of their posts though. I’m off to survey some other threads and see if others are so rigorous

NorthernGirl1975 · 07/09/2025 23:24

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:16

Yes, I concur that we do need some punctuation-The point I was making, is that individuals, have their own unique style of writing-It's the tone of a message, which matters most -
So, for example, I used an old friend's usual writing style - She only ever, adds a fullstop at the end of a sentence, when she's upset! Like where it states in the Bible, that God judges us on our hearts-I'm saying it's the vibe, of a message, which is more imperative, than mere punctuation! I'm not saying that all punctuation, is unimportant! Some have misunderstood where I was coming from...

You're using commas where they don't belong in this post. Is that deliberate?

NoWordForFluffy · 07/09/2025 23:24

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:22

I haven't heard of that one. Amazing the ways you can inadvertently offend people these days.

I must be inadvertently offending people all over the shop with my full stops. Oops. 😬🙄🤣

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:24

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:21

I'm not completely disagreeing-My point was, that it depends on an individual's typical writing style, in concerns with, whether or not, they're being passive aggressive!
Yes, sometimes it can be so-Again it truly depends on the punctuation that is typical, or the norm, for them! That was the whole subject, not whether punctuation is important! Just, can it sometimes be used, when some, individuals, are being passive aggressive?!
I shared an experience, where the answer was yes! You haven't experienced or known the individual, I'm referring to!

Lack of punctuation = more opportunities for confusion in meaning.

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:23

Yes & the question was, can fullstops be used when someone is being passive aggressive?

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:23

murasaki · 07/09/2025 23:21

Quite agree, if it did, the thread would have stopped after the full stop in post one, but here we are having a discussion.

We're not discussing if it means something passive aggressive though, we're discussing that it's ridiculous to think that or react to it in some way. 😂

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:22

Hillsmakeyoustrong · 07/09/2025 23:21

This reminds me when clapping was also seen as violating so some people now do the clicky fingers instead 😂.

Mental.

I haven't heard of that one. Amazing the ways you can inadvertently offend people these days.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 07/09/2025 23:22

So if I understand the article correctly, this only applies to text / WhatsApp between friends / family and not to formal communication. Also it’s not saying you can still use punctuation within a sentence, just not the final full stop at the end of your text .

Ive just looked through some of my chats and it’s true that most people don’t put them at the end of their messages, unless it’s a long message, and even then it tends to be either ?, !, 🤣 or x at the end. I’d never heard of this before this thread, but in practice it seems to be how most people communicate informally . I don’t actually see it as a big deal. As others have said, text speak initially took all the vowels out. As long as people recognise what is appropriate for formal communication, and I would consider email as formal.

Hillsmakeyoustrong · 07/09/2025 23:21

This reminds me when clapping was also seen as violating so some people now do the clicky fingers instead 😂.

Mental.

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:21

I'm not completely disagreeing-My point was, that it depends on an individual's typical writing style, in concerns with, whether or not, they're being passive aggressive!
Yes, sometimes it can be so-Again it truly depends on the punctuation that is typical, or the norm, for them! That was the whole subject, not whether punctuation is important! Just, can it sometimes be used, when some, individuals, are being passive aggressive?!
I shared an experience, where the answer was yes! You haven't experienced or known the individual, I'm referring to!

murasaki · 07/09/2025 23:21

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:19

Right, but that's not what it means.

Quite agree, if it did, the thread would have stopped after the full stop in post one, but here we are having a discussion.

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 07/09/2025 23:21

Fromage · 07/09/2025 23:15

Is this a gen Z thing? They are now triggered by the actual violence of the smallest punctuation mark? (Is it the smallest?)

So

Fuck off

is fine but

Fuck off.

Is worse?

I mean, what is wrong with these people? Is it the smacking? Should we never have let that go out if fashion, or is it because smoking whilst pregnant became frowned upon? Where did we go wrong? Why are all these youths absolute Walter the Softies with no resilience?

So, fuck off is casual and what I send as a jokey message in WhatsApp group texts to some friends.

If I want to say that to someone at work for real, I can envisage there will be a full stop used. I will be wielding that full stop in the same way I would bang a door.

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:20

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:19

Right, but that's not what it means.

No, it's not. My kids know I use full stops and it doesn't mean anything negative. I get that language does evolve and have no problem with it really. However, younger generations are going to have to understand the older generations might use a full stop without it meaning they are mad or closing the conversation.

NoWordForFluffy · 07/09/2025 23:20

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:17

My kids told me that a full stop at the end is now taken as having the final word. Like saying. "This is my opinion and I don't want to discuss it. Full stop." It closes a discussion.

It ends a sentence. Reading any more into it than that is just batshit and really weird!

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 23:19

NotAhotWeatherPerson · 07/09/2025 23:17

My kids told me that a full stop at the end is now taken as having the final word. Like saying. "This is my opinion and I don't want to discuss it. Full stop." It closes a discussion.

Right, but that's not what it means.

NoWordForFluffy · 07/09/2025 23:18

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:16

Yes, I concur that we do need some punctuation-The point I was making, is that individuals, have their own unique style of writing-It's the tone of a message, which matters most -
So, for example, I used an old friend's usual writing style - She only ever, adds a fullstop at the end of a sentence, when she's upset! Like where it states in the Bible, that God judges us on our hearts-I'm saying it's the vibe, of a message, which is more imperative, than mere punctuation! I'm not saying that all punctuation, is unimportant! Some have misunderstood where I was coming from...

Punctuation usage is based on grammatical rules, not vibes!

murasaki · 07/09/2025 23:18

HevenlyMeS · 07/09/2025 23:16

Yes, I concur that we do need some punctuation-The point I was making, is that individuals, have their own unique style of writing-It's the tone of a message, which matters most -
So, for example, I used an old friend's usual writing style - She only ever, adds a fullstop at the end of a sentence, when she's upset! Like where it states in the Bible, that God judges us on our hearts-I'm saying it's the vibe, of a message, which is more imperative, than mere punctuation! I'm not saying that all punctuation, is unimportant! Some have misunderstood where I was coming from...

That wasn't the 'vibe' of your previous posts.

And messages with no punctuation are giving off a poorly educated and/or lazy vibe.