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Can you tell your left from your right?

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TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:11

Had a random conversation yesterday where a friend and I discovered that neither of us instinctively knew our left from our right. It was part of a conversation around neurodiversity and it got me wondering whether it’s just a random blip in our brains or part of something wider. So - do you just KNOW left from right or does it not come automatically? I also struggled at school with random bits of timetables (6/7/8s - could never remember the ones where the answers were somewhere between 40 and 50, but had absolutely no problem with maths overall and got straight As st GCSE. That’s not a boast, more just that it wasn’t linked to academic intelligence!). Am also left handed if that’s relevant (but still have to consciously think about which hand I write with if asked 🙈).

YABU- duh, obviously I can tell left from right 🙄
YANBU - No! I have to really think about which is which 🙈

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YourSnugHazelTraybake · 07/09/2025 10:50

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:18

Yes agree - I have a small scar on my right wrist that I check! But if I’m under pressure, for example when giving directions, I quite often get it wrong 🙈 My husband is used to me now and just says ‘did you mean the other left?’ 😂

That made me giggle. I generally do know my left from right without thought, except when I'm giving directions! My partner asks ' actual right/left or your right/left', as I wave my right hand saying go left 🫣

TheNinthLockUnlocked · 07/09/2025 10:49

luckylavender · 07/09/2025 10:48

I have zero spatial awareness but have never had trouble with right & left.

Spatial awareness - I have none. I bump into things all over the place. I also cannot see a straight line for love nor money. I cannot line things up in a straight line. I don't walk in a straight line - always veer off, mostly to the left.
I am exceedingly clumsy. Can't catch a ball. Totally uncoordinated.

Zempy · 07/09/2025 10:48

No, but I am dyspraxic

luckylavender · 07/09/2025 10:48

I have zero spatial awareness but have never had trouble with right & left.

TheNinthLockUnlocked · 07/09/2025 10:47

Neurodiversity runs through my family.
I am ok with left and right, but struggle to remember East and West. Certain middle times tables (7x8 for example) would not stick whilst I could answer all others in mixed order at speed.

Katemax82 · 07/09/2025 10:47

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 10:43

But there's nothing to get? You can just learn it? It's not a concept. Like others have said, you can use a method to work it out if you need to.

Edited

It's hard for some of us...

TeaAndCakeMakeThingsBetter · 07/09/2025 10:47

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 10:43

But there's nothing to get? You can just learn it? It's not a concept. Like others have said, you can use a method to work it out if you need to.

Edited

I think this is the thing - it SHOULD come automatically, and yes you can learn techniques, but when under pressure it’s like your brain shortcircuits and it often comes out wrong. And it doesn’t seem to be linked to people’s general ability to learn or remember things! Just a weird blip.

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Didimum · 07/09/2025 10:46

I’ve heard this phrased as knowing left/right just as instinctively as you know up/down and I’ve never met anyone who knows it that instinctively (when the conversation has come up, it doesn’t a lot to be fair).

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 07/09/2025 10:46

I don’t instinctively know. Nor does my mum.

During my driving test, the examiner said “my way/your way”, which I doubt was allowed.

Katemax82 · 07/09/2025 10:46

I have this. It's even worse if someone's facing me and says something on the left/right. I just tell my family to point in whichever direction they mean

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 10:46

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/09/2025 10:43

I’ve seen similar. 😁 I always go slow and am prepared to stop.

Probably easier to say what you want them to do, move left, rather than confuse by mentioning right, though that won't help those who can't tell the difference.

CinnamonBuns67 · 07/09/2025 10:44

I have to look at my hands to tell left from right.

Tablefor4 · 07/09/2025 10:44

I have to actively think about L and R. Many people struggle with remembering 7x8 = 56. My quirk is if you rattle off a phone number or spell out a name quickly, my mind freezes. Likewise, if I have to spell something out loud I actively have to think about it or draw it out in the air at the same time, although when writing my spelling is fine.

CeciliaDuckiePond · 07/09/2025 10:44

No, I often get them mixed up and have to think consciously which is which - but sometimes it's as if my brain goes off on a little jolly of its own and even thinking carefully about it, I get it wrong.

One reason why I have never managed to learn to drive; can't synch up indicators reliably with steering.

CloseThatDoor · 07/09/2025 10:44

I am AWFUL with face recognition though!

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 10:43

cinnamonbunlover · 07/09/2025 10:27

I can’t. Never will be able to. I have to do this way that way and point.

I can do up and down but I can’t do left and right. I don’t get it.

Trying to work out which paw the dog has hurt or which tyre needs fixing is hard!

But there's nothing to get? You can just learn it? It's not a concept. Like others have said, you can use a method to work it out if you need to.

DiscoBob · 07/09/2025 10:43

Not immediately no. I'm left handed and my mum is the same, but worse. She doesn't even get it after a few seconds.

I have to put my left hand in an L shape and say 'L for left' in my head.

I once had this job where I had to use a clicker to count the flow of pedestrians. Obviously I got it totally wrong because the pedestrians were moving from left to right, or vice versa. I was marking the ones coming from the left as left, rather than right.

You can see how confusing it could be right?!

Newrumpus · 07/09/2025 10:43

anappleadaykeeps · 07/09/2025 10:17

I’m not diagnosed myself, but definitely have neurodiverse traits.

I have always struggled with remembering Left vs Right. I used to (and still do) use a range of tricks to try to remember which was which, but still always had to stop to think & check.

Randomly I also always confused the words Green and Orange. I absolutely can tell the difference (so not colour blind), but literally I would find myself saying “Orange” when I was trying to find the word “Green”.

OMG - green and orange - me too.

As in I might be asked, which colour sweet would you like? I’ll say, ‘Green please.’ I’ll get the green one and will be disappointed because I wanted the orange one but when I recall what I said I definitely said green but I meant orange, was thinking orange, looking at the orange one. But the word came out green. It happens so often.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 07/09/2025 10:43

MindytheWonderHorse · 07/09/2025 10:37

Goodness, yes, I couldn’t cope with this at all. I think I’d probably crouch down. (I have a PhD 😭)

I’ve seen similar. 😁 I always go slow and am prepared to stop.

WhereAreMyAirpods · 07/09/2025 10:43

I have struggled with this all my life. I have a great sense of direction and know exactly where I want to go, but giving directions I consciously have to think about whether it is left or right. It doesn't come naturally like knowing whether something is up or down.

I don't think I am neurodiverse, maybe I am, but not to the extend that i've ever thought of being tested. I am not stupid, I have a Masters degree. I also really struggle with those 3D puzzles which show you a shape and ask you to imagine it rotated or with a bit taken away.

Edited to add that I'm left-handed too.

CloseThatDoor · 07/09/2025 10:43

Left and right are instinctive to me - I don't have to think about it.

mugglewump · 07/09/2025 10:42

I cannot do left and right. When navigating I have to say your side/my side as my DH is the same. There is neurodivergence in my family (ADHD, AUDHD and dyslexia) but I do not have a diagnosis. Never had a problem with times tables (neurodivergents have memory issues so I would put this down to that).
I always thought my left/right issue was due to being largely ambidextrous. (I lost the use of my right hand for around 6 months and learnt to write and do everything with my left except spread butter).

LoveRules · 07/09/2025 10:40

My intelligent creative daughter has never been able to tell left from right, learn times tables, read a clock. She is hugely dyslexic so maybe she also has dyscalculia. For ages I wasn’t very kind or sympathetic saying she just needed to sit down and learn left from right once and for all but the ‘L’ trick doesn’t work for her because of dyslexia!!

Trovindia · 07/09/2025 10:39

I'm autistic and have no issues with this, I'm really good at spatial awareness, reading maps, finding my way round places because I can visually picture where I am after a look at a map, same with driving somewhere I know which direction I'm facing and can plot a mental route even if I don't know the area.
I'm ambidextrous.

sleepwouldbenice · 07/09/2025 10:39

Obsesetits · 07/09/2025 10:12

Yes; the left are usually quite normal, emotionally intelligent people.
The right, not so much.

😃