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Aibu to be annoyed the food shop disappears so quickly

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toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:09

It drives me insane. Food shop arrives and within a day most cupboard snacks / fruit has been eaten. I’ve spoken to everyone on numerous occasions about making things last. Family of 5 plus a dog, spending anywhere between £100-£130 a week. How do you make things last?! (Obviously not fresh stuff with dates but the constant snacking).

edited to add: school lunches and snacks are all provided by school. I get lunch at work too. So this is just home food.

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soupyspoon · 08/09/2025 18:11

Naanspiration · 08/09/2025 11:50

Yes, everyone's spend comes out of the same pot, your total monthly income. But we separate it into different pots don't we. I don't include toilet bleach with the food spend pot.

Some people will claim to struggle with their grocery budget but then disregard the £40+ quid they spend on Just Eat or Uber Eats every week. Different pots, even though it's still food.

Apart from takeaways, which we dont have, havent ordered anything for nearly 3 years now, its all just 'shopping' comes under the category of 'shopping'.

Household and food shopping, thats what the budget has to cover. This week for example it was literally just food and one container of hand wash

Some weeks however I might need sandwich bags, toilet roll, kitchen roll, bleach and laundry products all in one go. That is a very hefty week on the purse.

IneedtheeohIneedtheeeveryhourIneedthee · 08/09/2025 18:03

Don't buy snacks. Buy the staples and then give each kid an allowance and all snacks have to come from that.

LittleBitofBread · 08/09/2025 18:02

Remingtonsteele · 07/09/2025 12:32

That’s not enough snacks for five people really.

No, I agree. It's one banana a week, basically. DP and I eat more like a banana a day each.

Snackkers · 08/09/2025 17:53

We are a family of 5 and budget about the same for groceries. I’ve just read the first page of posts but what you have bought for snacks I would think should last the week and would in my house.
we do eat big meals, and a pudding to limit the snacking.

Jade247 · 08/09/2025 17:35

Sounds like maybe not buying enough, we are two adults and a 2 year old and spend the same … so for 5 would need more. I also buy fruit every few days

Northernladdette · 08/09/2025 17:28

People nowadays are obsessed with snacks. Don’t buy them 🙂

Reasontoreason · 08/09/2025 17:28

Isn’t it strange how people food shops vary so much . We are a family of 5 and I spend £70 per week on food and it last all week apart from the odd loaf of bread . So I guess it just depends on what you buy / how much you eat .

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 08/09/2025 17:11

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

That’s a lot of snacks.

Buy ingredients instead and invite someone to bake biscuits or cakes. That slows mine down and means a constant supply!

IMustDoMoreExercise · 08/09/2025 16:57

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

There are all really expensive and easy to eat quickly.

Just buy lots of apples, pears and bananas. They are healthy and filling.

Why are you buying all the crap like biscuits and rice cakes.

Doone22 · 08/09/2025 16:33

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:19

But £600 a month effectively when lunches are covered for 4/5 of us is loads in my opinion.

You are right. Why are you all constant snackers though? You must have gone along with that at some point and now it's out of hand.
Just stop stocking up on snacks. If someone moans tell them to go get their own.

Pavingprincess · 08/09/2025 16:29

we offer toast and weetabix in our house. No crisps, biscuits or chocolate. We buy apples, oranges, pears and bananas. Anything else occasionally when it’s on offer.

Ivy888 · 08/09/2025 16:22

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

We’re a family of 5. We eat that amount of fruit in 1-2 days.
you’re basically trying to make each family member last with a small handful of grapes and strawberries, 1 banana, 1.5 Milky Way, a few biscuits and a few rice cakes A WEEK. Do you eat 1 banana a week?

First of all, you should switch to buying cheaper fruits and fruits that will stay fresh for longer, eg apples, pears, oranges…. An orange and an apple a day (so 7 oranges and 7 apples) will probably work out cheaper than your grapes, bananas and strawberries AND they’re much more filling.

secondly you need to start checking who likes what and calculate amounts. If everyone likes yogurt, you need 35 tubs (5x7) per week. If everyone likes Milky Way you need 35 bars a week. And so on. Or decide people are only allowed 2 Milky Way a week. But for goodness sake, buy equal amounts so it’s clear everyone gets an equal share.

Rosalind1971 · 08/09/2025 16:15

I'm a cook in a care home and as well as making lots of cakes the residents have to have a lot of snacks, I also had four children who are grown up now. Look at the cheapest ranges, wonky fruit etc fill the biscuit Tin up with the supermarket own, buy the cheaper crisps, That doesn't seem a lot that you are buying per week, but I would definitely visit Aldi of Lidl if i were you. Make cornflakes cakes, Flapjacks etc easy to make. You could also sign up to ‘Too go to go ‘

Mamabear487 · 08/09/2025 15:51

100-130 a week doesn’t even cover my family we spend atleast 160 a week and it’s me my partner 7&3 year old! We also get school meals and usually that lasts until the next week I just have to do a top up of fruit which is usually on a Thursday (shop comes on a monday)

TorroFerney · 08/09/2025 12:17

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 13:12

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Why do you keep giving the peace sign? It’s not a full stop.

mickandrorty · 08/09/2025 12:09

As others have said apples, more bananas, easy peelers will go further for your money. kiwis are 6 for £1.20 at tesco which i don't think is too bad. You get quite a lot of fruit from watermelon but i only buy them on offer. I know you don't want to bake treats but these cookies are super quick and don't need the fancy sugars normal granulated works fine, 2 bars of cheap chocolate, you get 2 trays and they are nicer and more satisfying than mini bags. easy to prep while making dinner and can just chuck in while the oven is still hot. This banana cake is cheap quick and easy and very filling, a great way to use up leftovers as well. slow cooker jam cake & fork biscuits are another popular one at our house, they all work out cheaper than buying snacks and if your children are younger they can help if they are older they can make them by themselves!
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Naanspiration · 08/09/2025 11:50

soupyspoon · 08/09/2025 09:42

But it is part of your grocery shopping, its part of the spend, doesnt really matter whether you get it with your weekly food shop or not, its all coming out of the kitty which is what OP is managing.

I wouldnt dream of getting anything like that from main supermarkets, we only get it from Aldi and Lidl, same with coffee and high cost items. Sometimes home bargains if I spot its cheaper but it isnt always.

Yes, everyone's spend comes out of the same pot, your total monthly income. But we separate it into different pots don't we. I don't include toilet bleach with the food spend pot.

Some people will claim to struggle with their grocery budget but then disregard the £40+ quid they spend on Just Eat or Uber Eats every week. Different pots, even though it's still food.

Ilovecakey · 08/09/2025 11:44

GleisZwei · 07/09/2025 13:56

Sorry for all the judgemental folk. Some of us were trying to fend them off on your behalf.
Definitely buy the cheaper fruit/offer fruit/in season fruit if you can, as that will help. Also toast/crackers/oatcakes/cheaper biccies. Maybe one treat thing - everyone gets fair share, but when it's gone then it's gone. 😁

Also I don't know if anyone has said this as I haven't read the whole thread but Uber eats do half price fruit and veg on Mondays (which is today)

StopGo · 08/09/2025 11:26

2 boxes of grapes and 2 of strawberries will cost around £10 and not go very far. Maybe re think your fruit choice, apples are about £2 a kilo for instance.

LeaderBee · 08/09/2025 11:20

Mum used to complain about this all the time when I lived at home, then, when I did try and leave things longer, they would not be used, go out of date, go mouldy and just be thrown out - pissed me right off, it was like I was pissing rent down the drain

Sharptonguedwoman · 08/09/2025 11:11

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 07/09/2025 12:56

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Not sure. If snacks are in addition to meals then there’s enough food. We all like Milky Ways and biscuits, we rarely need them. Growing boys? Toast.

NotSmallButFunSize · 08/09/2025 10:56

toadstool32 · 07/09/2025 12:25

Snacks I’ve bought this week : 2 punnets of grapes, 2 x strawberries, 6 bananas, 2 x four milky ways, triple pack of biscuits, 2 x packs of rice cakes, 2 x packs of mini marylands, yoghurts, specific snacks for the toddler.

There's 5 of us too - 6 bananas would last not even 2 days and I buy similar of the rest, but twice per week.

HauntedHero · 08/09/2025 10:51

ALinktoHyrule · 07/09/2025 22:08

I don't understand what people spend so much on. We spend about £350 per month for 3 adults, £400 when the 4th is home from uni. Includes all household stuff like washing powder, loo roll. Includes a bit of booze. Includes everything including midweek milk, bread etc. Always feels like we have plenty. Maybe it's that we eat completely veggie/vegan, but does meat really make all that much difference? Genuinely asking as I'm flummoxed.

It's always the cleaning products I wonder about. What cleaning products are people buying week in week out?

FurForksSake · 08/09/2025 10:16

I buy many cleaning products in bulk on subscribe and save with Amazon, not cheaper than the discount shops but an option if you prefer brands. I bought the biggest bottle of fairy liquid you’ve seen in your life probably two years ago and it lives in the garage to refill the small house bottle. It’s still half full!

Financeisfun · 08/09/2025 09:58

We have 4 in our house (3 adults and a 16 yo) and we spend under £150 per week on food. This doesn't include lunches for 2 of the household. Two of us do fasting though so no breakfast items needed. Most of the house aren't snackers so snacks don't get bought / eaten. Twice a week we have cheap and quick things like baked potato or tuna pasta.