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Aibu to be annoyed the food shop disappears so quickly

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toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:09

It drives me insane. Food shop arrives and within a day most cupboard snacks / fruit has been eaten. I’ve spoken to everyone on numerous occasions about making things last. Family of 5 plus a dog, spending anywhere between £100-£130 a week. How do you make things last?! (Obviously not fresh stuff with dates but the constant snacking).

edited to add: school lunches and snacks are all provided by school. I get lunch at work too. So this is just home food.

OP posts:
mindutopia · 07/09/2025 16:27

I hide it! I’ve been known to put it in a locking box before. Sometimes it will live in my car boot. Sometimes under the bed.

Dliplop · 07/09/2025 16:21

OP, I’d up the fruit with cheaper ones like you’ve said and then you can keep the other snacky things the same or reduce and get a few more loaves of bread or more yoghurt and they can have toast for snacks. Or leftovers if you have any. I will buy some crisps or digestives or a bar of chocolate (or this week dh bought a cherry pie). We expect those to be treats to last a day maybe 2 and then back on fruit and toast.

mycatismyworld · 07/09/2025 16:17

Have a designated cupboard for snacks. Fill it with with bead,cheap marg,ditto jam, peanut butter plain biscuits, own brand cuppa soup,beans,tinned spaghetti, that sort of thing.
Tell them everything in else is off limits ,but can have as much toast or whatever from snack cupboard.
Where zi live we have a warehouse that sell food thet I'd nearing or past sell by date,crisps and other snacks like dried fruit, vegetable puffs and energy bars are pennies

zaazaazoom · 07/09/2025 16:16

TeenLifeMum · 07/09/2025 12:38

£130 a week for 5? I can’t get mine under £250 (3 teenagers). I’m not sure £130 is a week’s worth of food even for toddlers to be honest so I’m not surprised it disappears quickly.

Its definitely possible. We are 5 (3 massive sporty teens, Dh and me). We spend around £130-50. We do meal plan, cook from scratch, eat a lot things in season, batch cook, buy yellow label stickers stuff anf make soups and dstrws, eat lots of filling stuff like porridge, lentils, pulses. Have meat but not loads a md almost no UPF apart from some biscuits.

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:16

UsernameMcUsername · 07/09/2025 16:12

I agree with this. I know I sound like an old gimmer, but I very much didn't grow up snacking and we don't massively snack as a family even now (kids are teen / preteen). There's (cheaper) fruit, toast, cereal, cheapo yoghurts and tomatoes & cucumber available, but that's mostly it and they don't snack much actually.

Yes same here, we just didnt have them. We didnt do pudding either unless it was special or perhaps on a sunday we had a tin of pineapple and 'dream topping'. Fancy

For the poster who talked about sweets, yes of course there were sweets but we didnt just sit and munch through them the way these punnets of fruit seem to be eaten on this thread. Its the mindlessness of it.

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 16:15

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:12

Perhaps you dont mean to but you're being very snippy

I didnt say or imply or even think that you need help budgeting, I was just interested in what you said and was chatting about it.

Perhaps you're reading it as 'snippy'?
I was answering your question but also clarifying that it's a general point. 🙃

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:14

Namechangerage · 07/09/2025 15:52

But as an example - 6 bananas a week isn’t enough, I have to buy 12 per week for 2 kids. My boys get through one a day. And they’re not expensive. Make up some boxes of carrot sticks (60p a kilo for carrots) Same with apples, etc. doesn’t have to be the expensive snacks you buy more of.

Why do they have to have a banana every day? Whats that about?

Slightyamusedandsilly · 07/09/2025 16:13

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:26

I think I’ll start snack boxes.

Brilliant idea. And if they've scoffed all of theirs, no more (other than cheap sliced bread for toast, jam etc) until the next shop.

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:12

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 16:07

I don't need help budgeting however my point is that huge swathes or rural/island/remote communities have much more limited access to supermarkets.
Some just have Coops, some just have Coop or Tesco, a few have Coop, Tesco and Lidl. A lucky few who live a bit nearer bigger settlements will more access to cheaper shops (eg B and M), but for many rural/island dwellers that's once ot twice a year, if at all (if going away by car), because it's simply not worth the travelling cost. This is also in areas where fuel (petrol/diesel) and electricity costs are significantly higher. Not getting at you, just making the general point that it's not always as simple as using cheaper supermarkets.

Perhaps you dont mean to but you're being very snippy

I didnt say or imply or even think that you need help budgeting, I was just interested in what you said and was chatting about it.

UsernameMcUsername · 07/09/2025 16:12

ScribblingPixie · 07/09/2025 16:01

I'd make the snacks cheaper and less attractive. When I was a kid it was an apple, an orange or if you were desperate a piece of toast with butter and marmite or peanut butter. We had three good meals a day. How much more do they genuinely need?

I agree with this. I know I sound like an old gimmer, but I very much didn't grow up snacking and we don't massively snack as a family even now (kids are teen / preteen). There's (cheaper) fruit, toast, cereal, cheapo yoghurts and tomatoes & cucumber available, but that's mostly it and they don't snack much actually.

Theoturkeyfliessouth · 07/09/2025 16:10

Theoturkeyfliessouth · 07/09/2025 16:08

Family of 5 here , paying double that amount a week .
Not running out of things
The current cost of food and household products is astronomical
I can't do it on less than £250 a week
Food is our biggest expense

Should of said
All adults in 20s and 50s
So not like I'm feeding children portions
And no eating out ,all meals at home

Theoturkeyfliessouth · 07/09/2025 16:08

Family of 5 here , paying double that amount a week .
Not running out of things
The current cost of food and household products is astronomical
I can't do it on less than £250 a week
Food is our biggest expense

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 16:07

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 15:55

Well I thought of you earlier because I was in Home Bargains, which is meant to be cheap, and Ive been caught out before in terms of prices there, checked the flour to see what it was, its £1 for 1.5kg!!!!

Thats like nearly 50% more than Aldi/Lidl/Tesco/Sainsburys etc

I mean its still cheap when you cvonsider what you can make with it compared to shop bought cakes, pastries and pies but thats a massive difference.

What supermarkets do you have your way then?

I don't need help budgeting however my point is that huge swathes or rural/island/remote communities have much more limited access to supermarkets.
Some just have Coops, some just have Coop or Tesco, a few have Coop, Tesco and Lidl. A lucky few who live a bit nearer bigger settlements will more access to cheaper shops (eg B and M), but for many rural/island dwellers that's once ot twice a year, if at all (if going away by car), because it's simply not worth the travelling cost. This is also in areas where fuel (petrol/diesel) and electricity costs are significantly higher. Not getting at you, just making the general point that it's not always as simple as using cheaper supermarkets.

DiscoBob · 07/09/2025 16:05

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

To me per person in a week that's not much food. Especially for teens or people who do manual jobs/plenty exercise.

Half a punnet of grapes
Half pack of strawbs
2 milky ways
Half a pack of biscuits
Half a pack rice cakes
2 Maryland packs
And idk how many yog you bought?

It's not that much. I could eat that in two or three days and I don't eat a lot.

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:05

BeltaLodaLife · 07/09/2025 15:18

Why does everyone suggest replacing fruit with UPF white flour products?

Replace expensive fruit with cheaper veggie sticks. Or with a protein snack like some nuts, or cheaper fruit. Or something more substantial like bean burritos which you can bulk make and freeze for pennies each.

Because not everyone is obsessed with the UPF mantra

Nothing wrong with slices of bread and in any case lots of people eat wholemeal bread, so it may not be white flour in it.

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 16:04

JennyChawleigh · 07/09/2025 15:31

It's much cheaper to buy huge tubs of plain or Greek style yogurt than individual ones, and liven it up with a spoonful of frozen berries, jam or honey. You could decant some of it into small bowls to circumvent anyone having enormous helpings! And we always had fruit like strawberries, melon or pineapple as a pudding, so they could be divided out fairly.

Edited

You can freeze yoghurt so you could get the 1kg tubs and put individual serving sizes in the freezer and get it out per day

PistachioTiramisu · 07/09/2025 16:02

Snacks I have bought this week = zero! We just don't do snacks at all and never have done. Much cheaper!

ScribblingPixie · 07/09/2025 16:01

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

I'd make the snacks cheaper and less attractive. When I was a kid it was an apple, an orange or if you were desperate a piece of toast with butter and marmite or peanut butter. We had three good meals a day. How much more do they genuinely need?

Slurple · 07/09/2025 15:58

What do you buy as snacks? I don't buy snacky bits like crisps, biscuits, chocolate because they go so quickly and therefore aren't good value. Snacks in our house are fruit, yoghurt, toast, boiled eggs cheese, crackers, veggie sticks. Very dull but must save us about £20 p/w.

Boomer55 · 07/09/2025 15:56

For a family that size, you're spending very little. Perhaps you need to up what you buy.

soupyspoon · 07/09/2025 15:55

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 14:14

Right, no Sainsburys north of Inverness, and while a few places have Tesco it's not close enough to make it worth going for many. A few Lidl/Aldi dotted about, but not many.

Edited

Well I thought of you earlier because I was in Home Bargains, which is meant to be cheap, and Ive been caught out before in terms of prices there, checked the flour to see what it was, its £1 for 1.5kg!!!!

Thats like nearly 50% more than Aldi/Lidl/Tesco/Sainsburys etc

I mean its still cheap when you cvonsider what you can make with it compared to shop bought cakes, pastries and pies but thats a massive difference.

What supermarkets do you have your way then?

Namechangerage · 07/09/2025 15:54

And yes id have a rule that once the cookies are gone, they are gone. But fruit and veg are available.

Namechangerage · 07/09/2025 15:52

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 13:53

I feel pretty judged. I’d love to be able to afford more but I can’t. I already buy own brand cereals, butter, biscuits, ketchup, squash, in fact anything if it has an own brand variant then yes. Milky ways and marylands were a treat which I can’t afford regularly.

The advice of swapping big packs of apples and bananas for berries is helpful. As are some other suggestions. So thank you.

I have a nectar card, Clubcard, any card for anywhere I’ve got it. Plus I use cash back through my banking app.

I’m doing my best.

But as an example - 6 bananas a week isn’t enough, I have to buy 12 per week for 2 kids. My boys get through one a day. And they’re not expensive. Make up some boxes of carrot sticks (60p a kilo for carrots) Same with apples, etc. doesn’t have to be the expensive snacks you buy more of.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 07/09/2025 15:49

JennyChawleigh · 07/09/2025 15:31

It's much cheaper to buy huge tubs of plain or Greek style yogurt than individual ones, and liven it up with a spoonful of frozen berries, jam or honey. You could decant some of it into small bowls to circumvent anyone having enormous helpings! And we always had fruit like strawberries, melon or pineapple as a pudding, so they could be divided out fairly.

Edited

Those little gu pudding jars that breed in the cupboard are perfect for this.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 07/09/2025 15:48

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 13:53

I feel pretty judged. I’d love to be able to afford more but I can’t. I already buy own brand cereals, butter, biscuits, ketchup, squash, in fact anything if it has an own brand variant then yes. Milky ways and marylands were a treat which I can’t afford regularly.

The advice of swapping big packs of apples and bananas for berries is helpful. As are some other suggestions. So thank you.

I have a nectar card, Clubcard, any card for anywhere I’ve got it. Plus I use cash back through my banking app.

I’m doing my best.

I’m sorry your feeling judged. I think when you are on a limited budget it’s really important that you shop to get the most value for money. I think little bento style snack boxes are good for this so you don’t buy the little wrapped bags of cookies buy a pack own brand and put in a cookie and some orange segments. Carrot sticks and houmous, apple slices and peanut butter type stuff and you’ll find your money goes further.