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What’s it like to have a new car/kitchen/bathroom?

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Pinkypantspurple · 07/09/2025 19:17

I just wondered. What is it like to have a new car ? A new bathroom? A new kitchen? Built in wardrobe?

It feels like we have scraped to get married ( tiny wedding ) get out car ( 2013 model). I’m honestly just wondering what does it feel like to be able to get a new bathroom? It’s my dream but I think it would be 10 years on minimum.

We have a 2 and 3 year old. Nursery fees are finally down to £700 for both. We know we can’t afford a 3 bed where we are. So we have a 2. We are lucky as we get buy every month and manage to save £250 .We have no debts . We go on a cheap all inclusive all year and we are happy and healthy

I just wonder what does it feel like to have something new ? Or design it ! I dream
of designing a kitchen.

I think I’m seeing far too many kitchens on instagram and dream! We currently have an undercounter fridge which has been going 10 years. I dream of a big fridge !!

AIBU to dream of having some ‘new’ things which I have picked !!! Oh to dream !

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Girliefriendlikespuppies · 07/09/2025 19:48

Never had a new car and don’t think I ever will, they seem like a waste of money to me.

I did move into a new build so the kitchen and bathroom were new, been here ten years and kitchen is already falling apart 🙄

minipie · 07/09/2025 19:45

New car - waste of money IMO

New bathroom - nice but not life changing, unless your old one was truly grim

New kitchen with a good layout, decent appliances and proper storage - bloody amazing

Typicalwave · 07/09/2025 19:44

I’ve had a new kitchen - bought by a housing association so cheapest if the cheap and fitted by the lowest tender from contractors:it’s a piece of shit. The kitchen in my oarents 1970’s hoise tgat was already there when they bought it in 1972 was better. And no, we bought the house off the housing association.

Alwayssnacking · 07/09/2025 19:42

We bought a house in an terrible state and did it up . Everything was new and I absolutely love it. It took a massive sacrifice to do it up. We didn't have endless money and so my DH did a lot of the work on the house himself over the weekends whilst I was having a bad pregnancy and so it took its toll but now we live in our dream house (although not quite finished).

Nsky62 · 07/09/2025 19:41

I has an inheritance, Babylon needed kitchen and bathroom, long after I moved in, upheaval yes.
That was 8. Years ago, they were unfit, love ‘em

RandomMess · 07/09/2025 19:40

TBH when your hard saved for “new” rooms are spoiled by your DC not being careful/mindful it’s very depressing/upsetting.

CloseThatDoor · 07/09/2025 19:40

I've just had a new en suite & main bathroom fitted - it was stressful, I hated the millions of decisions, it was hard having plumbers/builders in and I'm not 100% happy with the job, small things but they take away the joy...

Never had a new kitchen fitted.

New car - never again. I was so paranoid about denting/scratching it.

bumbaloo · 07/09/2025 19:38

YouOughtToSeeADoctorAboutThat · 07/09/2025 19:23

I'm in my late 60s, been married for 45 years. For the 1st time in my whole life, I've now got a new bedroom with fitted wardrobes. It took many years of struggling to pay bills/mortgage, having children, being in debt, before having the money to do things. Kitchen (bought on a credit card) and bathroom are 25 years old.

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So 25 years ago did you have a brand new kitchen?

QwestSprout · 07/09/2025 19:36

The process of having a new bathroom or kitchen fitted is an absolute pain in the arse - no toilet other than a portaloo, having to eat microwaved batch cooked meals for a week... I love it when it's done but I hate the building work.

FunnyOrca · 07/09/2025 19:35

We bought a fixer-upper because we wanted to be able to afford to do these things. Our house was about £80k less than more nicely decorated houses on our street.

The kitchen had condemned elements and no running water. Parts of the bathroom was 1890s original and the room was riddled with mould.

Designing was fun but also stressful as I’m no expert and there was a lot of project managing and endless emails while trying to do my day job. And they all needed to be read with a fine tooth comb, as randomly things would change when a design came back. (At one point we had a backsplash on top of a backsplash in the kitchen designs…)

Having them both fitted was uncomfortable and probably made worse by the state of the property (plumbing particularly). I think if, for some reason, we ripped out this kitchen it would be much easier to replace than what we started with.

It is really nice to have now though! I think the immediate feeling was utter relief! Especially after living with a kitchen without water and condemned appliances and a bathroom covered in mould. It is also really nice that the design works specifically for us and how we use the rooms.

SoftLass · 07/09/2025 19:34

We're in the middle of having a new bathroom put in now, I'm mid-50s and it's the first new one I've had! I'm very excited by the thought of it, the old bathroom was a hideous dated 80s one so well overdue a replacement. We are very slowly working our way through the house updating things, we've lived here 10 years and have a few more bits that need doing. It feels perennially unfinished!

Ponoka7 · 07/09/2025 19:30

It's fantastic. I got a council house and they were doing a complete refurbishment programme. I got a new kitchen and bathroom. I later had my own home and fitted a shower room. It's the new skirting boards/window ledge and how clean it all is. It's absolutely horrible to live through though. I was having chimney breasts knocked out and everywhere re-plastered. I got a UTI because of the dust. I'm now moving into a new build.

ElfAndSafetyBored · 07/09/2025 19:30

I find it quite stressful to be honest - as grateful as I am for the new things I have had in the past.

With building projects there’s always something that isn’t quite right, or not quite how you imagined, or something gets chipped way too soon.

With a new car, the first time another car door gets whacked into it or you scrape it on something is painful.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/09/2025 19:25

I've never had anything new. Never got to design my own kitchen/bathroom/bedroom. Never had a brand new car. I only really miss it when I'm reading through those homestyle magazines where everyone seems to talk about their remodelling or renovating their houses.

I'm just almightily glad that I have a house and I work around its eccentricities.

BlueJuniper94 · 07/09/2025 19:24

Get off Instagram

YouOughtToSeeADoctorAboutThat · 07/09/2025 19:23

I'm in my late 60s, been married for 45 years. For the 1st time in my whole life, I've now got a new bedroom with fitted wardrobes. It took many years of struggling to pay bills/mortgage, having children, being in debt, before having the money to do things. Kitchen (bought on a credit card) and bathroom are 25 years old.