For not paying half when I'm leaving.

So he paid £1500 for goods.

If you paid half, £750 - then you would own half.

He would then have to buy them off you as you won’t have use of your half.

Now imagine he has to sell them to give you your half.

You sell for £1000 and receive £500 each.

He now has to buy the goods again for £1500

Does that make financial sense?

OP you could give him a response something like this (adjust the figures as appropriate):
He wants you to pay half - £1500?
Tell him the life-cycle of the combined items is 5 years / so that’s £300 per annum / so £25 per month.
between March and Seltember, you have had 7 months use - so you could offer £175 and that’s the end of it.

He might not have an answer to that.

In reality the items more likely to last 10 years rather than 5….but adjust as you wish.

The agreement was made with the understanding that she would have ownership of half of everything. If he has sole ownership, that agreement is no longer applicable. She wasn't offering half payment as a gift, it was for half ownership of the goods. If she had have paid already, she could have taken him to small claims for her half of the money back.

OP. Hope you are ok. Sounds like a helluva year.

transfer £200 (or whatever is a reasonable cost of use of the white goods)

confirm this in writing (via email)
then leave. Immediately.
Stay with a friend. Put the cats in cattery (or the borrow my doggy equivalent)
do not give him your new address.

block him on all social media. Email. Phone etc.

go improve your bank balance and your MH.

note: it sounds like you are well rid of someone who was not suitable to be your long term life partner nor father to your children.

you dodged a bullet there.

enjoy the rest of your life.
Best of luck.

He has to show proof to the court or the judge will throw it out.

Exactly he is trying to punish her.

Let's not forget that he has also called her a baby killer and other unsavoury things because she had an abortion. He should get nothing. He is buying the property and yet he believes he deserves more. She will not be bringing any of the items with her it will all belong to him. He is trying to coerce money out of her that she doesn't have. A lot of decent men would have walked or packed her bags and ask her to leave. This is all about control and humiliation. Personally, I don't think he wants her to leave he is punishing her.

Also I highly doubt he could take you to a small claims court if there is nothing in writing. You could bluff and say he offered to pay in full. Unless there is physical proof of you declaring you will pay half, he can claim nothing.

It wasn’t renovations though he bought stuff floors, blinds, white goods. It’d make sense if OP pays half and gets half ie the white goods but he wants to keep everything and get half the money.

Honestly if he took me to small claims I’d ask for half of every carpet.

I think a lot of it depends if the renovations and upgrades were planned due to the pregnancy or if he was planning on doing them anyways.

OP was well within her right to have the termination BUT it’s unrealistic to expect him to be happy with it if he didn’t want the abortion to take place. I think most men would be devastated for a pregnancy to end for a wanted baby at that gestation. I’m not saying it’s acceptable how he’s responding but hardly surprising.

OP, only if you can afford it and if the upgrades were mainly planned due to the pregnancy then I would offer a small token towards it, certainly not half though. I’d also go stay with family if that’s an option while you wait for your move. All the best.

Do you offer "Rent to Buy" agreements then?

Yes, you have, which is why they were deleted.

The OP is being unreasonable because she moved in with her partner at the beginning of the year and agreed with him that they would split the costs of doing this rental property up. The OP’s partner put the money up for the renovations and now we are at the tail end of the year, the relationship has sadly broken down and OP has decided she must now move out but has not paid her share of the renovations which presumably were done some time when they had just moved in i.e. towards the beginning of the year.

You’ve concluded that OP’s partner is a narcissist and injected your own personal feelings into this post rather than holding an objective view but I view this all the same irrespective of this situation being linked to a relationship breakdown. If the other character in this situation had been a friend and the friendship had broken down or perhaps an acquaintance that she was simply sharing the rental property with, I would still think OP is being unreasonable for not upholding her side of the agreement which was to pay half towards the renovations which I assume she has had the benefit of enjoying for the past couple of months. Having said that, I do also sympathise with the emotional difficulties and poor financial situation OP now finds herself facing.

Absolutely right, and that decision is deeply personal to every woman who has to make it and doesn't have to be justified or explained to anyone else.

Four of them were nasty personal attacks on OP - that's why they were deleted. Own it and stop being disingenuous about your pro-choice stance - it's patently untrue.

Yes, it is and OP acted within UK law.
All women have the right to make choices about their own bodies - these choices are deeply personal and should be respected by others.

I would offer him to move out or to share something with you eg fridge freezer do you pay and get something out. I would do it in writing by email or txt and I would openly put that you did this in writing because your conversations always ended up being too emotional.
However I would probably do it after you moved out. I’m not a great believer in men staying calm, reasonable and polite during quarrels.

I’m just agog you have replaced all the floors in a rental. I would go mad if my tenants did that! And I’d want my old blinds putting back up when you left and any damage to the frames/brickwork from your fittings all made good.

Again, so what?

Least there is something we can agree on there !

We can agree on that 🤣

So? What point are you trying to make?

I haven’t made any nasty personal attacks on OP.
But yes I knew it would he sone other ridiculous PP reporting me

“All you can do is follow the law” .
The law is an ass.

No-one's reported "all" your posts for deletion. I've reported four of them because they were nasty personal attacks on OP - MN agreed and deleted them. Just as they agreed about the three equally vile posts by BringBackThe1990s and deleted those too. Abide by MN Talk Guidelines and your posts won't get deleted. It's that simple.