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If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

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JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

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MoveOverToTheSea · 08/09/2025 06:20

Ontheedgeofit · 08/09/2025 05:18

Sensitive much?

Regardless of your opinion I don’t think I’ve seen one post where the person has said… I exercised everyday, watched my calories and still (!) I ballooned to over 100kgs…

I really do get that there are genetics and other factors at play but to simply deny the causal link is naive.

I have …. Mentioned too that MJ doesn’t do a lot for me either.

So have other people who mentioned IVF etc…

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 06:19

I find it hard to sense when I am hungry or full. I eat when I am stressed, eat when I am tired, eat when I am happy, eat when I can't concentrate. Never when I'm just hungry

Hi there, this is very much an ND trait, a very common one often mentioned on MN threads and I hope any dx you may get helps you going forward. People mistakenly think ARFID is the only co-morbid of ADHD/Autism type ND but it’s not. I think it’s just spoken about more.

RawBloomers · 08/09/2025 06:19

After I had kids I found I got pulled muscles really easily and they took forever to heal. I got one injury after another. I wasn’t free of a significant strained muscle for more than about 9 months in 8+ years. Which made being active hard. I only stopped getting them when I stopped trying to be active. We moved to somewhere less foot friendly, but I couldn’t carry much at all without straining my shoulder muscles, so I started driving even more. Any attempt at running would result in a pulled quad. Etc. And I was so exhausted I was reaching for sugar just to get through the day. I also baked for my kids and found it harder to eat healthily catering to a family. I went from 60kg before kids to 100kg in about 12 years. I lost 10 when I got sick a few years ago and have managed to keep that off now the kids are older and I can spend a bit more time on myself.

But basically that’s it - I ate more and moved less. Slowing metabolism made it even more difficult.

MoveOverToTheSea · 08/09/2025 06:15

Illness.
Each time I crashed illness wise and did miles too much (because you know, illness shouldn’t stop you right?), I put weight on and never lost it.
Diet is excellent according to the various nutritionists I’ve seen. The comment has always been ‘you really eat like this everyday?!?’ Don’t change it’

fwiw I’m on MJ (not to lose weight as such but hoping loosing weight will help high blood pressure that can’t be medicated). And I’m still struggling to loose weight…..

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 06:14

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:51

Tidy.

I've always been very thin naturally.

I absolutely do not and have never had an eating disorder.

But cheers.

I've always enjoyed dickheads commenting on my weight.

I guess it pisses me off in a similar way that it pisses you off.

People commenting on my weight doesn’t bother me. But haverin cuddies like you do. You know, the kind of malicious posters who haunt these threads looking for attention whilst making an arse of themselves - not that they realise that’s what they’re doing because in their world any attention is good attention.

Going forward - just know that whilst posters like myself can spot an idiot on Mounjaro, we can also spot idiots l who aren’t on it but need these boards as much as we do because of who they are.

MrsWeaverTheBeaver · 08/09/2025 05:51

Lots of trauma going through secondary school leading to comfort eating. Then going from an active job to a desk job. Had 2 kids in the pandemic and found it harder to move around with the youngest. Now getting assessed for ND which may explain why I eat.

I find it hard to sense when I am hungry or full. I eat when I am stressed, eat when I am tired, eat when I am happy, eat when I can't concentrate. Never when I'm just hungry.

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:51

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:44

Prior to seeing your reply I ran your weight through 3 BMI calculators and I don’t believe a word you’ve said about it, especially the part about you being pregnant and 62kgs - Unless you had an eating disorder.

Then you say you’re now 55kgs which actually gives you an underweight BMI of 17.9 - so another indication of an eating disorder.

Either that or you’re what we call in Scotland a haverin cuddy (that’s the polite version) and you’re best ignored as a very suspicious poster, the kind who frequent the WLI threads for attention

And your pleased I’ve taken control of my weight and life? Your pleasure is of no interest to me.

Oh and you don’t want me to say I’d look like a skeleton? Too bad.

You mention 5’6 - I haven’t been that height since I was 12.

Edited

Tidy.

I've always been very thin naturally.

I absolutely do not and have never had an eating disorder.

But cheers.

I've always enjoyed dickheads commenting on my weight.

I guess it pisses me off in a similar way that it pisses you off.

Quackedout · 08/09/2025 05:48

@JustCiri im around that mark now. Im 5ft 6, under active thyroid, peri menopausal, and most likely insulin resistant. Im an apple shape but I carried it all fairly decently so I just saw myself as a stocky woman for years and didn't really worry until i was buying a size 18 clothing. Id normalised it plus the scales have always said i have high muscle mass. People are always shocked when i tell them my true weight. My weight has been in the 90s for ages, hugely obese according to the numbers, and 100kg is my highest. I hate it. Mine is due to portion sizes plus i would say stress. Worrying, then not sleeping well. I dont drink, walk about 20k steps a day but have a sedentary job and the health stuff means its harder to lose the weight. Id have nothing for the day then id have a plate of rice and curry for dinner. Or finish leftovers that the kids didnt eat. Im trying to lose the weight now by eating more sensibly but its extremely tough to even lose 1lb. Would love to be 85kg. No plans to use WLI.

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:44

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:28

I'm really pleased that you've taken control of your weight and life but don't say you'd look like a skeleton at under 85kg unless you're about 6' 2".

I'm 5'9" and 55kg. I don't look like a skeleton. I'm not even super-skinny. Just slimish.

Prior to seeing your reply I ran your weight through 3 BMI calculators and I don’t believe a word you’ve said about it, especially the part about you being pregnant and 62kgs - Unless you had an eating disorder.

Then you say you’re now 55kgs which actually gives you an underweight BMI of 17.9 - so another indication of an eating disorder.

Either that or you’re what we call in Scotland a haverin cuddy (that’s the polite version) and you’re best ignored as a very suspicious poster, the kind who frequent the WLI threads for attention

And your pleased I’ve taken control of my weight and life? Your pleasure is of no interest to me.

Oh and you don’t want me to say I’d look like a skeleton? Too bad.

You mention 5’6 - I haven’t been that height since I was 12.

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:41

@weepixie Skeletal at 13 stone & 5' 6"?

Unlikely.

I see this all the time on WL threads. Gaunt, skeletal.

Nope.

Copenhagener · 08/09/2025 05:41

Ontheedgeofit · 08/09/2025 05:33

IVF is the sole reason I’ve put on weight and not been able to shake it until WLIs.

I didn’t even get a kid to make it worthwhile. But 3 years of intense treatment is awful. I don’t think anyone who hasn’t been through it will be able to fully tell you how terrible it is. The affect on your body is brutal.

Edited

I’m sorry to hear IVF didn’t work for you. I still get mad when I hear people say ‘we’ll just do IVF’ as if it’s simple and harmless and guarantees a baby. You’re stronger than I am - we did one round of retrievals and only got two blasts, by the grace of sheer luck the second one worked, otherwise I couldn’t have faced another cycle.

I hope you feel some peace now.

IVF hormones were always worse than pregnancy hormones for me.

Ontheedgeofit · 08/09/2025 05:33

Copenhagener · 08/09/2025 05:32

91kg now, which is my heaviest.

A year of IVF hormones. Then a medical condition in my pregnancy that caused immense amniotic fluid build up and resulted in lots of loose skin. Abdominal separation so bad I couldn’t exercise for months. Then months of physio - all while navigating my dad dying and having a newborn.

I eat healthily, all from scratch, walk my dog a lot, cycle everywhere and do yoga. Haven’t lost a kg since the initial weeks after the birth. I’ve never experienced my body holding onto weight like this.

I will try Mounjaro soon I think. Then a tummy tuck for all the excess skin unless it improves

IVF is the sole reason I’ve put on weight and not been able to shake it until WLIs.

I didn’t even get a kid to make it worthwhile. But 3 years of intense treatment is awful. I don’t think anyone who hasn’t been through it will be able to fully tell you how terrible it is. The affect on your body is brutal.

Copenhagener · 08/09/2025 05:32

91kg now, which is my heaviest.

A year of IVF hormones. Then a medical condition in my pregnancy that caused immense amniotic fluid build up and resulted in lots of loose skin. Abdominal separation so bad I couldn’t exercise for months. Then months of physio - all while navigating my dad dying and having a newborn.

I eat healthily, all from scratch, walk my dog a lot, cycle everywhere and do yoga. Haven’t lost a kg since the initial weeks after the birth. I’ve never experienced my body holding onto weight like this.

I will try Mounjaro soon I think. Then a tummy tuck for all the excess skin unless it improves

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:28

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:18

Two decades of the most horrendous life experiences that I comfort-ate my way through meant my weight increased steadily every year.

At my heaviest, I was 128 kilos. I managed to get that down to 112 after having cancer, before it started to climb again. Over the next year, I lost 3 kg on my own—and it was the hardest thing I’d ever done. I was exhausted and completely demoralised by the effort. The weight just didn’t move, despite me being a fat cross-fitter. I now know I was insulin resistant—it was diagnosed by a physician.

Thirteen months ago, I woke up one morning to face yet another bloody day of feeling like a huge bloody failure. Within a few hours, I had seen my physician and been prescribed Mounjaro. I couldn’t face another day the way I was living—with my weight negatively consuming my every waking moment. Mounjaro, along with things I’ve put in place whilst on it, has been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. That is, apart from getting some strange things going on with my belly checked out—which turned out to be a 6 kg malignant ovarian cyst.

Does being on Mounjaro mean you give yourself an injection, go to bed, then wake up in a puddle of melted fat the next day? Nope—though it does suit millions of people who aren’t on it to believe so. However, there are some idiots who are using it dangerously and do manage to inject, go to bed, and melt. Thankfully, these people are very much a minority, and anyone using Mounjaro properly can spot them a mile off—usually within a couple of sentences of their first post here.

I’d been having counselling for a few years to deal with the things I’d lived through, and I continued it whilst on Mounjaro. It was part of what I called my whole-person approach to my weight loss journey. I concentrated on my physical health, with a good dose of mental and emotional health thrown in for good measure.

Almost 13 months after starting Mounjaro, my weight has gone from 109 to 83.5 kilos. I’m no longer on medication for prediabetes or high blood pressure. My cholesterol levels—like my other numbers—are at the excellent end of the normal range. My mental and emotional health is also great, and I’m just 10 mg a day away from being off the Seroxat I was put on after my cancer diagnosis. That diagnosis was the straw that broke the camel’s back, and my breakdown had been a long time coming.

I have no intention of getting to the upper end of my BMI. I’d look like a skeleton if I did. With my doctor’s help, I chose 85 kg as my target, and I reached it a few weeks ago. Since then, I’ve lost another 1.5 kg. I’ll stay on Mounjaro until I reach 82, at which point I’ll have a DEXA scan to see what’s going on with my visceral fat. If I’m told to lose another few kilos, I will—but there’s no way I’ll ever go down to 74 kg, which is the upper end of my BMI. I’m still exercising, and as the weight has come off, the muscles that were hiding under my fat have become very obvious.

I’ve lost a steady 400 g a week over the last year. I’ve eaten really well—even when my mind was telling me, “You’re not hungry; you could go without that and lose an extra 50 g this week.” It was never going to happen. I wanted optimum nutrition. I’ve lost the weight on 1,400–1,500 calories a day, and I’ve only managed it because I practised saying no until it became second nature. Oh and apart from a few weeks on a dose of 12.5 that made me feel like death warmed up I’ve been on a dose of 10 from about 6 months in.

Will I stay on Mounjaro forever? No. It was never part of my plan. Whilst I’m a bit nervy about going it alone in about four months, I’m excited to try. I really want to, and I’m hoping that wanting to stay very healthy—as opposed to simply staying slim—is what keeps me going every day for the rest of my life.

I'm really pleased that you've taken control of your weight and life but don't say you'd look like a skeleton at under 85kg unless you're about 6' 2".

I'm 5'9" and 55kg. I don't look like a skeleton. I'm not even super-skinny. Just slimish.

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:27

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 03:56

I forgot to say, I eat at least one sandwich a day.

I am the mistress of the sandwich.

We had friends round today, I made a pork shoulder roast, DH made apple pie & custard for pudding, I swerved that and had a pork and mustard sandwich later. So good.

Decent bread, always.

I fucking love sandwiches.

i think you should eat as many sandwiches as you like—enough to make up for the fact that, judging from your replies on this thread, you’re still a few sandwiches short of a picnic as far as obesity and its many causes are concerned.

Ontheedgeofit · 08/09/2025 05:18

Mrsmunchofmunchington · 07/09/2025 21:26

Quite right.
We get fat by laying on the sofa inhaling donuts all day from our sheer greed and laziness.
Nothing more to it.
All this nonsense about genetics playing a part, or trauma, or health conditions, or abuse is just that.
Fat apologists!
Stoning would be too good for us.
We should be paraded through the streets on a forced march everyday, made to subsist on a diet of gruel, no wait that’s a carbohydrate and far too good for us - let’s say broccoli, until we are a size which does not cause disgust to the eyes of decent people and we stop being a drain on society.

Sensitive much?

Regardless of your opinion I don’t think I’ve seen one post where the person has said… I exercised everyday, watched my calories and still (!) I ballooned to over 100kgs…

I really do get that there are genetics and other factors at play but to simply deny the causal link is naive.

Weepixie · 08/09/2025 05:18

Two decades of the most horrendous life experiences that I comfort-ate my way through meant my weight increased steadily every year.

At my heaviest, I was 128 kilos. I managed to get that down to 112 after having cancer, before it started to climb again. Over the next year, I lost 3 kg on my own—and it was the hardest thing I’d ever done. I was exhausted and completely demoralised by the effort. The weight just didn’t move, despite me being a fat cross-fitter. I now know I was insulin resistant—it was diagnosed by a physician.

Thirteen months ago, I woke up one morning to face yet another bloody day of feeling like a huge bloody failure. Within a few hours, I had seen my physician and been prescribed Mounjaro. I couldn’t face another day the way I was living—with my weight negatively consuming my every waking moment. Mounjaro, along with things I’ve put in place whilst on it, has been the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. That is, apart from getting some strange things going on with my belly checked out—which turned out to be a 6 kg malignant ovarian cyst.

Does being on Mounjaro mean you give yourself an injection, go to bed, then wake up in a puddle of melted fat the next day? Nope—though it does suit millions of people who aren’t on it to believe so. However, there are some idiots who are using it dangerously and do manage to inject, go to bed, and melt. Thankfully, these people are very much a minority, and anyone using Mounjaro properly can spot them a mile off—usually within a couple of sentences of their first post here.

I’d been having counselling for a few years to deal with the things I’d lived through, and I continued it whilst on Mounjaro. It was part of what I called my whole-person approach to my weight loss journey. I concentrated on my physical health, with a good dose of mental and emotional health thrown in for good measure.

Almost 13 months after starting Mounjaro, my weight has gone from 109 to 83.5 kilos. I’m no longer on medication for prediabetes or high blood pressure. My cholesterol levels—like my other numbers—are at the excellent end of the normal range. My mental and emotional health is also great, and I’m just 10 mg a day away from being off the Seroxat I was put on after my cancer diagnosis. That diagnosis was the straw that broke the camel’s back, and my breakdown had been a long time coming.

I have no intention of getting to the upper end of my BMI. I’d look like a skeleton if I did. With my doctor’s help, I chose 85 kg as my target, and I reached it a few weeks ago. Since then, I’ve lost another 1.5 kg. I’ll stay on Mounjaro until I reach 82, at which point I’ll have a DEXA scan to see what’s going on with my visceral fat. If I’m told to lose another few kilos, I will—but there’s no way I’ll ever go down to 74 kg, which is the upper end of my BMI. I’m still exercising, and as the weight has come off, the muscles that were hiding under my fat have become very obvious.

I’ve lost a steady 400 g a week over the last year. I’ve eaten really well—even when my mind was telling me, “You’re not hungry; you could go without that and lose an extra 50 g this week.” It was never going to happen. I wanted optimum nutrition. I’ve lost the weight on 1,400–1,500 calories a day, and I’ve only managed it because I practised saying no until it became second nature. Oh and apart from a few weeks on a dose of 12.5 that made me feel like death warmed up I’ve been on a dose of 10 from about 6 months in.

Will I stay on Mounjaro forever? No. It was never part of my plan. Whilst I’m a bit nervy about going it alone in about four months, I’m excited to try. I really want to, and I’m hoping that wanting to stay very healthy—as opposed to simply staying slim—is what keeps me going every day for the rest of my life.

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 05:15

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 08/09/2025 05:06

You know how you’re from an ethnicity that doesn’t gain weight? Well I’m from one that does. Funny how we accept that some people are naturally slim but can’t get our heads round the opposite being true. If someone is fat we assume they’re greedy and lazy.

And which ethnicity is that?

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 08/09/2025 05:06

You know how you’re from an ethnicity that doesn’t gain weight? Well I’m from one that does. Funny how we accept that some people are naturally slim but can’t get our heads round the opposite being true. If someone is fat we assume they’re greedy and lazy.

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 04:57

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/09/2025 04:46

I'll raise you left over lamb chop, sliced, on warm baguette with garlic butter and a bit of rocket. 😛

Would eat.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/09/2025 04:46

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 03:56

I forgot to say, I eat at least one sandwich a day.

I am the mistress of the sandwich.

We had friends round today, I made a pork shoulder roast, DH made apple pie & custard for pudding, I swerved that and had a pork and mustard sandwich later. So good.

Decent bread, always.

I fucking love sandwiches.

I'll raise you left over lamb chop, sliced, on warm baguette with garlic butter and a bit of rocket. 😛

OwlBeThere · 08/09/2025 04:44

Nirsery · 08/09/2025 04:13

Quetiapine which is anti psychotic medication I had to take to get better from post partum psychosis after my little boy was stillborn. But go off with your faux Naivety about how the fatties get so fat Hmm

I have a very similar story with antipsychotics and child loss. ❤️

OwlBeThere · 08/09/2025 04:42

Neededa · 08/09/2025 03:55

So my point is, and it’s very interesting actually.
I don’t care, I don’t care how much I weigh . I don’t care what my BMI is, I don’t care if you are thin (and I’m fat) I literally don’t care.
i have been overweight my entire adult life (not obese, I weigh about 13 stone at 5”6, wear a sixe 18.
i am not ashamed, I am actually not ashamed.
Would it be easier to find clothes, probably?
Would it be easier to be “normal” probably?
Am I just so bloody tired of the whole fucking thing? Totally.

That’s also a good point.
I know loads of people who simply don’t care. And also who don’t think about what they eat in any way, they eat what they want, when they want. All of those people are pretty average size, some are a bit thin, some are a bit overweight, but none are extreme in either direction. And those are the people I envy. I haven’t not thought about what I’m eating in my entire life. Not ever. I am either completely controlling every mouthful I eat in a conscious way to stay relatively slim, or I am completely out of control and I get fat, not just a bit fat, but 25stone fat. Until mounjaro I had never been able to just be lead by my appetite.

doubleshotcappuccino · 08/09/2025 04:37

Growing up wasn’t taught how to eat properly, didn’t understand portion control, macros, when and how much to eat .

Spike666 · 08/09/2025 04:20

Nirsery · 08/09/2025 04:13

Quetiapine which is anti psychotic medication I had to take to get better from post partum psychosis after my little boy was stillborn. But go off with your faux Naivety about how the fatties get so fat Hmm

Oh. I'm fucking sorry.

That is shit.

Sorry.

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